Are there benefits of having strict parents?

[The Fade]

MJ is an extreme

Parents need to be strict with grades and condition kids accordingly with activities via socialization

Black kids need the tools and mental weapons to fight in this world

 

[Unknown Poster]

I Remember when I was younger I used to feel kind of a way about my parents being so strict but I realized they were just looking out for me.

I talk to them regularly and will always appreciate what they did for us as siblings.

 

[Unknown Poster]

you end up having to live up to an image that’s established by your high discipline, academic success, and family legacy but if you burnout or start fukking up then you feel like the world is crashing and get mad anxiety still trying to keep up the facade of people’s prior perception of you.

you also may become more prone to being easily influenced by others and if you get in trouble or taken advantage of dealing with the wrong people, you may start to build some resentment for not being raised to more socially aware/tactful

Yea...this sounds like living under an African/West Indian parentship/dictatorship.

They didn't like me skateboarding cause they thought it wasn't serious nor did they like me doing music. They thought it wasn't conducive to my studies. They wanted me and the kids in our family to be doctors. None of us did.

We just wanted to just be young and live it up like young Americans do.

 

[africngiant]

Yea...this sounds like living under an African/West Indian parentship/dictatorship.

They didn't like me skateboarding cause they thought it wasn't serious nor did they like me doing music. They thought it wasn't hey conducive to my studies. They wanted me and the kids in our family to be doctors. None of us did.

We just wanted to just be young and live it up like young Americans do.

facts breh i love my parents to death but i had to fukk up mad times before i finally understood that they were trying to do for me by keeping me on the right path. i feel like i lost part of my individuality, self esteem, and shame in the process of trying to keep up with the joneses but ultimately they don’t even matter anymore to have been so worried about their validation back then

 

[Fill Collins]

I wouldn't use MJ as an example, but strict to me (as a preteen?) means: bedtimes, mandatory reading time, minimums for report cards, making sure you eat healthy, etc. I'm not including corporal punishment, banning your daughters from doing one thing (while your sons can), etc.

I wish my parents were strict(er) as a kid tbh

Using Michael Jackson as an example

A lot of people think his personality is closer to Katherine but his business acumen,desire to be #1 and discipline all came from Joe and shaped his success.

Is it worth it being strict?

I'd call Joe more abusive than strict, prefacing this by saying: MJ was and is totally innocent regarding any of *those* bs claims in his later life

MJ was a sweet kid with innate talent, he lived a fukked up life any kid shouldn't go through, wealth and fame be damned

Look at how the man passed, he needed some form of help at some point

 

[Black Excellence]

facts. im not trying to be an ungrateful c*nt but it really is a complex issue. when i think about my current life, i fukked up but i somehow still made it ahead of a lot of my peers. me getting in trouble internally reinforced what they were trying to tell me the whole time. i just didn’t see it through at first. it multiplied my discipline and isolation and made me work even harder once i discovered human nature for myself.

if you’re not given guided freedom and practical advice outside of “read your books” you can become a follower of others and chase the wrong things by looking at instant gratification and the fear of missing out

Damn you reading my life lol.

This was me soon as I turned 21 & my pops gave me real freedom. I was left to my own devices & fukked up badly in life. Kept chasing after the turn up, making up for missing out on lost years……but I ended up learning how to just think for myself and it’s okay to be the lone wolf instead of chasing after tribes just so you “fit in”. It’s okay for long term payoffs instead of yolo.

 

[Unknown Poster]

Still some stuff my parents did that really pissed me off.

They threw out my collect cassette tape collection when I was 12.... (replaced it wirh a CD collection that I had to hide from them)

They threw out my Comic Book collection when I was 12...


They threw out my Spawn action figures


When they tried to throw out my Skateboard, thats when I was a teenager (16 years old) and big and strong enough to challenge them, i took it back forcefully out of their hands and they stopped trying to throw my stuff out.

 

[BaggerofTea]

Yes and no,

Balance is critical but a child needs discipline and rigor in their life.

 

[old pig]

depends on the definition of strict which can extend well beyond just “simply” establishing/enforcing rules, guidelines, etc.

 

[Roger king]

The bible says spare the rod and spoil the child. Parents need to be strict and firm and instill discipline and core values on children . The first teaching a child gets is from the home , you don't have to be mean or abusive to be strict and enstill discipline on children