You could be loving parents and raise a shytty ass kid. Good luck breh
As A Man How do u make amends with never being married or having kids?
ill_will82
What you see, is what you get
How do I make amends being a 30+ yr old male with no wife & kids... Simple. I just don't worry about shyt like that anymore.
To be honest, I feel the way I feel because I figure I have a lot going against me and Idk why but that's just the way it is. I was born with a physical disability and now as I get older along with my parents becoming older I understand that they aren't going to be around forever. And, I said that to say this I have to look out for my interest just a little bit more than the average person. Society is so fukked up that I made up my mind a few years ago that I really don't want any kids. You are responsible for bring a life(or lives) in this world that you have to feed, discipline, & love and deal with anything else they bring into you're path that a lot of weight to have on one's shoulders. Women aren't what they use to be like my mother & grandmother were. Marriage is a joke these days because ppl get married for the wrong reasons. Sometimes I question if I would ever be man enough to deal with any challenges in my life and be able to stand on my own two feet as a man.
I worry about a lot things to the point where I've been told I think too much.
To be honest, I feel the way I feel because I figure I have a lot going against me and Idk why but that's just the way it is. I was born with a physical disability and now as I get older along with my parents becoming older I understand that they aren't going to be around forever. And, I said that to say this I have to look out for my interest just a little bit more than the average person. Society is so fukked up that I made up my mind a few years ago that I really don't want any kids. You are responsible for bring a life(or lives) in this world that you have to feed, discipline, & love and deal with anything else they bring into you're path that a lot of weight to have on one's shoulders. Women aren't what they use to be like my mother & grandmother were. Marriage is a joke these days because ppl get married for the wrong reasons. Sometimes I question if I would ever be man enough to deal with any challenges in my life and be able to stand on my own two feet as a man.
I worry about a lot things to the point where I've been told I think too much.
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You could get hit by a car every day you step out of your home
If you want to live fearing worst case scenarios and have that prevent you from living life to the fullest, that's your depressing reality, enjoy it
I practice some fukking mindfulness. I acknowledge whatever emotion comes up and move on. Dont confuse introspection with rumination 
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Life is suffering. Impermanent and always changing. Some guy named Sid said something like that and he grew up fukking pampered.
.Life is suffering. Impermanent and always changing. Some guy named Sid said something like that and he grew up fukking pampered.
Taadow
The StarchBishop™️
...Because (as I previously stated) there's more bad than good...
You seem like a person who is led by your emotions.
For black people it ALWAYS makes sense. You can't be statistically lowest on the educational and financial food chain, yet expect to get ahead on your own.
What is that assuming? People are not getting married dispite reasonable options?
Taadow
The StarchBishop™️
I'm not sure I understand your question. I do think black men specifically avoid marriage based on fears they have never experienced although the partnership is mostly beneficial to them.
Life. Poverty. Marriage is a great wealth building tool when used properly. Stereo typically we are not equipped with the proper tools to advance on our own. It's very key to form beneficial partnerships with each other through marriage, solid friendships and business relationships. I feel marriage is the most important partnership, not just for children and family and while you're here, but for the legal rights your family is entitled when you die. Which is important because your legacy shouldn't die when you do.
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Youseenmywork
KING
You and a few other men may be the exception and not the rule. I'm 32 I don't think I will get married and I have said it since I was 19 that I don't want any kids. To these rest of the world I'm failure. I don't think or ever believe I'm a failure due to not meeting this world expectations. Relationships and EVERYTHING in this world have become a business. I just choose not to take part in it. You can say it not about YOU but if you don't live you and put you first nothing works out for a man. The man is the top of the food chain. Women's love is opportunistic it lesson that most men are starting to wake up to.
Its a sad day when my 80yr old grandmother says that women anit the same anymore. They all over the the place these days.
Youseenmywork
KING
Its other ways for a man to create a legacy without a wife and kids and have an positive effect on this world.
Youseenmywork
KING
Let me add ....that in this society I see that they are tearing down manhood each day all the while while putting women above men. What society forgets is that women get their que from men. I'm not going into deep on that but the society is all but saying they don't need men.
When I was a kid all I heard was about HOW great women were. I NEVER heard women or anybody else say anything good about men. The world wanted equality not knowing it comes at a very costly price. Hell black men a century ago was getting married today not so much today and if they are they are waiting real late to do it. The sad shyt nobody cares why.
When I was a kid all I heard was about HOW great women were. I NEVER heard women or anybody else say anything good about men. The world wanted equality not knowing it comes at a very costly price. Hell black men a century ago was getting married today not so much today and if they are they are waiting real late to do it. The sad shyt nobody cares why.
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Youre not a failure to me, we're just wired different
Do I think one day you most likely will have some regret, I do, but maybe you won't
I don't understand you're thinking because I can't, my whole life is the joy of loving my family
But I'll say this, don't have kids if you feel you don't want them, a kid needs parents who are 100 percent all in on being a parent
I respect all, but these are just my opinions live your life
jwonder
Superstar
Look at this dude. He's
. So is wife is also. Fat people are least desired. So yes his marriage could be really good. They both know they can't do any better.
But normal marriages today fail.