As a man, does hearing that another man cheated on his wife or spouse change your opinion about them

[peppe]

nope

when we went on a vacation and breh smashed some chick I was like because she was fine as hell

A month later our group with their spouses/girlfriends come together and his girl is like I'm 3 month pregnant

A deadass look at him like calculating in my mind and then hit him with the

my boy was like

That's my nikka, since we were small I don't care about her

 

[Commish]

I believe in minding my own business. If a friend confided in me that he is cheating on his wife, then I will assume that he expects me to keep this information between us. The only way I can see myself giving a friend the side eye is if I had a close friendship with his wife which is highly unlikely at this stage of my life.

Come to think of it, if I knew that this person has habitually cheated on his significant others, then that would tell me that I may need to keep my prospective mates away from him. So, I guess the trust would be compromised based on his treatment of his partners.

In conclusion, I really don't want to know what my friends are doing in this regard. I do believe in cause and effect, so said friend will get his and when he does, then he will have to accept the consequences.

 

[PartyHeart]

With all due respect the first 3 words of this thread are "as a man"

I really didn't care for a woman's opinion on this.

Oh. Was actually speaking facts but ok. And no matter your disdain for women, facts are facts no matter what gender they come from. But good to know.

 

[Mandarin Duck]

Oh. Was actually speaking facts but ok. And no matter your disdain for women, facts are facts no matter what gender they come from. But good to know.

I don't have a desdain for women I was just asking for men's opinion on it only.

shyt like that happens all the time on here.

I made a thread in The Salon asking for women's opinion on sometning and more male posters were chiming in and giving their 2 cents

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Prolly because you're lying and when asked for actual sources which backed up what she said, she said she didn't have to provide any because they don't exist

And where was your source?

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I mean the content of your character is suspect in the first place because you seem to want the men you claim to love to put their lives on the line because someone hurt your feelings, so what you say really carries no weight on the internet, sorry

I never said that. I just said others care where you don't. If you need to lie to make a point it means you don't have much of a point to begin with.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Gon tell me to move along in my thread

I swear women love giving they opinion on shyt even when you didn't ask for it

Why do you continue to quote me if you don't want to talk to me. Stop quoting me and reading my post and you have nothing to complain about.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Whoa whoa calm down big fella. I'm not on anyone's side fam nor supporting the narrative that men should cheat more than women due to biology.
I'm merely addressing the discrepancies in her posts regarding the biological differences between men and women(which coincidentally happen to manifest in areas like sex drive and aggression). People like her denying such biological differences exist - is one of the reasons we have men out here thinking they can get slap on a wig and become women.


With said regardless of biological differences, I think both genders are beyond the use of our basic animalistic urges and our biolgoical makeups as cop outs for cheating. I don't condone that shyt one bit. Which is why I value loyalty so much in myself and others.

T
Yo I just said the lady had a more sound argument and you stated a false stat to justify your opinion. I haven't even stated an opinion on either topic breh. You are the one doing the most.

 

[PartyHeart]

The problem with that statement, is that you're implying women on average get physically stimulated as much as men.

There's empirical evidence out there that have shown men typically think about sex more than women (some scientific studies have said men think of sex as often as every 7 seconds) and score higher in libido studies.

There's actual evolutionary biologists who have multiple theories why this is, but the bottomline is there isn't some biological equilibrium between men and women in the sexual desire category like you're implying.

This is where social context comes in, because studies show that women routinely under-report their sexual desire to fulfill expectations for women to be less sexual. That's why studies have been done to test both women's reporting and their physiological changes when reporting desire. Most of the time the woman's report and the actual displayed desire did not match up. So getting to the truth is a lot more complicated than a formula of hormone levels.

Whoa whoa calm down big fella. I'm not on anyone's side fam nor supporting the narrative that men should cheat more than women due to biology.
I'm merely addressing the discrepancies in her posts regarding the biological differences between men and women(which coincidentally happen to manifest in areas like sex drive and aggression). People like her denying such biological differences exist - is one of the reasons we have men out here thinking they can get slap on a wig and become women.


With said regardless of biological differences, I think both genders are beyond the use of our basic animalistic urges and our biolgoical makeups as cop outs for cheating. I don't condone that shyt one bit. Which is why I value loyalty so much in myself and others.

There isn't any denial from me that there aren't inherent biological differences between men and women though. If the initial poster I quoted had said there is a correlation between testosterone and physical strength and perhaps even aggression, I'd see the merit. But he said testosterone and sexual desire. And because men have more testosterone than women, they are obviously more sexual. Its not true.

Plus, men like to downplay the social aspect of behavior to try to make the behavior they want women to practice be more rigid and seem more sound. That's why the other dude in here is losing his mind because he really wants women to believe he can cheat and its natural and ok but if she cheats she is going against her own biology. But sexual desire is heavily socially influenced. It really is.

For instance, say we take men and women's reports on desire as accurate. Consider the fact that you as a man can turn on your TV now and not only see TV shows but even commercial ads that heavily sexualize women. You can see women sexualized on the sides of buses and on billboards and in store windows. If your sex drive is constantly being primed by outside forces like this, it could very easily explain why you report a higher sex drive when asked. You are quite literally being stimulated more often. Women on the other hand, do not have comparable stimuli constantly being thrown at them, and would reasonably report less. This is a scenario where the sexes are actually speaking the truth in reporting, but you cannot tie it to any natural biological differences.

 

[Pinyapplesuckas]

depends on the relationship and the woman i guess...i dont like seeing that one of the homies cheated on his girl if im also friends with her...just puts me in a wack position overall...in my heart i understand why someone would cheat tho so ultimately i dont really give a fukk just dont include me in your lies.

 

[DarrynCobretti]

T
Yo I just said the lady had a more sound argument and you stated a false stat to justify your opinion. I haven't even stated an opinion on either topic breh. You are the one doing the most.

1. How can you say she has a sound argument - when she neither supported her argument with scientific facts nor bothered to even to substantiate her claims when her position was dissected?
2. Yet in the same breathe, you only focused on a stat in one sentence (based on one of many studies I referred to in that same sentence) then completely ignored everything else I said in the post to fit your narrative of her having a sound argument that claims women and men have the exact same sex drive and libido.

With all due respect, what's the point of just reading one sentence of my entire post and debating the merits of that one sentence then completely ignore the other facts I posed that completely disapproves her entire post I responded to. I even told you if you want me to I'll cite sources and links to support my post (which is more than your girl did in this entire thread).

You said you haven't stated an opinion (and I can respect that), so then if you're not biased at least read my entire post out of respect for an opposing view point.

You're usually one of the more logical brehettes here so, again here's my entire post and please look at my overall point:

The problem with that statement, is that you're implying women on average get physically stimulated as much as men.

There's empirical evidence out there that have shown men typically think about sex more than women (some scientific studies have said men think of sex as often as every 7 seconds) and score higher in libido studies.

There's actual evolutionary biologists who have multiple theories why this is, but the bottomline is there isn't some biological equilibrium between men and women in the sexual desire category like you're implying.

Notice how I said "some studies" because obviously not all studies shared the same conclusion regarding the exact number of times men think about sex daily (although they do in fact all come to the same conclusion that males typically think about sex more than women on average).

Plus even in the "myth-buster" article you linked in response to my post above - your own link actually supported my entire position that men think about sex more than women in the first sentence of the article:

And while people often attribute the myth to research by the Kinsey Institute, the *actual *research shows that while men think about sex a lot (and yes, more often than women

Again, let me also clarify once more that I'm not using my point to make an argument that attempts to justify why one gender should cheat more than the other. I'm merely saying biological differences between genders exist and manifest itself through things like sex drive, aggression (statistically males have a higher a tendency of mindless violence) and human's relatively limited sexual dimorphism.

 

[DarrynCobretti]

This is where social context comes in, because studies show that women routinely under-report their sexual desire to fulfill expectations for women to be less sexual. That's why studies have been done to test both women's reporting and their physiological changes when reporting desire. Most of the time the woman's report and the actual displayed desire did not match up. So getting to the truth is a lot more complicated than a formula of hormone levels.



There isn't any denial from me that there aren't inherent biological differences between men and women though. If the initial poster I quoted had said there is a correlation between testosterone and physical strength and perhaps even aggression, I'd see the merit. But he said testosterone and sexual desire. And because men have more testosterone than women, they are obviously more sexual. Its not true.

Plus, men like to downplay the social aspect of behavior to try to make the behavior they want women to practice be more rigid and seem more sound. That's why the other dude in here is losing his mind because he really wants women to believe he can cheat and its natural and ok but if she cheats she is going against her own biology. But sexual desire is heavily socially influenced. It really is.

For instance, say we take men and women's reports on desire as accurate. Consider the fact that you as a man can turn on your TV now and not only see TV shows but even commercial ads that heavily sexualize women. You can see women sexualized on the sides of buses and on billboards and in store windows. If your sex drive is constantly being primed by outside forces like this, it could very easily explain why you report a higher sex drive when asked. You are quite literally being stimulated more often. Women on the other hand, do not have comparable stimuli constantly being thrown at them, and would reasonably report less. This is a scenario where the sexes are actually speaking the truth in reporting, but you cannot tie it to any natural biological differences.

Ok then I stand corrected. You raised a perfectly logical point, in fact had you said your entire last paragraph in the first place I wouldn't even argued against it.

There's definitely an environmental influence in behavioral differences and how both genders sexuality are expressed. Moreover, just how much of it is nature v. nurture is a topic still debated in academic circles by people smarter than you and I.

Nonetheless, the fact remains that biological differences like sexual dimorphism for example, immensely influence behavioral differences as well and statistically speaking, men are simply more prone to mindless violence and have a greater sexual urge on average globally.

Keep in mind I'm not supporting the guy who you quoted nor his argument that seeks to justify why men should cheat more (or vice versa). I was under the impression that you were claiming that there isn't a biological difference between genders and that women on average are just as horny and sex-driven as men.

 

[Claudex]

"wife OR spouse"?


wtf

You can't trust a man who decides to get married and then cheats on his wife.
If you do, don't be surprised the day he sells you out/stabs you in the back.

I thought this was common sense. Apparently not.

 

[Tetsuo]

Grew up looking up to one of my older cousins, always thought he was this great guy. Dude cheated on his girl that he had been with for years, had 3 kids with the side chick, and then cheated on her

He hasn't done anything scandalous with his current girl and he still my nikka, but I can't look at him the same.

 

[PartyHeart]

Ok then I stand corrected. You raised a perfectly logical point, in fact had you said your entire last paragraph in the first place I wouldn't even argued against it.

There's definitely an environmental influence in behavioral differences and how both genders sexuality are expressed. Moreover, just how much of it is nature v. nurture is a topic still debated in academic circles by people smarter than you and I.

Nonetheless, the fact remains that biological differences like sexual dimorphism for example, immensely influence behavioral differences as well and statistically speaking, men are simply more prone to mindless violence and have a greater sexual urge on average globally.

Keep in mind I'm not supporting the guy who you quoted nor his argument that seeks to justify why men should cheat more (or vice versa). I was under the impression that you were claiming that there isn't a biological difference between genders and that women on average are just as horny and sex-driven as men.

Show your studies about sexual dimorphism having immense influence on sexual behavior? As I have said, most of the differences in the behavior of the sexes are socially influenced. When you start saying the differences are innate and "correct" so to speak, you are definitely going to have to prove it.

As far as your question, I am definitely challenging the idea that men biologically have more sexual desire. Please post your studies since you seem to be very confident that they do and it has nothing to do with social influence. Remember, I have already disproven your initial one about male reporting more desire in two different ways.