As much as I love my wife....

[Sansprix]

i agree with everything you said, except counseling....fukk that.

when i talked to her this morning, i told her what i was feeling, and she said that she has been feeling like that too. so i'm like if you have been feeling that way, why didn't you say something then?! she said because she didn't want to argue with me. since when does a woman not speak her mind because she doesn't want to argue? that seems like more of a reason to nag a nikka about it. so they CAN argue and pour out their feelings. makes no sense to me....

This is different than a "I asked you to take out the trash" kinda nag. This is a deeper, realer conversation and maybe she felt like you weren't open to this kinda dialogue. I think you took a big first step, and just really be direct and precise about what it is you want to different between you two. You need to realize she won't change over night, so give her a reasonable amount of time to prove to you that she wants to change and bring it back to how it was. You should also try and do things differently as well, take the initiative to start showing her affection, and see if she starts initiating it on her own.

 

[Steve Piffler]

I agree. Work on the spark. How long is "awhile"? No where in here did you mention you two communicating about this issue?? 13 years is a long time. You two both owe it to yourselves to at least address the issue, and try to work on things. AND THEN if things don't work out, so be it. Ignoring the issue, and y'all doing your own thing is just compounding the issue. No marriage is easy all the time, sometimes you have to work at it. The fact that you haven't left tells me that there is still love and a desire for things to work out. So at least try.

Best Wishes

i'm not just gonna bounce. but i am close to the edge. I'm trying not to lose my head, ah huh-huh-huh. () but for real, i got one more shot in me, but 2012 is it. if it doesn't turn around by years end, i'm out. so that's what.....6 1/2 months? that's all i have left. i refuse to start a new year with old problems from previous years. i'm over it. 1 last ditch effort, and i'm done after that. i'm 35, got a lucrative career, am handsome, responsible, and a faithful s/o. i'm a catch and I know it. so things better shape up soon between us or i'll have to do what i gotta do....

 

[Suicide King]

this

But breh why are you talking to us and not her. Your both adults so you need to sit down and have an adult conversation about the future of the marriage and decide whats best to do for everyone.

Basically.

Also, we don't know his flaws or her flaws. Can be a lot that they might need to work through, takes a lot of effort to look past someone's imperfections. Relationships ends because people are no longer willing to accept each other's shortcomings.

 

[Steve Piffler]

We're overly negative?

fukk y'all. This is the death of a relationship we're looking at here. It has cancer. The woman has emotionally checked out. Do you fools know what that entails? A woman will be emotionally attached to someone who beats the living piss out of her if she feels that's all she has. But when there's an emotional spark elsewhere.....



Women can't survive without attention and affection for very long. The fact that she's okay with the distance says she's getting it elsewhere, whether sex is involved or not. Sometimes there's no need to prolong the inevitable. Chemo can slow down cancer, but it can't cure it. He has his quality of life to think about here. Not impressing people on the Coli who think he needs to "make it work" because it's a marriage. They've been through hell and back for 13 years, you don't think THAT is making it work?

 

[Girl Melane]

i agree with everything you said, except counseling....fukk that.

when i talked to her this morning, i told her what i was feeling, and she said that she has been feeling like that too. so i'm like if you have been feeling that way, why didn't you say something then?! she said because she didn't want to argue with me. since when does a woman not speak her mind because she doesn't want to argue? that seems like more of a reason to nag a nikka about it. so they CAN argue and pour out their feelings. makes no sense to me....

um.. contrary to popular belief, we don't always like to argue...

 

[Steve Piffler]

um.. contrary to popular belief, we don't always like to argue...

 

[Steve Piffler]

At least half of it will

hey, if that's the case, she can have it. i can buy another.

 

[MikelArteta]

Liggins spitting fire like a dragon in game of thrones

 

[Rarely-Wrong Liggins]

um.. contrary to popular belief, we don't always like to argue...

Anyway, when you lose the intimacy and sex, that's one thing. But when the emotional is gone.....it's hard to get that back. Because she's investing it elsewhere. You really have to decide if it's worth it because you're going to have to go all in to get that shyt back, and it's less than 30% that you can reverse this. It's been a year. That's a long time to let something fester and rot.

Keep your head up bro. It's going to be rough no doubt, either way. But think about what's best for you and your son. She needs to factor in less and less.

 

[Double Burger With Cheese]

We're overly negative?

fukk y'all. This is the death of a relationship we're looking at here. It has cancer. The woman has emotionally checked out. Do you fools know what that entails? A woman will be emotionally attached to someone who beats the living piss out of her if she feels that's all she has. But when there's an emotional spark elsewhere.....



Women can't survive without attention and affection for very long. The fact that she's okay with the distance says she's getting it elsewhere, whether sex is involved or not. Sometimes there's no need to prolong the inevitable. Chemo can slow down cancer, but it can't cure it. He has his quality of life to think about here. Not impressing people on the Coli who think he needs to "make it work" because it's a marriage. They've been through hell and back for 13 years, you don't think THAT is making it work?

I'm saying tho

 

[Double Burger With Cheese]

hey, if that's the case, she can have it. i can buy another.

 

[Ohene]

Anyway, when you lose the intimacy and sex, that's one thing. But when the emotional is gone.....it's hard to get that back. Because she's investing it elsewhere. You really have to decide if it's worth it because you're going to have to go all in to get that shyt back, and it's less than 30% that you can reverse this. It's been a year. That's a long time to let something fester and rot.

Keep your head up bro. It's going to be rough no doubt, either way. But think about what's best for you and your son. She needs to factor in less and less.

aint that the truth

 

[MikelArteta]

Anyway, when you lose the intimacy and sex, that's one thing. But when the emotional is gone.....it's hard to get that back. Because she's investing it elsewhere. You really have to decide if it's worth it because you're going to have to go all in to get that shyt back, and it's less than 30% that you can reverse this. It's been a year. That's a long time to let something fester and rot.

Keep your head up bro. It's going to be rough no doubt, either way. But think about what's best for you and your son. She needs to factor in less and less.

Yep, I guarantee it she's banging someone else, or of not Banging in a emotional affair.

 

[Steve Piffler]

Anyway, when you lose the intimacy and sex, that's one thing. But when the emotional is gone.....it's hard to get that back. Because she's investing it elsewhere. You really have to decide if it's worth it because you're going to have to go all in to get that shyt back, and it's less than 30% that you can reverse this. It's been a year. That's a long time to let something fester and rot.

Keep your head up bro. It's going to be rough no doubt, either way. But think about what's best for you and your son. She needs to factor in less and less.

like i said, i'll give it until end of the year. either i'm starting 2013 with a new outlook on my marriage, or i'm gonna be a single man. either way, i'mma be good....

 

[Double Burger With Cheese]

Yep, I guarantee it she's banging someone else, or of not Banging in a emotional affair.

This nikka is obsessed with that man wife being a cheater