I never been in love. The times I thought I was, it was feelings of limerence and lust in disguise of love. I haven't found a person I felt in love with.
Let's dig deeper: What is really love?
The most pragmatic version of love is providing noble obligations in times of need (pragma and agape). Donating to a charity, volunteering to a homeless shelter, serving a country, those are practical deeds.
As a human, self love is the greatest love of all. Going in this cold-blooded world, you need self love. Who else is gonna have you but you? We have to remind ourselves we've all we got. This builds mental strength and character.