Are there any other men who just flat out have NO interest in getting married?

[Amphibious]

When you get older, and you see all your friends settling down into marriage, children, family and you start to feel like something is missing from your life and change.



You aren't alone in this.


Lots of men feel this way about marriage, until what I posted above happens.


Good Luck.

Since when did others getting married (and later divorced and financially rape [for the men]) have to do with someone wanting to get married? If someone goes and buys a gun I don't want a gun cause he bought it

 

[AtomicUse]

What you want me to say about a dude that will call you after you text him to tell him Curry is killing it, I'm from Harlem we don't do that

Dude was with a chick years, ended badly and since then he's been the road warrior.

He must've been sharing, while doing all of the caring.

Damn.

I got homeboys that do the phone call after the text too though, I never saw the big deal.

But I'm not from Harlem b.

 

[Rawtid]

Although I'm a female, I agree with your perspective. The thought of living with someone causes me a great deal of anxiety. I don't like "dating" either in the traditional sense. I mean we can spend time together without having to go to a bunch of formal events. I do believe marriage is important but I think it's a huge adujustment and sacrifice and I just don't see it getting to that level with any guy.

 

[My neck and my back]

i just don't see any true enticing benefit for me to get married then when you factor in the risk with these marital laws it's a double negative

if i get lonely i can always get a girlfriend

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

Since when did others getting married (and later divorced and financially rape [for the men]) have to do with someone wanting to get married? If someone goes and buys a gun I don't want a gun cause he bought it

Your opinion is valid, but I have seen this.



Picture yourself single, in your 40s, no kids, still in the club with Jordan's on.


Meanwhile, all your friends are married, going on family vacations, wives are friends with each other, have problems (just like you still will) but different type of things you can't relate to.


For a lot of men, it is life changing.

Kevin Hart discussed this at Madison square garden. Being single is cool when your young and everyone else is single.


But when all your friends have families, and are having family day you will feel it. I've seen it.


But then again marriage isn't for everyone.


But a lot of men settle down when they are old, tired, as their is nothing else to do.


Single life gets played out.

 

[Akata Man Bromo]

Welcome to #GMB

 

[Buggsy Mogues]

Meanwhile, all your friends are married, going on family vacations, wives are friends with each other, have problems (just like you still will) but different type of things you can't relate to.

But what if I don't want that right now? Am I supposed to sacrifice my happiness now because I may want those things sometime in the future? That's like asking me to extend my contract with a shytty team in my prime years, just based off the hope that they might put enough talent around me before my career is over

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

Fam, there are women out there writing dudes in prison letters, there's a woman out there that will accept you.

@Smoke

Keep faith breh

 

[AtomicUse]

This bs about being in the club as an old man is a scare tactic that's horseshyt.

A 40 year old man about his business doesn't need to go to the club to get women. I'm not even 30 and I don't have To go to the club to get women if I don't want to, and on top of all that, if I was about that "fukking married women" life my plate would be overflowing.

People trying to shame you into getting the soul sucked out of you by some succubus, just because you see them in a family photo they got forced to smile in by a wife that's fukking her coworkers behind their backs.

fukk outta here.

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

But what if I don't want that right now? Am I supposed to sacrifice my happiness now because I may want those things sometime in the future? That's like asking me to extend my contract with a shytty team in my prime years, just based off the hope that they might put enough talent around me before my career is over

No.


Do it when the time is right. But just because you feel strongly that you don't want to today, does not mean you will feel the same way this time next year. (Yes, your feelings can change that fast. See Eddie Murphys character in Boomerang)


I have seen the biggest players regret letting someone get away, or desperately want to be married, but their pickings are slim because they are washed up.


What I am saying to you is...


Keep yourself right. If you stay attractive, got good credit, nice career, your own shyt.... When you're in your late 30s-40s, you can have ANY WOMAN YOU WANT!





Because 9 times out of 10 you WILL eventually want to settle down.

Preserving yourself is the difference between having to settle for "Precious" -vs- getting "Kerry Washington".

Get it?



Don't assume your 20 year old thoughts will be you 40-50 year old thoughts.

 

[Soundwave]

As far as I've seen, getting women isn't a problem for him and they're all 7-10 years younger than him. Staying with one longer than 3 months does seem to be a problem, son had a long term relationship end badly and been on that life since. He always traveling which makes me jealous, word to the dastardly @Soundwave (fukk you buddy) but like I said there are times where it's obvious dude is lonely.

 

[bcrusaderw]

Just tell the women you are involved with this, and you're good to go.

 

[Malta]

 

[42 Monks]

Your opinion is valid, but I have seen this.



Picture yourself single, in your 40s, no kids, still in the club with Jordan's on.


Meanwhile, all your friends are married, going on family vacations, wives are friends with each other, have problems (just like you still will) but different type of things you can't relate to.


For a lot of men, it is life changing.

Kevin Hart discussed this at Madison square garden. Being single is cool when your young and everyone else is single.


But when all your friends have families, and are having family day you will feel it. I've seen it.


But then again marriage isn't for everyone.


But a lot of men settle down when they are old, tired, as their is nothing else to do.


Single life gets played out.

Not every guy who's 40 and single is in the club with Jordan's on

Marriage ain't for everyone. Its worse when people try to force it on themselves to fit some sort of narrative or fill some expectations checklist. IMO

IMO

The whole point of life is to be able to be happy, live comfortably, and understand yourself better than anyone else. Your Happiness > someone else's happiness, that's fact and truth. If you feel confident that someone else is on the same wavelength and along for the ride for a time or the long haul, cool. It shouldn't be a conscious, out of the way effort to make another person happy either. That's work you can be devoting to bettering yourself (not saying people don't need a good push every now and then but it has to be a push in the same direction, knowing they'll push you with every good intention when the time comes - not dragging someone along since they don't want the progress you want). But nobody can make you happy and nobody can be happy for you. Marriage of all things isn't a real answer. Its a title assigned to what very few can celebrate as success. Just because you claim that title doesn't mean that it has any real significance when compared to what its supposed to mean.

I wouldn't even call getting married at a much older age 'settling down' tbh. At that point you should've seen everything you've wanted to see and those whom you consider like-minded would seem infinitely more valuable at that point in your life. I'm only 27 and my definition of a good friend has changed dramatically over the years I remember when I valued loyalty more than anything else, now I feel naked when I don't surround myself with people who aren't afraid to tell me when I'm wrong.

 

[Miggs]

1. The world is filled with divorced men in their 40s and 50s

2. Many love their new freedom

3. Loneliness is a state of mind

4. No matter your age there will always be single women

Word to all this....Im in my 30s i have a girl,i have some side action,i have cousins,brothers and sisters...I love having my own place...and my alone time.
My girl knows this she also knows i can step out on her at anytime if she try to be that bytch whos trying to make life unenjoyable for me...

Im not against or for marriage,i dont see it for me right now,im not completely against it,im not against that my mind can still be swayed on it...I just enjoy my life right now and the freedoms in it...

Dudes that say they hate being alone at this age are the same dudes that will be wishing they had there space when they broad is up under they collar 24/7....You can be 50 not married and not be lonely...