Are Black Men Losing Hope?

[Pdiddy]

Right here is the problem. You’re self-worth and confidence shouldn’t be based on getting puzzy.

I agree, but easier said than done for most guys.

 

[Pdiddy]

dudes holdin hands with chicks in public

What's wrong with that?

 

[philmonroe]

What happened guys? I thought black men ruled the earth? I thought chicks only cared about swag and dikk? Are you guys saying that things like education, economic value, and status are a higher priority to women than dikk and swag. And yall still find a way to blame black women for your downfall, when that is the only group that has our backs. Maybe if you didn't look at every women as a piece of ass, they would be more receptive to you. Women are not dumb. They know when a guy is genuine and when he just wants to fukk. When every women is a bytch/thot to you why would you expect these same bytches/thots to hold you down. Black men are their own worst enemy. Stop being afraid to be different. I got ridiculed for blacks more than other group for listening to stuff like Prince in high school. Black men box themselves in faster than any white man. shyt wont change until black men stop trying to live up to this thug image created in the media. Look at it from another races point of view. Why would you want to be associated with someone who scorns education, being themselves, positivity, ect. The media plays apart, but that is the mindset of many black men.

nikka 2/3 cats made fun of you now you bytching FOH. Most of the other stuff I can agree with.

Right here is the problem. You’re self-worth and confidence shouldn’t be based on getting puzzy. This should be the last thing on your mind. You play into the hands of women by doing so. Puzzy is overrated and men who chase get anywhere in life usually.

Does it even matter if they getting puzzy or not? There are more important things in life to a man. Such as his health, education, finances, family and friends.

Honestly, forget women and focus 100% on yourself and become the best version possible. The rest falls into place. Chasing p*ssy leads to a life of despair whether you are getting it or not.

Yeah I agree with this but honestly for a lot of dudes who don't have much going on in their lives getting p*ssy is like a substitute for all this other stuff when IMO you need them all in moderation to function best.

I asked you? You don't think black women police eachother

Nah not at all. Like others have said its a lot of just co signing and shyt. Not much different from what you see on here at times. People are usually only real when they are mad and they don't give a fukk what you think then you get the real feelings. When not upset and or drunk you get a lot of non truth telling.

This.

I'll tell you what...for a while, posting on the coli...I felt like an outsider looking in.

Y'all got these fancy jobs, getting mad money, f*cking hoes, traveling, living the life...and literally I am doing NONE of that.

Many black men like myself try and many fail. As if only some of us are allowed the enjoy this society while the rest DON'T.

The American dream doesn't even exist for black people in America. No matter how hard some of us can work, the majority of us can only get a glimpse...very few will get the full view.

I don't blame brothers for wanting to give up...shyt's rough out here.

You whine too much and being on here just some enabling shyt. Of course everybody ain't made to make it but it ain't got shyt to do with your color or else all whites and other groups would be balling but they aren't either. They whining too its just their whine boards usually are racist with theirs blaming every other group why they have it so rough. Its almost the same shyt just from different sides. You also might need a better crew offline cause I'm assuming the cats you roll with are just as whiny as you have to be. Its no way if be rolling with a cat on this woe is me shyt all the time. Get it together fam you probably can do big shyt if you stop feeling sorry for yourself.

Nope. It's usually a circle jerk (or clit rub) which turns to bashing some Black man.

For example:

Black woman gets knocked up by known deadbeat. Instead of her friends holding her accountable, they start with the "nikkas ain't shyt" garbage.

Black woman contracts HIV from a nikka known to slang dikk around town. Instead of owning up to her mistake, she blames the man.

The list can go on an on. Black men know when we aren't shyt. We own up to our fukkery and admit we're fukkups. Black women have a hard time doing likewise.

Yeah I agree with all this even though it happens on here also just backwards obviously.

Things could be a LOT better, but I'm not going to get mopey about it

That's not going to accomplish anything

Quoted for truth dudes have to stop whining and shyt sounding like little girls that need daddy's hug. People control a lot of their fate but cats acting like they control nothing. Some are embarrassing the earlier generations that made these current opportunities possible and should be ashamed of themselves.

 

[Flay Mayweather]

I dunno. Im hoping for one.

I'm saying when did black give up hope ?

 

[mamba]

Co-sign...especially the bolded.

Let me tell y'all something...I went through a real hard depression in my life from 2007-2012. The height of which being 2010 where I admitted myself in a Psych ward and stayed there for 8 days. There were more black people in there than anybody else.

After I was released, I was forced to go to group therapy sessions. Other than one other dude, I was the only black dude in there. I remember expressing my feelings to a crowd of white people and they just didn't get it...which made me angry and even more depressed. I just stopped going.

Right now, if you're a black person going through it and want to seek professional help, 9 times out of 10, you're probably going to see a white professional mental health doctor that has 0 knowledge of the black experience...and that doesn't help at all to feel stigmatized, judged, or labeled by someone that's supposed to help you.

I'm glad you're better now, breh. If you're ever down, always reach out to your Coli brethren. We got you.

 

[aboss4real24]

What's wrong with that?

soft simp lame shyt

dont tell me u thinks that shyt is cool

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

This guy is probably feeling don cuz he' getting no action from the ladies

the stock of p*ssy has skyrocketed

I see way too many thirsty guys out here who go over a regular ole Jennifer Hudson pre-weight loss looking chick. It's kinda weird tbh. And I only notice this with Brothas.

Other ethnicities of men, even if they aren't rich, at least have some type of support from their women


Im really just ranting/going on a tangent, but if you're a regular brotha who is average or below-avg looking, with a regular ole job you aint getting no play, no action and no love in 2014 except from your mom and Grandma. Hate to be the bear of bad news

I know a lot of nikkas like to say some generic "yall nikkas need to change your location" "aw, yall just some hoe ass.." blah blah blah, but its real, and this can cause a ton of depression if you don't have anybody to ride along with you. Ladies have their families, their girlfriends, their gay male friends, their simps, etc etc. Staight black men have NOBODY

And these bytches really don't even need men like that. All they need is some side dikk and thats it.

Emotional support??? you'll just get friendzoned. Believe me, Its happened to me a lot in the past


It sucks that the Black Family Unit has been dismantled now. Black people need to be more family oriented man.

All this excessive consumerism and shallowness is disgusting

The solution, all i can say is focus on yourself. Then you'll be too busy to be depressed. Find out how to get rich and ball outta control, but keep God(or whatever higher power you believe in) first.

/rant wow that was longer than i expected...lol

Magnificent post!

I blame the internet, social media, and online dating. Personally. Pos rep pending.

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

I wouldn't say everyone is losing hope based on sentiments expressed by one guy, but I'm sure there are many more Black men, and women, who feel the same way he does. Like others have said, in the Black community, it's frowned upon to admit that you may be suffering from a mental illness. Leaving out the role of the system out for a moment, another big problem is that we as Black people, generally, have poor support systems. Fall on hard times and need cash? Tough luck. Whereas, say a White person, can ask parents or other relatives. The same applies to emotional support: it's either don't admit you have mental illness or if you do, you get told to "get over it," more or less.

That's society's motto towards black people..."GET OVER IT"....

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Brothas are paranoid.

 

[Pdiddy]

soft simp lame shyt

dont tell me u thinks that shyt is cool

nikka get real. Thinking a dude is a simp just because he gives his woman a sense of security A simp is someone who bends over backwards for a woman. You got the game twisted.

 

[mamba]

Yeah I agree with all this even though it happens on here also just backwards obviously.

Most of the time, a man who's a general fukkup has no problem admitting as much. Even if he doesn't admit it, other men will call him out on it. Women, on the other hand, will rarely get called out by other women. I remember when that Black woman was on the news with her 15 kids cooped up in a Motel 6, talkin' bout "somebody needs to help her feed her kids." Or that other Black chick who left her tribe of kids in a Motel 6 so she could go down to Miami and party. Black women, in general, weren't using their voices to question their choices.

But, when a nikka is in the news for having 15 children, the whole community shyts on him to no end. Black men get checked by the Black community as a whole, the cac community, etc. Black women tend to get a pass aside from random nikkas on Youtube and the occasional hit piece in cac media.

 

[mr.africa]

The system is set up for the black man to fail and many do

i agree with this,
but not getting p*ssy is the reason for being depressed is bullshyt.
there has been something wrong with you way before your lack of p*ssy.
gotta learn to love yourself/make yourself happy - no fappening!!!

What you base your happiness around material, women, and large paper
That means you inferior, not major

NAS - NO IDEA'S ORIGINAL

 

[philmonroe]

Most of the time, a man who's a general fukkup has no problem admitting as much. Even if he doesn't admit it, other men will call him out on it. Women, on the other hand, will rarely get called out by other women. I remember when that Black woman was on the news with her 15 kids cooped up in a Motel 6, talkin' bout "somebody needs to help her feed her kids." Or that other Black chick who left her tribe of kids in a Motel 6 so she could go down to Miami and party. Black women, in general, weren't using their voices to question their choices.

But, when a nikka is in the news for having 15 children, the whole community shyts on him to no end. Black men get checked by the Black community as a whole, the cac community, etc. Black women tend to get a pass aside from random nikkas on Youtube and the occasional hit piece in cac media.

You are right dudes will more often do exactly what you said than the avg chick cause I do it with my friends male/female. Women in general get a pass by people for one reason or another I don't even pay much attention to it that's one of them things that's not changing.

 

[Spin]

I don't know how to say this any other way but blacks needs to stop worrying what the hell other people think about us. Get money and find something to do with your time. Truth be told, everyone is being sold a dream. Yes the odds might be stacked in the favor of those in a certain category, but believe me most of those people are also lazy. They're so used to getting what they want, they have no ambition.

I say this over and over, but black people especially must constantly be networking. The day you feel attached to your job you are already a slave. So what if someone fires you, if you're networking constantly you can have other stuff lined up in no time. One thing I have noticed with some asians is they get their money and go back and spend money in their own community. They might work in the same jobs as whites and other groups, but there is no question they bring the money back into the family. There are definitely differences between black and asian communities, but the principle of bringing the money back into the community stands.

As an example of worrying about other people, take the Dr Dre beats situation. I didn't find it very mature for him and Tyrese to make that youtube video of them celebrating. Did you see Jimmy Iovine making videos on Youtube talking about how much he made? It seems even when someone does extremely well in our community, we still crave for some type of acceptance or attention. Why the hell do you care what anyone is thinking about you if you're making more than 99% of the population? In fact, I wouldn't say a damn thing because all you're going to attract is leeches.

Developing your social skills it's the number 1 skill there is. I'm not talking about being able to crack jokes with people you already know or grew up with. Building confidence speaking to people you don't know and from different backgrounds is how you're going to grow in life. You don't know everything and you never will. The world is bigger than our little day to day perception of what is. Get out there and explore. The more time you're out there experiencing new things the less time you have to sob in depression.

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

feminism is killing black men slowly

This is the only thing I can co-sign you on.

Feminism is very anti-black male....VERY~!