Are Single Men "SETTLING" when getting in relationships with Single Mothers?

[MaxPain]

Hell nah but I do commend dudes who take on that responsibility. A child can’t have enough positive male influences in their lives

And thats how I feel, I hope it works out but most times it dont (from my experience)...


An intact family is very important...

 

[BmoreGorilla]

Fair enough, my hesitancy has always been around the “other guy”. I can never not think about it and these questions start running in my head

-How would this kid father feel if I disciplined her/him?

-Should I take them in a vacation, how would he feel?

-Would if mom and dad want to get back together and create a whole family again?


* That’s why I say it’s settling if you can avoid those issues.

If the father has an issue with the new dude than it’s usually the new dude ain’t shyt or he’s bitter and wants his kid’s mother back

 

[GodinDaFlesh]

Yes, if you had the opportunity you would rather have her without the kids.

 

[Wildhundreds]

In short yes. You gonna repeat anymore of my post.

How she got them kids? That's what I'm trying to find out myself.

Its a lot of reasons

Most single mothers don’t want their sons dating single mothers so your argument falls flat anyway You think Grandmom Johnson wants to come pick up all them hoes kids when she babysitting? Nah. She worried about and only wanna see her own grandchildren. If I told my grandmom or my mom the girl I was seeing had 2-3 kids they would hate her off jump.

Thats you though.

A nice amount of dudes moms don't care what their sons do.

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

Women are garbage?

Because they're single and have kids?

How did she have these kids?

Doing too much..though I don't intend to date a single mom, I do give them props for at least being there for there kids. Some niccas just bail and never see their children. That shyt is down right pathetic!

 

[Neuromancer]

Are single women settling when getting into relationships with single fathers?

Yes.

 

[Neuromancer]

Yes they are and vice versa

 

[Phitz]

I have no problem with single moms.... in the future they will save str8 men from trannies lol

 

[Rawtid]

I guess I'll shut this down. It depends......

It's settling when the male doesn't have children of his own..... however, if that's what he wants to do, then who are we to judge?

I find it funny that childless black men get shamed and character assassinated when we do want to date single mothers when that shyt isn't allowed or tolerated in any other community. A lot of the shaming is coming from broken black women and the people in their families. Nuclear black families don't have as much to say.

Just because he doesn’t have kids, it’s not settling because often times he doesn’t have a job, a house or shyt else. That’s why some single mothers “shame”. You’re not going to diss me for being a single mom when you cash checks at the liquor store.

 

[Phitz]

I dont see anything wrong if a guy doesn't want to date a woman with kids. I think people need to stop shaming period. Both parties eventually find partners....and break up and find new partners....rinse and repeat lol

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

Yes, absolutely

 

[Reno89]

Im trying to understand how b*stard kids hate single mothers.

Nobody said anything about hate. Secondly, no matter how anyone feels about children, single mothers will never be as desirable as single women.

I call it settling, because I don't believe that most men would choose a single mom over a woman with no kids. Unless she makes a lot of money, or brings something to the table that immediately benefits him, he is with her because he feels like that's the best he can do at the moment

 

[SuperNintendo Chalmers]

What a dumb ass thread



So any nikkas that get with ya single parent ass mothers is settling for her?

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

If the father has an issue with the new dude than it’s usually the new dude ain’t shyt or he’s bitter and wants his kid’s mother back

Your experience is deeper than mine so I’ll take that into account; However, I’ve seen men get insanely jealous when you step around their kids.

 

[Hungerpain]

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