Asian Parents really be Ethering their own seeds

[Bushmaster69]

Never met an Asian who resented their parents for pushing them to obtain a life they could only dream via a good education.

Exactly.

We should be doing the exact same thing, but it's thecoli.com so....

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

This is terrible parenting and it’s one of the main reasons why many Asian countries have high suicide rates (particularly Japan & South Korea)

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

This is terrible parenting and it’s one of the main reasons why many Asian countries have high suicide rates (particularly Japan & South Korea)

 

[ogc163]

This is part of cultural capital, and it does have substantial benefits in a knowledge based economy, as evidenced by their financial success. It is not the only factor, as there seems to be a correlation between immigrants education level in their native country and subsequent outcomes when they head overseas.

But it should be noted that while east and southeast asians perform at similar levels up until the associate level, southeast asians generally outperform them past that point.


Further, at elite law firms for example, east asians have relatively great associate numbers, but have dismal partner numbers.

 

[Crayola Coyote]

"You are African, not 'B'frican."

“afri-can not Afri-cant”

 

[Voice of Reason]

Black American parents need to be just as strict.


Too many ADOS parents coddle their boys especially.

 

[Bboystyle]

Who fukking cares about Asians.


I swear the coli turning into some gossipy ass forum with dumb ass threads

 

[MajesticLion]

"abuse"

 

[2 Up 2 Down]

fukk asians

Why the random hate​

 

[Brehcepticon]

Have emotionally abusive people for parents, brehsians.

 

[MischievousMonkey]

It works for them.

The Black kids who I grew up with had parents with high standards and expectations. It worked out for us.

Not once have I read any of these articles thinking that some other group's methods are something to emulate. People I knew were from different ethnic groups, so I never saw academic success or parental pressure to succeed as being tied to ethnicity. I saw it as tied to individual household standards.

If what the author's parents did worked for her, great. She may temper their methods with love and encouragement when she raises her own children. But those high standards will still be there.

Hence why I said in my first post "if you like it, I love it".

I'm also distinguishing parental pressure to achieve academic success from

continually deny affection, acknowledgement and respect to your child, even once he reaches the goal you set for him, for him to develop work ethic

and

“You’re a piece of garbage.” Can you believe that this is what my mom said to me whenever I messed up a test or forgot to do chores? I’m sure that this happens at least once in a lifetime to almost every Asian kid I know. I am now used to being verbally insulted by my own mother

It's like the "beating children into shape" debate. Can beating work? Sure. Does it have drawbacks? Studies point toward it. It is necessary for every child? Probably not. Are there forms of beating that are extreme, muddying the debate because everybody thinks about different scenarii when it comes to it? Absolutely.

 

[AAKing23]

This is terrible parenting and it’s one of the main reasons why many Asian countries have high suicide rates (particularly Japan & South Korea)

That’s a good point, never thought about it like that

Probably why suicide just seems to a part of their culture

 

[spliz]

That’s a good point, never thought about it like that

Probably why suicide just seems to a part of their culture

I been saying it all thru this thread. I said the financial gain is definitely apparent because they are taught how to win. The biggest issue with them is they aren’t taught how to lose. Thus. Cant handle it and it’s lights out.

 

[get these nets]

I been saying it all thru this thread. I said the financial gain is definitely apparent because they are taught how to win. The biggest issue with them is they aren’t taught how to lose. Thus. Cant handle it and it’s lights out.

The suicide rates of other countries doesn't really factor into this thread about Asian Americans. Other than as a deflection, to be honest.

Racial and Ethnic Disparities | Suicide Prevention Resource Center

 

[LurkMoar]

Never met an Asian who resented their parents for pushing them to obtain a life they could only dream via a good education.

Yea none of these doctors I know are mad at their parents, the ones mad usually try to emulate their hippy cac friends who hate their parents