Are "socially awkward" people less respected than "normal" folks

[Frump]

The thing about being autistic is that unless you are a severe case, you don't necessarily walk around with a badge that says "Hi, I'm autistic". In most cases, you will just look either rude, weird or otherwise.

I make it a point to disclose my autism whenever I am wary of doing some weird shyt from time to time, but generally what I have done as an individual - and what I feel others should encourage in autistic people who struggle with socializing - is work on it. If it is clear that one is trying, then obviously one should be encouraged and respected a hell of a lot. It is not easy to read social cues when it is not as innate in you as it is in others. Most of the time, autistic people are actually more pleasant than given credit for, having met other people with the condition. So IMO, awkwardness doesn't equate to rudeness in that case, and it is likely that one wouldn't elicit ridicule or disrespect for simple awkwardness.

For one, if someone doesn't understand particular social cues like body language or spatial awareness, but is otherwise noticeably well-meaning and polite verbally, it can be mitigated.

Can you give an example of a situation with body language you might not get?

 

[PlainSight]

Can you give an example of a situation with body language you might not get?

To be fair, this is something I've worked on a LOT so I rarely encounter too many issues with body language. Perhaps the most difficulty I get with body language nowadays is in romantic scenarios - I'm not great at picking up hints of interest from women, I always interpret them as friendly rather than attraction. This ranges from prolonged eye contact to being in close proximity for no apparent reason other than to be there. I've missed so many cues in that area .

It's usually only with analysis afterwards (usually like days later) that I'm like .

For someone who is a slightly more severe case than me, they may find it difficult to read things like confrontational body language, they may have a poor understanding of boundaries and invade someone's personal space, or understand the correct response to someone who is emotional in some way.

 

[Hope]

First thing that came my mind was that saying "We lie to ourselves all the time". 90 percent of people are shaky, insecure, frightened people, some hide it better than others. Very few people do enough work on themselves get over various various issues causing social conflicts.

People are who they are

Socially Awkward aside...I've learned over time that I've never met a "normal" person... everyone has issues & problems & something about them that makes you look at them like they're unusual if you bring up the right subjects. Then you have the people who "act" normal to appear normal & don't realize everyone is crazy...

Some of the most Social people have the most issues...

i mean, i don't always agree with that give respect to receive it. It's not that simple. At least for me i experienced it differently. I have my issues myself.

 

[ThaRealness]

Possibly?

As a next level socially awkward person, I don't give a fukk. I value nothing more then self respect, and no one can take that from me

 

[Frump]

To be fair, this is something I've worked on a LOT so I rarely encounter too many issues with body language. Perhaps the most difficulty I get with body language nowadays is in romantic scenarios - I'm not great at picking up hints of interest from women, I always interpret them as friendly rather than attraction. This ranges from prolonged eye contact to being in close proximity for no apparent reason other than to be there. I've missed so many cues in that area .

It's usually only with analysis afterwards (usually like days later) that I'm like .

For someone who is a slightly more severe case than me, they may find it difficult to read things like confrontational body language, they may have a poor understanding of boundaries and invade someone's personal space, or understand the correct response to someone who is emotional in some way.

Gotcha. The not being able to read women thing I know plenty of dudes with those troubles and there not autistic lol

That's why I'm always curious about autism because when people with it tell me signs they have I know plenty of people with similar things that aren't autistic.

 

[ThaRealness]

Lotta hate in this thread though. If you paint with broad brushstrokes, you probably on some basic shyt and can't think for yourself

 

[NoirDynosaur]

bump

 

[africngiant]

This sounds like a Donald Trump rally. Straight up hatred. There are plenty of well behaved people that are "off" socially and are introverted. It doesn't mean that they less than human.