Are Single Men "SETTLING" when getting in relationships with Single Mothers?

[Shadow King]

My ex was a single father and I didn't think I was settling. But, it was a lot to deal with. It's not something I would sign up for again.

Did he have primary custody of the child?

 

[xoxodede]

Did he have primary custody of the child?

Co-parent. They shared custody. He had her 3-4 days per week and every other weekend.

 

[QuintessentialBM]

Just because he doesn’t have kids, it’s not settling because often times he doesn’t have a job, a house or shyt else. That’s why some single mothers “shame”. You’re not going to diss me for being a single mom when you cash checks at the liquor store.

LMAO....... Well , I can't relate because.....

I work for my local Goodyear Tire & Rubber Co plant making a little more than $27/hr with all the overtime I want... It's actually pretty common for people there raking in 100k before taxes(which I do). With a company like Goodyear, a Fortune 100, corporation, direct deposit is MANDATORY. My job (because a average joe cannot explain the tire making process) is Banbury Operator which is responsible for mixing chemical compounds(Carbon black base)and recycling used tread using a "recipe" to produce the base compound to make tire tread.

This job pays me more than enough to make a comfortable living wage in my state to afford a recently built house and a 2017 automobile, a motorcycle, have both a 401k and Roth IRA retirement accounts maxed out and still have enough money to fukk off if I shall please. With my disposable income, I go to soccer matches and college football games, which I've posted in various Coliseum threads(the receipts are there).

Single and childless as well.

and you just proved my point.... and wonder why most black men(not all) aren't fukking with these bitter bytches.

 

[Rawtid]

LMAO....... Well , I can't relate because.....

I work for my local Goodyear Tire & Rubber Co plant making a little more than $27/hr with all the overtime I want... It's actually pretty common for people there raking in 100k before taxes(which I do). With a company like Goodyear, a Fortune 100, corporation, direct deposit is MANDATORY. My job (because a average joe cannot explain the tire making process) is Banbury Operator which is responsible for mixing chemical compounds(Carbon black base)and recycling used tread using a "recipe" to produce the base compound to make tire tread.

This job pays me more than enough to make a comfortable living wage in my state to afford a recently built house and a 2017 automobile, a motorcycle, have both a 401k and Roth IRA retirement accounts maxed out and still have enough money to fukk off if I shall please. With my disposable income, I go to soccer matches and college football games, which I've posted in various Coliseum threads(the receipts are there).

Single and childless as well.

and you just proved my point.... and wonder why most black men(not all) aren't fukking with these bitter bytches.

Awww good for you and bless your heart, but we both know I wasn't speaking directly to you. The point was just because a guy doesn't have kids, doesn't make him a good catch. Certainly not enough to say they are "settling".

 

[kaldurahm]

Depends on the man and the mother, but most times no. Single mothers are normally more stable with income and housing and a good number of men are not bringing that to the table. In most cases, they are "saving" each other. Single mom providing a stable household and dude may make finances and just general taking care of kids lighter. Very rare does a man with all his shyt together seek out a single mother, it's normally some nikka one bad decision away from being a total and complete piece of shyt.

It's funny because I have a cousin that fits this scenario and his brother the exact opposite(had his shyt together)

Most single mothers don’t want their sons dating single mothers so your argument falls flat anyway You think Grandmom Johnson wants to come pick up all them hoes kids when she babysitting? Nah. She worried about and only wanna see her own grandchildren. If I told my grandmom or my mom the girl I was seeing had 2-3 kids they would hate her off jump.

word, my parents are married but told me straight up, "don't bring a woman with a child into my house. I don't even want to meet her"

Can't get it past traditional Africans

 

[Cynic]

Depends on your options ....

I would never entertain it unless the father died in a car crash or something like that.