Are virgins really just people with low libidos?

[humminbird]

Take some time to examine the mind set your family instilled about sex as you've got a very ambivalent attitude. If I had to guess I'd say one of your parents was sex negative whilst the other was more carefree. There also may be issues around self esteem, an enmeshed personality and issues with perfectionism/control.

I'll tell you now the "I have high standards though and I’m trying to work on myself a bit" is pure coping mechanism because lets say you get the 6 pack, 6 certs and the rest of the standard Coli equipment and have game like Nintendo it will flip into "That dime has chipped nail polish, next" as its aim is to keep you distracted from the real problem.




No, that just makes you slide around them instead of through them. Start paying attention to your breathing. Take the largest breath you can like the world was about to run out of air and you need to get as much as you can for that extra millisecond of life. As you're doing this notice what moves, what stays still, where the air is and where it isn't. Scan your insides. Keep doing it again and again when you remember and then the practice will start leading you itself as it unfolds you to yourself.

i tried repping but it said i couldn't
i got you eventually

 

[Software]

Fair point, but I highly doubt a good looking one is going to want a hookup or just a hookup with some random guy. And if you’re looking for a relationship then you’re going to have to play dad at some point.

Dude you're an involuntarily celibate virgin. You will have to go the relationship route. No single mom worth her shyt is gonna expect a boyfriend to play father to her child. Put in the work and stop making excuses. All you gotta do is go on dates and not be creep and you will eat. I guarantee it. Now time to be honest are you overweight or broke?

 

[CW_1991]

Ugly gang, super awkward gang, reliant on pornography gang.

 

[Dance_Like_A_Fiend]

Dude you're an involuntarily celibate virgin. You will have to go the relationship route. No single mom worth her shyt is gonna expect a boyfriend to play father to her child. Put in the work and stop making excuses. All you gotta do is go on dates and not be creep and you will eat. I guarantee it. Now time to be honest are you overweight or broke?

Im not involuntarily celibate, you can’t be when you don’t even try. I don’t actively seek out places where people my age are. I’d like to build wealth and muscle before I do anything else. Also, I work with nothing but old people and go to school from home so I usually don’t get the opportunity to meet anyone my age.

 

[Software]

Im not involuntarily celibate, you can’t be when you don’t even try. I don’t actively seek out places where people my age are. I’d like to build wealth and muscle before I do anything else. Also, I work with nothing but old people and go to school from home so I usually don’t get the opportunity to meet anyone my age.

You are an incel. It has nothing to do with not trying. It's about want.

I’m a virgin and losing it is on my mind at an hourly basis so I guess I have a high libido if I’m always thinking about it, but I still wouldn’t pay for a prostitute or lose it to an overweight woman. We all have some kind of standard.

^ in the above quote you said "losing it is on my mind on an hourly basis"
Therefore you want to lose your virginity but have not been able to have sex. That is an incel. You can be a virgin and also not be an incel if you don't WANT to lose your virginity. That is voluntary celibacy.
All this not trying shyt don't mean nothing except you gave up. Those building wealth and muscle excuses are you pretending to be voluntarily celibate.
You're an incel breh it's ok. The point is its how you act in response to that which matters.

 

[Gritsngravy]

Take some time to examine the mind set your family instilled about sex as you've got a very ambivalent attitude. If I had to guess I'd say one of your parents was sex negative whilst the other was more carefree. There also may be issues around self esteem, an enmeshed personality and issues with perfectionism/control.

I'll tell you now the "I have high standards though and I’m trying to work on myself a bit" is pure coping mechanism because lets say you get the 6 pack, 6 certs and the rest of the standard Coli equipment and have game like Nintendo it will flip into "That dime has chipped nail polish, next" as its aim is to keep you distracted from the real problem.




No, that just makes you slide around them instead of through them. Start paying attention to your breathing. Take the largest breath you can like the world was about to run out of air and you need to get as much as you can for that extra millisecond of life. As you're doing this notice what moves, what stays still, where the air is and where it isn't. Scan your insides. Keep doing it again and again when you remember and then the practice will start leading you itself as it unfolds you to yourself.

Can you go more in-depth into the breathing exercise, like what do you mean about noticing what moves and is still, air, and scanning insides

 

[Complexion]

Can you go more in-depth into the breathing exercise, like what do you mean about noticing what moves and is still, air, and scanning insides

I'll make a video about it at some point but in general notice what you've just done as that is at the heart of it.

Instead of trying the experience, direct, first hand, in the flesh with the info given you made it intellectual, abstract, needing more detail.

Granted my description of this fundamental process was very sparse but its enough to get started. I can tell you right now that as you read these words over 65% of your breathing is done primarily in your upper chest region with zero inflation of the lower back and only minimal air in the belly and you take very shallow breaths in general.

Your mind knows that too and is threatened by the power you may find that it spent a lifetime trying to hide from you and thats why you asked what you did.

Interpret the words from the exercise however you want. There is no way to do it right or wrong. All there is is the feedback that comes from the attempt which refines the process of unfoldment and when you get it you'll get it so try it and stick with it until things start shifting.

 

[Dance_Like_A_Fiend]

You are an incel. It has nothing to do with not trying. It's about want.

Incels hate women and would rather sit at home mopping rather than improve themselves, aren’t they? Im genuinely confused because it seems like the meaning changes every year. First it’s some bitter ugly guy that hates women, then it’s someone that wants to get laid and can’t. I don’t hate women, I know why I’m still a virgin, and I’m actively trying to improve myself so I can get with the kind of women I want to get. It’s as simple as that

Therefore you want to loseyour virginity but have not been able to have sex. That is an incel. You can be a virgin and also not be an incel if you don't WANT to lose your virginity. That is voluntary celibacy.
All this not trying shyt don't mean nothing except you gave up. Those building wealth and muscle excuses are you pretending to be voluntarily celibate.
You're an incel breh it's ok. The point is its how you act in response to that which matters.

I do want to lose my virginity, and I honestly believe if I went out and talked to some girls that were in my league it could happen, but I want the higher level chicks so I’m willing to wait awhile until I can get at a higher level too.

 

[Software]

Incels hate women and would rather sit at home mopping rather than improve themselves, aren’t they? Im genuinely confused because it seems like the meaning changes every year. First it’s some bitter ugly guy that hates women, then it’s someone that wants to get laid and can’t. I don’t hate women, I know why I’m still a virgin, and I’m actively trying to improve myself so I can get with the kind of women I want to get. It’s as simple as that

I do want to lose my virginity, and I honestly believe if I went out and talked to some girls that were in my league it could happen, but I want the higher level chicks so I’m willing to wait awhile until I can get at a higher level too.

Incel only has negative connotation around it because of the multitude of men out there who choose to react to it in the terrible ways. Those examples are just a few. As an incel you have like 2 options: a. Get frustrated and turn hateful or b. Accept it and be proactive with your options.

There are tons of dudes who get no women out here still trying and living life with no hatred in their heart. You just don't hear about them because they aren't the ones committing hateful acts or writing obscene things online.

If you truly believe you can get a woman by going out and mingling then do so. No reason to wait around until you feel those better looking women are ready to give you some play. Having experience with women and sex will only help you get better looking women as you grow. Since you haven't had sex yet, in your head you think it's a big deal. It's not. What is a big deal is getting good at it.

 

[Gritsngravy]

I'll make a video about it at some point but in general notice what you've just done as that is at the heart of it.

Instead of trying the experience, direct, first hand, in the flesh with the info given you made it intellectual, abstract, needing more detail.

Granted my description of this fundamental process was very sparse but its enough to get started. I can tell you right now that as you read these words over 65% of your breathing is done primarily in your upper chest region with zero inflation of the lower back and only minimal air in the belly and you take very shallow breaths in general.

Your mind knows that too and is threatened by the power you may find that it spent a lifetime trying to hide from you and thats why you asked what you did.

Interpret the words from the exercise however you want. There is no way to do it right or wrong. All there is is the feedback that comes from the attempt which refines the process of unfoldment and when you get it you'll get it so try it and stick with it until things start shifting.

So what you saying is we not breathing right, and once we change are breathing it unlocks tension in are bodies
And we should be taking deeper breaths to achieve that unlocking of tension is what you getting at?

 

[Complexion]

So what you saying is we not breathing right, and once we change are breathing it unlocks tension in are bodies
And we should be taking deeper breaths to achieve that unlocking of tension is what you getting at?

Try the technique for yourself and see what happens. Especially if nothing happens. Or you get frustrated. Or bored. Pay attention and keep going. When it clicks (which it will) you'll get exactly what I meant as its beyond language and is far more visceral in experience.

 

[Peauxboy]

Fair point, but I highly doubt a good looking one is going to want a hookup or just a hookup with some random guy. And if you’re looking for a relationship then you’re going to have to play dad at some point.

Get out of the house breh. There’s good looking women out there who would salivate once you tell them you’re a virgin and they figure out you’re not lying about it. As long as they don’t think you’re a weirdo.

Now time to be honest are you overweight or broke?

Or gay?

I’m not trying to be disrespectful or funny.

 

[jilla82]

Incels hate women and would rather sit at home mopping rather than improve themselves, aren’t they? Im genuinely confused because it seems like the meaning changes every year. First it’s some bitter ugly guy that hates women, then it’s someone that wants to get laid and can’t. I don’t hate women, I know why I’m still a virgin, and I’m actively trying to improve myself so I can get with the kind of women I want to get. It’s as simple as that

I do want to lose my virginity, and I honestly believe if I went out and talked to some girls that were in my league it could happen, but I want the higher level chicks so I’m willing to wait awhile until I can get at a higher level too.

nothing magical is going to happen once you get the 6 pack and 6 figure income
trust

no matter where you go, there you are

its all in your head

choose women based on how well you two get along...
...focusing on the other shyt is a distraction as others have pointed out.

You were talking to that chick you met on vacation and prob knew she was hood from the get go...
...but you kept it going because you wanted it to work.

Once you saw it wasnt going to be a easy layup you created a bunch of excuses as to why you should avoid her.

 

[Dave24]

nothing magical is going to happen once you get the 6 pack and 6 figure income
trust

no matter where you go, there you are

its all in your head

choose women based on how well you two get along...
...focusing on the other shyt is a distraction as others have pointed out.

You were talking to that chick you met on vacation and prob knew she was hood from the get go...
...but you kept it going because you wanted it to work.

Once you saw it wasnt going to be a easy layup you created a bunch of excuses as to why you should avoid her.

Wouldn't getting a 6 pack and 6 figure income boost up confidence?

 

[Swirv]

I feel like if a person has a real desire for sex, they'll find a way to get it. Our libidos give us the power to make the necessary steps we need to take to accomplish this. shyt, you can pay for it with a woman of your choosing. If you don't have the balls to pay for something you want, how you gonna have the balls to actually fukk a girl??

Maybe the ones who are not teenagers.