Are you truly grown if you dont have adult responsibilities

[LastEmperor2k2]

And to answer the question, the answer is no. My cousin turns 28 next month, he's a week older than me. Lives at home, never had a real job, addicted to pills. His mother up until he quit for an electronic cig used to buy his cigarettes. She still even cleans his room. A few years ago he flipped out on his mother because he wanted pizza and she brought home Burger King. Dead ass, she paid for dinner but got pizza because it was on the way home from work. He called a "fukking c*nt" and a "lazy c*nt". That's why I deaded fukking with him a couple of years ago. Such a worthless piece of shyt he turned his younger brother into a junkie too just so he wouldn't be alone. These people will never ever change, they have been treated like children their entire life and have no concept of adulthood or responsibility. And when their parents pass away they will become a drain on society just like they were a drain on their parents.

Sad man.

Funny thing is that's not my brother, he is really independent he is just a selfish fukkup. Like everything is about him, all the fukking time. He's had a drinking problem since 18, been through everything and wont stop.

It's sad because his kid is about to see that, kid turns 2 next month, and it's sad because the older that kid gets he's gonna start to understand Daddy is a drunk.

He's one of them dudes who thinks he can just say whatever he wants and do whatever he wants and no one should hold it against him, he went off last 2 weeks ago, telling my mom to go fukk herself and everyone needs to leave him and his family alone.

I sold his ticket to the game we're going to that night, dude had the audacity me with the "Oh it figures, first thing you think about it selling my ticket"

It's at the point I don't want to be around that motherfukker.

 

[Ooh Marty]

This is a pretty good thread


No you are not grown if you're still dependent on your parents. Im 20 and I still live with my parents and they pay my tuition and books fees for college so I'm definitely not independent.


But I'm in school working towards a degree and networking to make sure that I once I do graduate I'll become independent.



Most people that are around that college-age (18-24) really aren't adults because they all rely on their parents in one way or another.

same here....my parents pay for my tuition and books as well....my parents told me that I can stay with them rent free until I graduate out of college, and start my career...if it was up to them....they'll let me stay until I get married

But nah once I get a full time job, Im going to look into moving in with a roommate or something.

 

[LastEmperor2k2]

same here....my parents pay for my tuition and books as well....my parents told me that I can stay with them rent free until I graduate out of college, and start my career...if it was up to them....they'll let me stay until I get married

But nah once I get a full time job, Im going to look into moving in with a roommate or something.

My parents were the same way, ultra supportive all the way through college. Love them for that.

 

[AAKing23]

My parents were the same way, ultra supportive all the way through college. Love them for that.

Yup Thank God I have the parents I have

 

[Ooh Marty]

My parents were the same way, ultra supportive all the way through college. Love them for that.

Yea I dont know what I would do without my parents

 

[LastEmperor2k2]

Yea I dont know what I would do without my parents

You`d end up like some of these other posters out here.....

 

[Last Dayze]

until you faced your own mortality with mind,body,and soul you will never be "fully grown"

responsibility is a multi faceted word,it can have many implications,naught just thee western whirld's idea of "independence" which is a loaded proposition to begin with,no one except the most disciplined of men are ever truly ever "independent"

 

[DallasTxRep]

Just cause you're and adult/of age, doesn't make you a man or woman

 

[god shamgod]

My homeboy is 35 lives wit his mother,has a full time job payin 18 an hour,has 2 kids he don't see or takes care of,got another hoodrat pregnant and forced her to abort the seed.Put 22's on his lex truck drives thru the hood hollering at chicks that are 21-24 years old.Buys clothes,video games and liquor/weed when he gets paid.Had the audacity to complain when his mother don't go grocery shopping

Makes excuses when people mention him moving out.This nikka is a 35 year old child

 

[winb83]

live long enough and you become grown by default.

there's a difference between being grown and being independent. you don't have to be grown to be independent. there are 16-17 year old kids working full time and living on their own. not grown but independent. there are 40 year old men who live at home with their mother and still take her shyt. grown and dependent.

being grown is meaningless because you really don't do anything to achieve it. most immature people speak of being grown like it means just cause they lived a specific amount of time they should get the same level of respect that an independent person gets.

being independent means you don't have to put up with other people's shyt. being grown doesn't mean that at all.

 

[jking23258]

or better yet you dont do adult things like take care of yourself etc..? I mean technically people do have adult responsibilities but they don't handle them they let someone else handle them and treat them like a kid. This is one of the main arguments i have with people 18-20, mainly females.

Last night my brother(16) and my cousin(20) had gotten into it because she was on the phone talking about my brother with they granny about how no one can stand him and dont wanna be bothered with him(note: she just came from St.louis last month to live with us and he let her stay in his room)
So my brother got mad and indirectly called her stupid she caught on to it and got upset. They start arguing and they go to my mom and the shyt starts to calm down, then my cousin is like "eljay you're 16 so stay in a childs place".

In my head after hearing that im like, just because someone is 20 or whatever does not make them a true adult if they live off someone else or if they aren't independent. It seems like im one of the only people my age that can admit that even tho im in college and finna be over 18, that i still am a child, seeing as for i cant even legally drink let alone support myself if it wasnt for my mother.

Why do yall think about people who think like my cuz, do yall know anyone like this and should you take them seriously?

I think it depends on how mature the person is but I know what you mean

 

[Will Ross]

It depends on what your talking about.

 

[MBwithadream]

Nah, I know nikkas damn near 30 talking about they grown but they mama be washing they clothes and sh!t..

I'm not knocking those cats, but I never had that option.

When I turned 21 My mother had recently passed, My pops moved to Oklahoma, My sister was just graduating college and I had just had a son.

I didn't have no choice but to grow up, Get a job, Get my own apartment, Get health insurance, take care of my child.

I couldn't get my son and drop him of at granny's for the weekend, He would be with me at all times. I couldn't quit my job and go back to stay with my parents until I found something new, I had to do some jobs I didn't quite like.

So no, being 18, 21 doesn't make you grown. Living your live and not depending on anyone else to do so is being grown

You must had that job in the 90s. for anyone who does that now.