As a man, does hearing that another man cheated on his wife or spouse change your opinion about them

[puppetmaster]

No.

Context is important, it's taboo to say that sure but I don't know the details of their prior relationships, upbringings, beliefs, limiting beliefs, insecurities etc so thus I don't have the kinda ego to think I could/should judge without knowing any of that.

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

I don't believe in the concept of "Cheating"


Besides that, a man's relationship with his woman is personal and he's free to handle that however he sees fit.

 

[Draje]

They already do this

Yeah, I agree. And they should be shamed and lambasted. We're talking about biological urges not necessarily being "right"

 

[Sad Bunny]

I can't trust a nikka that willingly cheats on a woman he says he's in love with


He might be a good dude, but I'll never know if he'll switch up on me too

"wife OR spouse"?


wtf

You can't trust a man who decides to get married and then cheats on his wife.
If you do, don't be surprised the day he sells you out/stabs you in the back.

As a man, your word is supposed to be your bond.

If you're married but treating your WIFE like she's a bums sock, how the fukk are you gonna treat others?

Basically I don't fukk with cheaters in any way shape or form.

I can't trust anybody that doesn't take commitment seriously, man or woman.

Super sus. Cant trust him.

If hes willing to betray his wife aint no telling who else hes willing to hang out to dry for his own selfishness.

These responses sum up my feelings.

Great thread OP....because I have dealt with this in real life before as well. It makes me look at people differently.

 

[Draje]

I can't really explain it other than me being a man

And I call out women when they being hypocritical, only because I'm honest with my hypocrisy.

Where as women hit the

Tryna justify shyt.

So you respect and don't call out women who say they don't give a fukk about men and will side with women even when the women is in the wrong?


That's a weird caccish way to live, IMO. I guess this how cacs do this hypocritical and illogical arguments too. They dehumanize and devalue other groups to justify it though.

So how do you look at women who cheat? Say she cheated for the same exact reasoning and situation as a man. He just wanted a nut, she just wanted her walls stretched. Purely physical.

What about it makes the women viewed negatively but you accepting of the man? Do you subconsciously view women as your lesser??

 

[StickStickly]

No. The type of men I don't trust cucks, simps and betas. Those are dangerous men you have to look out for.

I also would never trust a man who would tell another man wife/girlfriend if he's cheating on her or interacting with other women. That shows he can't be trusted with vital information, he's pretty much on the same level as a woman.

But you would trust a man who puts you in an awkward position where you know he sleeps around and expects you to be a liar around his wife and family? I think that's rude for someone to do and narcissistic af.

 

[The ADD]

That's his personal business. Unless it is family or a close friend I don't really care.

 

[Larry Lambo]

I would assume they are only looking out for self, which is most people anyways (cheaters or non-cheaters).

 

[Kane1]

I can honestly say I don't give a damn.

You take a up standing good dude who takes care of his business and I hear he cheated on his wife, I wouldn't care

As a man...if you hear this news then you shouldn't give 2 fukks



Where another man puts his dikk ain't you business (unless it's your wife/daughter)

 

[AllHolosEve]

It wouldn't change "our" relationship but I would be or tell his lying ass the truth in private... I have an "L" on my arm that stands for "Loyalty"... Most my brothers are cheaters with multiple BMs, I got 1 BM & don't cheat... Especially if he married the girl, why even marry her???

We all adults so we entitled to make our own decisions but you swore a vow to this girl... It's situational though, my brother got married & cheated but they was both cheating before the marriage... Only reason they went through with it was cause her parents already paid for it, everybody in the circle knew that shyt was doomed from the start...

 

[SunZoo]

My best friend pulled up to my crib with one of his bytches in the car the other day.



While I def would and have advised against it it's not my place to judge. Now when we were younger the nikka actually involved me and had his girl calling my phone to use me as an alibi. I just started laughing and hung up. Do what you gotta do but don't involve me and have her looking at me like I'm helping you orchestrate shyt.

 

[Taadow]

Yep...but ONLY if I hear it from him.

 

[Draje]

No. The type of men I don't trust cucks, simps and betas. Those are dangerous men you have to look out for.

I also would never trust a man who would tell another man wife/girlfriend if he's cheating on her or interacting with other women. That shows he can't be trusted with vital information, he's pretty much on the same level as a woman.

So would you trust a man that told you your wife was cheating on you? Do you also judge women as untrustworthy if she told you that your wife was cheating on you? Do you also defend women helping each other cheat and hiding that shyt too?

And how can you say "same level as a woman" as a sign of not to be trusted while you're giving pass for men cheating which is an inherently distrustful act that you wouldn't want your wife to do?

 

[Shorty K]

Actually it makes perfect sense. It makes more sense for a woman to cheat than a man.

It's unscrupulous and I don't condone it but whatever makes a wife faithful, it's not because her biology is standing in the way. In fact thanks to hormones, during each cycle a woman is attracted to different things and different types of men.

If we are to simplify people and take them as one dimensional then as per biology women should marry the man who is most able to provide and if he is also the best genetic option then only have his kids but because of her biology she's attracted to two different types of men each month. So stay married to him and mix your genes with him, cheat with the other type (maybe the softer emotions, romantic type) for her other needs.

If it's the reverse and her husband is able to provide financially but not the strongest genetic option then biology would still suggest that she mix her genes with the superior mate so have the side pieces kids but live off of the better off husband.

She is the one who would carry the baby so unlike a cheating man who has to slip a woman the plan B, the cheating wife knows her cycle, has the option to take precaution and remediate any mistakes. A cheating wife who is unscrupulous and careful enough can have her cake (well off husband) and optional extras (side piece(s) to meet unmet biological drivers).

But cheating and sleeping with more than one person are not the same thing. Just because you have sex with other people doesn't mean you have to lie about it aka cheat. But the consequences of being honest about sleeping with other people outside of marriage are potentially more disastrous for the female...An unfaithful woman who wants her children to be provided for will lie so the husband doesn't doubt if they're his aka biology.

If we're gonna simplify people to pure biology, it makes no sense for a woman to cheat. Pure biology if you're having another man's seed the man you're with will just bounce leaving the woman to raise the b*stard by herself, depending on if the man hasn't beaten the shyt out of her to cause a miscarriage before dipping. Biologically speaking if a man found out the mother of his child cheated there's really nothing stopping him from just booting her out to the streets and letting her figure out to survive herself while he finds an upgrade. Your post seems to come more from a place of weird envy and denial over the fact that men aren't built to be monogamous the way women are than actual science. You also REALLY overrate how attached men are to their seeds biologically

 

[1 other person]

If we're gonna simplify people to pure biology, it makes no sense for a woman to cheat. Pure biology if you're having another man's seed the man you're with will just bounce leaving the woman to raise the b*stard by herself, depending on if the man hasn't beaten the shyt out of her to cause a miscarriage before dipping. Biologically speaking if a man found out the mother of his child cheated there's really nothing stopping him from just booting her out to the streets and letting her figure out to survive herself while he finds an upgrade. Your post seems to come more from a place of weird envy and denial over the fact that men aren't built to be monogamous the way women are than actual science.

Beat me to it.