Are "socially awkward" people less respected than "normal" folks

[Neil Tyson]

Socially Awkward aside...I've learned over time that I've never met a "normal" person... everyone has issues & problems & something about them that makes you look at them like they're unusual if you bring up the right subjects. Then you have the people who "act" normal to appear normal & don't realize everyone is crazy...

Some of the most Social people have the most issues...

Imagine trying to do this and realize there was nothing actually wrong with you.

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

They are less respected in some cases and no they don't deserve to be disrespected if they want to improve and want to overcome their social challenges.

There's arrogant/delusional people that are socially awkward and socially awkward people that had a strange upbringing or just struggle with anxiety. Threads like these expose why a lot of people that want to change their socializing issue don't look to others for help. It's like society always says to express yourself and look to others for help yet this is what's waiting for people when they do. Labels and negativity.

 

[PlainSight]

Respect for them depends on the setting/demographic. In heavily social settings, not really.

But socially awkward really encompasses a wide variety of behaviors, and I think most people think of social awkwardness as a kind of rudeness. Like the self-diagnosed "aspie" who is an a$$hole to everyone then says he can't help it because Aspergers. This, of course, is bullshyt

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

Imagine trying to do this and realize there was nothing actually wrong with you.

lmao, that'd be terrible. you'd have to laugh to keep from crying

 

[Vandelay]

Socially Awkward aside...I've learned over time that I've never met a "normal" person... everyone has issues & problems & something about them that makes you look at them like they're unusual if you bring up the right subjects. Then you have the people who "act" normal to appear normal & don't realize everyone is crazy...

Some of the most Social people have the most issues...

Great post. Made change what I initially was going to post.

"Social Awkwardness" from what I've seen comes from either someone not having confidence in their social interactions or it's when someone hasn't adjusted to Society's norms and acts in a way that is antithetical to those norms.

Chances are they aren't respected the same...should they be...yes and no. Everyone should be equally respected, but at the same time people should have a relative confidence in how they carry themselves too.

 

[Neuromancer]

I dont like this statement at all. You feel people are entitled to mass murder the innocent if they arent accepted well enough to their liking? The fukk is your problem?

At any rate, I think you're having trouble generating good answers because your question of "social awkwardness" is way too broad. How does this 'awkwardness", as you say, demonstrate itself in social situations? You need to sharpen the definition here.

I'll try to tackle your general question of "social awkwardness" from this angle: I think its usually an excuse to act rude or condescending to people in social situations, and harbor an accompanying sense of narcissism to not feel inclined to self-improve or do anything about it. Its like you're saying "well if they dont like how I am thats THEIR problem. Im perfect".

The average person isnt armed with a PHD in psychology, so if someone they dont know behaves abnormally in a social encounter its going to be hard for that person to interpret your personality positively. They will probably assume you are an a-hole and being disrespectful on purpose. Perhaps they're right. Communication is central to our understanding of the world. If you cant do it effectively, you're gunna have issues of course.

What if the person had autism?

 

[iFightSeagullsForBread]

I think the celebitory Socially Awkward and Introverted Zealots need to fukking get over themselves.

Your vapid thoughts and banal, cookie cutter societal observations are not as groundbreaking as you think they are.

Speak when spoken to and you'll go where you wanna be socially.

If not, hey wait a few years for VR technology and you'll be able to stroke your own ego within the confines of simulated reality.

 

[Neuromancer]

I think the celebitory Socially Awkward and Introverted Zealots need to fukking get over themselves.

Your vapid thoughts and banal, cookie cutter societal observations are not as groundbreaking as you think they are.

Speak when spoken to and you'll go where you wanna be socially.

If not, hey wait a few years for VR technology and you'll be able to stroke your own ego within the confines of simulated reality.

What about those with autism?

 

[PlainSight]

What if the person had autism?

What about those with autism?

The thing about being autistic is that unless you are a severe case, you don't necessarily walk around with a badge that says "Hi, I'm autistic". In most cases, you will just look either rude, weird or otherwise.

I make it a point to disclose my autism whenever I am wary of doing some weird shyt from time to time, but generally what I have done as an individual - and what I feel others should encourage in autistic people who struggle with socializing - is work on it. If it is clear that one is trying, then obviously one should be encouraged and respected a hell of a lot. It is not easy to read social cues when it is not as innate in you as it is in others. Most of the time, autistic people are actually more pleasant than given credit for, having met other people with the condition. So IMO, awkwardness doesn't equate to rudeness in that case, and it is likely that one wouldn't elicit ridicule or disrespect for simple awkwardness.

For one, if someone doesn't understand particular social cues like body language or spatial awareness, but is otherwise noticeably well-meaning and polite verbally, it can be mitigated.

 

[Audemar]

It's like society always says to express yourself and look to others for help yet this is what's waiting for people when they do.

"Just be confident and be yourself." But if being yourself means you can't act "normally," then don't. That's really what it means.

 

[blockburna420]

What do you mean fukk ups?

Only time i come across them is class or work

 

[Neuromancer]

Only time i come across them is class or work

Define, " fukk up."

 

[blockburna420]

Define, " fukk up."

Damn nikka ... fukk up is not good at what ur doing

 

[samtalksradio]

I'm what you would call "socially awkward" and I don't give a shyt about people in general. so why would I care if people who are more social respect me? I prefer to be alone, my business if people don't respect me, oh well don't care.

 

[Neuromancer]

Damn nikka ... fukk up is not good at what ur doing

And the majority of fukk ups you find are socially awkward?