As a black man, is it wrong to abstain from relationships?

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Interesting moral conundrum.

As a black man who in position to build and is conscious enough to choose a partner that they could build with.

Like, especially if you’re young. Shouldn’t the goal to build community, as well as the individual? The way I see it, the most aspirational thing a black man can do is build with a black woman.

Especially with the incredible shortage of eligible black men who haven’t been victims to the system relative to black women. There’s a gender imbalance.

But in that case, with black women being much more likely to be “educated” than black men and more likely to succeed in corporate America - isn’t the onus on them to find a black man?

Personally, I just can’t do it. Too much of a distraction to have to maintain a relationship with another person and too many risks involved like unplanned pregnancies. Being in a relationship also makes it harder to do things like move across the country for economic reasons.

But at the same time, I don’t see how you couldn’t find a partner who is willing to support you throughout this process. And at the same time “building” is only representative to how well you can contribute to and succeed in a system of capitalist white supremacy. So ultimately it’s meaningless work and is pretty much a forced distraction.

Thoughts? :jbhmm:
 

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This is a good question for the Umar types. If one is anti-IR because it doesn't contribute to black families, black wealth, the black community, etc., well what about the competent or successful black man or woman who chooses to remain single? Should the folks with bedbuck and wench in their vocabulary have the same energy towards black folks who remain single? Is the successful black man or woman doing their own thing, selfish?
 
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