Are virgins really just people with low libidos?

[DreadBrown]

I’m a virgin and losing it is on my mind at an hourly basis so I guess I have a high libido if I’m always thinking about it, but I still wouldn’t pay for a prostitute or lose it to an overweight woman. We all have some kind of standard.

People pay good money for overweight prostitutes everyday my g

I do, and I’ve checked the escort sites but prostitutes are nasty. Even the pretty ones who are just average looking. I think even a single mother would be more dignifying to lose your v card to, not that I’d touch one either.

Where you get these standards if you a virgin tho brother?

 

[Complexion]

I’m a virgin and losing it is on my mind at an hourly basis so I guess I have a high libido if I’m always thinking about it, but I still wouldn’t pay for a prostitute or lose it to an overweight woman. We all have some kind of standard.

What is stopping you? Have you had interest/offers from women? Whats the closest you've ever got to intimacy previously and why didn't you seal the deal? Would you say your tastes in porn are vanilla or more perverse? What is your attitude toward sex and why do you think like that?

Can we talk more about this

Most of the info out there is total crap but in a nutshell it goes like this:

You need to remove the tension patterns in your body and that allows your energies to start flowing again naturally.

Its quite an involved process and not something you can just imagine into action because those patterns were accumulated over the mis-education of a life time so they shift just as slow. Trying it too quick made a friend of mine flip his lid so I'm more cautious with it these days because not everyone can handle the voltage and, as I discovered, all of our systems/wiring are totally different due to things like genes, past lives, current intent etc..

This is why children are overflowing with creativity and also are totally flexible. Rigid thoughts = Rigid body = Limited decoding of reality = Orgasms akin to a genital sneeze instead of a full body release. Thats what an orgasm is, you know? A way for the body to release tension and bring our mind-body into a state of equilibrium.

Are you basing this off something you've read or is this just your opinion/theory? (Not that I disagree)

Both. Its my own life experience and observation of others that vibrate on a higher frequency and have contributed to humanity. As far as I can tell there are only 4 basic types of human drives that define everyones lives:

Get laid. Get paid. Make the world a better place or escape.

Obviously this is configured like a pyramid with the vast majority of the population being in the first two categories as that is their range for this spin of the Game of Souls. A step above and we see a heck of a lot less people but these folks are genuine humanitarians but often don't care about the lower state as its their higher frequency embodiment that makes them do what they do. The latter is rarer still and it aims at nothing less than total transcendence and in a sense encompasses all of the previous as they've been reincarnated so many times that they start to see through the cheap tricks that make "reality" what it is. To them the Game is a distraction from Self realization hence the old images of a hermit living in a cave, totally disconnected from society or the old school warrior/sage.

These kinds of things shift depending upon what level we're playing. Case in point during the Golden Age the sexual hedonist was rare and seen as base due to everyone knowing the interplay of yin/yang woman/man is what you use to braid the wave to reach a higher state of awareness and thats why I call sex Spiritual Exchange because that is exactly what it is ergo one should be discerning.

 

[Dance_Like_A_Fiend]

What is stopping you? Have you had interest/offers from women? Whats the closest you've ever got to intimacy previously and why didn't you seal the deal? Would you say your tastes in porn are vanilla or more perverse? What is your attitude toward sex and why do you think like that?
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I have no doubt I could get some below average looking girl because I’m below average myself. I have high standards though and I’m trying to work on myself a bit (better job, getting fit, more hobbies etc) so I can date whoever I please.

I actually met this girl last month when I was on a vacation. Way out of my league so I was surprised. There were some activities in the hotel she wanted to do with me but I couldn’t break away from my family. I ended up getting her Instagram at the end of the trip, but I’m not interesting and I can feel her interest in me waning.

I’ve never had much action, I never actually go out unless I have to.

I don’t watch that much porn anymore, but when I did it was vanilla. Really vanilla.

My attitude toward sex is weird. With the way I talk about it and how bad I want it to happen you would assume I’d be some degenerate willing to throw his v card away to anyone willing to take it, but I just want to lose it to someone above average looking and I’m willing to wait until I get the chance.

Where you get these standards if you a virgin tho brother?

I’m sure I could get laid if I lowered my standards a bit and actively tried to seek out women. I think I’m doing this all by choice. Like I want to lose it, but I want to lose it to dimes, and I know I need to improve myself to do that which is what I’m doing right now.

 

[humminbird]

What is stopping you? Have you had interest/offers from women? Whats the closest you've ever got to intimacy previously and why didn't you seal the deal? Would you say your tastes in porn are vanilla or more perverse? What is your attitude toward sex and why do you think like that?



Most of the info out there is total crap but in a nutshell it goes like this:

You need to remove the tension patterns in your body and that allows your energies to start flowing again naturally.

Its quite an involved process and not something you can just imagine into action because those patterns were accumulated over the mis-education of a life time so they shift just as slow. Trying it too quick made a friend of mine flip his lid so I'm more cautious with it these days because not everyone can handle the voltage and, as I discovered, all of our systems/wiring are totally different due to things like genes, past lives, current intent etc..

This is why children are overflowing with creativity and also are totally flexible. Rigid thoughts = Rigid body = Limited decoding of reality = Orgasms akin to a genital sneeze instead of a full body release. Thats what an orgasm is, you know? A way for the body to release tension and bring our mind-body into a state of equilibrium.



Both. Its my own life experience and observation of others that vibrate on a higher frequency and have contributed to humanity. As far as I can tell there are only 4 basic types of human drives that define everyones lives:

Get laid. Get paid. Make the world a better place or escape.

Obviously this is configured like a pyramid with the vast majority of the population being in the first two categories as that is their range for this spin of the Game of Souls. A step above and we see a heck of a lot less people but these folks are genuine humanitarians but often don't care about the lower state as its their higher frequency embodiment that makes them do what they do. The latter is rarer still and it aims at nothing less than total transcendence and in a sense encompasses all of the previous as they've been reincarnated so many times that they start to see through the cheap tricks that make "reality" what it is. To them the Game is a distraction from Self realization hence the old images of a hermit living in a cave, totally disconnected from society or the old school warrior/sage.

These kinds of things shift depending upon what level we're playing. Case in point during the Golden Age the sexual hedonist was rare and seen as base due to everyone knowing the interplay of yin/yang woman/man is what you use to braid the wave to reach a higher state of awareness and thats why I call sex Spiritual Exchange because that is exactly what it is ergo one should be discerning.

So do I start mediating to get these blockers out or something else

 

[DreadBrown]

I have no doubt I could get some below average looking girl because I’m below average myself. I have high standards though and I’m trying to work on myself a bit (better job, getting fit, more hobbies etc) so I can date whoever I please.

I actually met this girl last month when I was on a vacation. Way out of my league so I was surprised. There were some activities in the hotel she wanted to do with me but I couldn’t break away from my family. I ended up getting her Instagram at the end of the trip, but I’m not interesting and I can feel her interest in me waning.

I’ve never had much action, I never actually go out unless I have to.

I don’t watch that much porn anymore, but when I did it was vanilla. Really vanilla.

My attitude toward sex is weird. With the way I talk about it and how bad I want it to happen you would assume I’d be some degenerate willing to throw his v card away to anyone willing to take it, but I just want to lose it to someone above average looking and I’m willing to wait until I get the chance.


I’m sure I could get laid if I lowered my standards a bit and actively tried to seek out women. I think I’m doing this all by choice. Like I want to lose it, but I want to lose it to dimes, and I know I need to improve myself to do that which is what I’m doing right now.

Life’s too short bro you’re going to regret this

 

[Complexion]

I have no doubt I could get some below average looking girl because I’m below average myself. I have high standards though and I’m trying to work on myself a bit (better job, getting fit, more hobbies etc) so I can date whoever I please.

I actually met this girl last month when I was on a vacation. Way out of my league so I was surprised. There were some activities in the hotel she wanted to do with me but I couldn’t break away from my family. I ended up getting her Instagram at the end of the trip, but I’m not interesting and I can feel her interest in me waning.

I’ve never had much action, I never actually go out unless I have to.

I don’t watch that much porn anymore, but when I did it was vanilla. Really vanilla.

My attitude toward sex is weird. With the way I talk about it and how bad I want it to happen you would assume I’d be some degenerate willing to throw his v card away to anyone willing to take it, but I just want to lose it to someone above average looking and I’m willing to wait until I get the chance.


I’m sure I could get laid if I lowered my standards a bit and actively tried to seek out women. I think I’m doing this all by choice. Like I want to lose it, but I want to lose it to dimes, and I know I need to improve myself to do that which is what I’m doing right now.

Take some time to examine the mind set your family instilled about sex as you've got a very ambivalent attitude. If I had to guess I'd say one of your parents was sex negative whilst the other was more carefree. There also may be issues around self esteem, an enmeshed personality and issues with perfectionism/control.

I'll tell you now the "I have high standards though and I’m trying to work on myself a bit" is pure coping mechanism because lets say you get the 6 pack, 6 certs and the rest of the standard Coli equipment and have game like Nintendo it will flip into "That dime has chipped nail polish, next" as its aim is to keep you distracted from the real problem.

So do I start mediating to get these blockers out or something else

No, that just makes you slide around them instead of through them. Start paying attention to your breathing. Take the largest breath you can like the world was about to run out of air and you need to get as much as you can for that extra millisecond of life. As you're doing this notice what moves, what stays still, where the air is and where it isn't. Scan your insides. Keep doing it again and again when you remember and then the practice will start leading you itself as it unfolds you to yourself.

 

[Dance_Like_A_Fiend]

Take some time to examine the mind set your family instilled about sex as you've got a very ambivalent attitude. If I had to guess I'd say one of your parents was sex negative whilst the other was more carefree. .

Woah, that was actually kind of close.

I'll tell you now the "I have high standards though and I’m trying to work on myself a bit" is pure coping mechanism because lets say you get the 6 pack, 6 certs and the rest of the standard Coli equipment and have game like Nintendo it will flip into "That dime has chipped nail polish, next" as its aim is to keep you distracted from the real problem.

Nah I don’t think that’ll happen to me. I know what I want and I’m dead set on getting it. Also, just in case there’s any confusion, my idea of a dime usually isn’t checkmarked Instagram and Victoria secret models.

 

[Child_Of_God]

I’m a virgin and losing it is on my mind at an hourly basis so I guess I have a high libido if I’m always thinking about it, but I still wouldn’t pay for a prostitute or lose it to an overweight woman. We all have some kind of standard.

have you tried dating apps like Tinder? That’s how I lost mine.

 

[Complexion]

Nah I don’t think that’ll happen to me. I know what I want and I’m dead set on getting it. Also, just in case there’s any confusion, my idea of a dime usually isn’t checkmarked Instagram and Victoria secret models.

Did you see that? Thats the coping mechanism doing its thing. Notice the shifting perspective, the qualification and justification. All of that is avoidance. If you doubt what I'm saying is correct then remember you also said:

Woah, that was actually kind of close.

In regards to a quick intuitive read based entirely on what you've said in this thread and your energy. I could've gone into way more detail about the enmeshed nature of your relationship with the sex negative parent but respect your privacy and simply wish to make you see yourself (and your coping strategies) more clearly before you waste your life in the "Some day, my dream will come" fantasy.

Go and watch the movie Collateral with Tom Cruise. I think it will speak volumes to you. No trailers or reviews. Just dive straight in.

have you tried dating apps like Tinder? That’s how I lost mine.

This is a really good idea for you to try. Personally I dislike apps for reasons I won't go into in case your coping strategy latches onto them but it will be a great way to bring you face to face with this mechanism. If they reach out they want sex so you're literally being given what you crave via the safety of a screen and no IRL pressure.

Give it a try. Listen to your coping mechanism scream and if you're slick you'll catch it in the act and all of its power/influence is gone, leaving you free to just be.

 

[Software]

I do, and I’ve checked the escort sites but prostitutes are nasty. Even the pretty ones who are just average looking. I think even a single mother would be more dignifying to lose your v card to, not that I’d touch one either.

pretentious shyt like this is why you're still a virgin. Ain't nothing wrong with fukkin a single mom...
You a beggar but tryna be a chooser

 

[Dance_Like_A_Fiend]

have you tried dating apps like Tinder? That’s how I lost mine.

I use Omegle it sounds stupid, but it’s a good way to work on my game and gauge how attractive I am. Especially with girls from other countries. It actually works pretty well. Girls actually want my contact info, that’s why I have an Instagram account now.

Tinder is the next step but I want to built muscle first and get a good camera because my iPhone makes me look busted in the face.

 

[Dance_Like_A_Fiend]

pretentious shyt like this is why you're still a virgin. Ain't nothing wrong with fukkin a single mom...

I don’t think that’s right. Not sure how they are where you live but here in SC they’re usually overweight and trashy, even the ones close to my age.

 

[Swiggy]

Mine was low as fukk until my fat ass lost some pounds and actually got p*ssy

 

[Software]

I don’t think that’s right. Not sure how they are where you live but here in SC they’re usually overweight and trashy, even the ones close to my age.

There's overweight and trashy women with no kids too. There's also fine ass women with kids. You'd turn down sex with one of them just because they have kids? It's not like they asking you to get married and become a dad

 

[Dance_Like_A_Fiend]

There's overweight and trashy women with no kids too. There's also fine ass women with kids. You'd turn down sex with one of them just because they have kids? It's not like they asking you to get married and become a dad

Fair point, but I highly doubt a good looking one is going to want a hookup or just a hookup with some random guy. And if you’re looking for a relationship then you’re going to have to play dad at some point.