Arguing should not be part of a relationship. At worst minimal.

King Poetic

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shyt me and my lady argue every week about some bullsh1t. We haven't gone a month without an argument in 13 years.

C/s

My old lady got up this morning and went to work without saying a word, I guess cause I woke up out my sleep kicking

Then it’s like every other day it’s something

I’m glad I’m not married
 

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I used to think this when I was running from my manhood, and was still in reality a little boy thinking I was a big shot.
If you are arguing then yes,that is bad and not productive. But if you are teaching then it is perfectly fine and that certainly belongs in a relationship,and shouldn't be called "arguing".
THe problem with arguing is that 9 times out of ten,men let the woman win because they don't have the mental and emotional endurance of women.
If the woman you are dealing with isn't teachable,and not in control of her emotions even after you call her out on it,then she's simply not a teachable woman.
She is a gmo'd hellhound and should be placed in the category with the rest of the unclaimables of the world.
Most of you choose women who aren' worth arguing with,because they really not learning,and your not calling them out for their lack of growth,or holding them accountable for not learning. This would actually make you a bad teacher,as much as she may be a bad student.Our women have so many underlying issues its not even funny,once you know yours and have worked them out you have to understand many of our women will need to be raised properly by you,to come out of their issues. Some will be worth the time,and some will not be as you simply are not the man for the job.
You might be too soft,or you might be too hard for your woman to learn from,you might be too dumb or too boring. People prefer different methods of teaching,sadly some could ever only learn from abuse.
Just remember woman is the #ChildOfMan,some kids will be naturally in agreeance,some will not. But since your woman was raised by other people before she got to you,you will have to do more deprogramming. Theres consequences to waiting til 30 and 40 to settle down with a woman,unless you plan on getting them 18 to early 20's.

edit-Not condoning abuse,just stating a fact.
 

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I see so many of my friends get into bad relationships. How you mad at each other by the 3rd date?!!

Listen young brehs. Your woman should be agreeable, consistent, considerate and easy going.

I’ve been with my wife for like 10yrs now and we’ve really argued maybe 3 times. We can disagree but we talk it out or make a joke of it.

Arguing is a red flag. Screaming and yelling, throwing things or actual hitting is immediate bushes. Don’t stay with a female that is overly emotional and can’t control herself when angry. Too many options out here.

Your relationship is a business you are trying to build. Don’t partner up with women that bring nothing to the table and don’t know how to follow your lead.

That disqualifies about 80 percent of all women in this world.
 

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Wifey argues too much but we settle it by nighttime :shaq: We never go to bed upset :shaq:
 

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Cosign. Even growing up I rarely saw my parents get into serious heated arguments. Yes, they'd get into stern disagreements, but never the kind of fighting I've seen in some other relationships. Parents are going on 25 yrs of marriage with 3 kids, 2 of which have graduated college are working and living on their own.
 
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Been together 19 yrs. We got together so young (19), we had no idea wtf we were doing. Both sets of parents had been married, but weren't together as we grew up. We argued over dumb shyt, not side kids or whatever, but we realized it was toxic and he put his foot down (while also checking himself). We haven't argued in, easily, over a decade.


U got kids harlem
 
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