Are you truly grown if you dont have adult responsibilities

[BrothaZay]

At least you're intelligent enough to be true to yourself.

I wasn't a grown man when I was in school either, once I graduated though shyt got real, quick. 90% of college kids aren't anywhere near "grown"

Word, i was talking to one my "homegirls" bytch was telling me how she is ready to settle down(she just turned 19 3 days ago). Im like before you settle down you should be able to support yourself and be steady. She had the nerve to tell me she can support herself on her salary. Im like then why dont you move out and support yourself then..

bytches think having a job or being in college makes you grown and independent, even if your parents are still paying for your shyt

 

[The Prince of All Saiyans]

i don't plan on doing the come up shuffle for a couple of years

last thing I want is 3-4 kids and playing video games all day stay at home status

 

[MeachTheMonster]

Is he the first born? First born boys are always the gem of the family to mom.

I agree that it kinda has a lot to do with your mindstate and where you are headed to.

Grown men have to pay bills that is for sure, you can't be having anyone pay all your bills and consider yourself grown

Yeah he's first born, and troubled as hell. He thinks nobody cares about him, but we're all always helping him.

 

[semtex]

you should be responsible. "grown" is some shyt thrown around by immature people. If you are financially independent, yet still an irresponsible idiot blowing your money then most wouldn't consider you "grown"...

most people aren't really "grown" for a LONG time b. 20s? forget about it.

 

[LastEmperor2k2]

Yeah he's first born, and troubled as hell. He thinks nobody cares about him, but we're all always helping him.

That's my brother man, 1st born, kid was rebelling since 15 and never stopped.

Been to jail for 4 years off of boozing and cruising, got out, got off probation and went boozing and cruising again and got knocked. 5 years probation.

Dude's got a beautiful kid and his wife is a lawyer and he's still fukking up. He is the selfish type, we're gonna have to worry about dude until we're all in the grave it feels

 

[MeachTheMonster]

That's my brother man, 1st born, kid was rebelling since 15 and never stopped.

Been to jail for 4 years off of boozing and cruising, got out, got off probation and went boozing and cruising again and got knocked. 5 years probation.

Dude's got a beautiful kid and his wife is a lawyer and he's still fukking up. He is the selfish type, we're gonna have to worry about dude until we're all in the grave it feels

damn we got the same exact brother except he got three goofy baby mommas that aint worth shyt. I feel your pain

 

[LastEmperor2k2]

damn we got the same exact brother except he got three goofy baby mommas that aint worth shyt. I feel your pain

Yeah, it's depressing having a fukkup in your immediate family.

 

[SafeForWork]

He's gotten in some trouble before so her biggest fear is that he will go to jail or get shot up so she protects him like he's 12.

lol same with my brother

 

[SuburbanPimp]

Nah, I know nikkas damn near 30 talking about they grown but they mama be washing they clothes and sh!t..

I'm not knocking those cats, but I never had that option.

When I turned 21 My mother had recently passed, My pops moved to Oklahoma, My sister was just graduating college and I had just had a son.

I didn't have no choice but to grow up, Get a job, Get my own apartment, Get health insurance, take care of my child.

I couldn't get my son and drop him of at granny's for the weekend, He would be with me at all times. I couldn't quit my job and go back to stay with my parents until I found something new, I had to do some jobs I didn't quite like.

So no, being 18, 21 doesn't make you grown. Living your live and not depending on anyone else to do so is being grown

 

[Xtraz2]

Nah, I know nikkas damn near 30 talking about they grown but they mama be washing they clothes and sh!t..

I'm not knocking those cats, but I never had that option.

When I turned 21 My mother had recently passed, My pops moved to Oklahoma, My sister was just graduating college and I had just had a son.

I didn't have no choice but to grow up, Get a job, Get my own apartment, Get health insurance, take care of my child.

I couldn't get my son and drop him of at granny's for the weekend, He would be with me at all times. I couldn't quit my job and go back to stay with my parents until I found something new, I had to do some jobs I didn't quite like.

So no, being 18, 21 doesn't make you grown. Living your live and not depending on anyone else to do so is being grown

U may have had it harder then, but I think it makes it easier for u now, since you've been thru that , it helps u mature/grow up faster, opposed to somebody whose been sheltered having to do everything on they own

 

[Tommy Fits]

That's my older brother, he went away for 4 years, my mom always concerned with him.

But he makes good money and has his own place with his wife, but she`s always worried about him fukking up

It's funny in my family I'm the oldest and my mom is never concerned about me because I've always been able to take care of myself and do things on my own with no help from anyone. Now my brother and sister, my mother is still practically holding their hands. When I went to college I asked my mother to loan $200 for books and I would pay her back when I get my financial aid check, she told me "I'm not the one that wants to go to college". My bro and sis went to community college, she paid their tuition when they didn't get financial aid anymore because they flunked out their first semester.

 

[Tommy Fits]

And to answer the question, the answer is no. My cousin turns 28 next month, he's a week older than me. Lives at home, never had a real job, addicted to pills. His mother up until he quit for an electronic cig used to buy his cigarettes. She still even cleans his room. A few years ago he flipped out on his mother because he wanted pizza and she brought home Burger King. Dead ass, she paid for dinner but got pizza because it was on the way home from work. He called a "fukking c*nt" and a "lazy c*nt". That's why I deaded fukking with him a couple of years ago. Such a worthless piece of shyt he turned his younger brother into a junkie too just so he wouldn't be alone. These people will never ever change, they have been treated like children their entire life and have no concept of adulthood or responsibility. And when their parents pass away they will become a drain on society just like they were a drain on their parents.

 

[Ooh Marty]

To be honest, no....I'm 22(about to be), still stay with my parents, unemployed, parents still take care of me so no...I'm not really an adult yet.

 

[SuburbanPimp]

U may have had it harder then, but I think it makes it easier for u now, since you've been thru that , it helps u mature/grow up faster, opposed to somebody whose been sheltered having to do everything on they own

You right, I used to be kinda bitter. seeing my friends staying at moms house spending their money on shoes, PS3 games, Rims and shyt while a nikka like me was spending money on Groceries, Laundry Detergent, doing my own taxes and shyt like that.

But like you said it just made me more mature younger and realize whats important. I struggled for a while eating ramen and hot dogs, No cable, no internet but now I know that if come to that again it ain't nothing for me.

That why i encourage my potnas to get out there on your own. You might struggle a lil bit but at least you have your own shyt and you also realize that you don't need nearly as much stuff as you think you do to make it out here.

 

[AAKing23]

This is a pretty good thread


No you are not grown if you're still dependent on your parents. Im 20 and I still live with my parents and they pay my tuition and books fees for college so I'm definitely not independent.


But I'm in school working towards a degree and networking to make sure that I once I do graduate I'll become independent.



Most people that are around that college-age (18-24) really aren't adults because they all rely on their parents in one way or another.