At The End of The Day It’s On Black Men To Police Our Communities

[HARLEM AL]

Ok, but I'm asking how much of the blame falls on black women? 100%?

Why are black women choosing bad black men over the good ones?

Because its their choice. They are free do with whatever they want with their bodies

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

Because its their choice. They are free do with whatever they want with their bodies

Ok, but that doesn't really answer the question in it's entirety. Women can do as they please, but something needs to attract/convince/influence them to do it. Why are they making the choice to lay with hood dudes? Why are they attracted to hood dudes?

 

[GoPro]

c00nish shyt I’ve ever read in my fukking life

I'm the realest since c00nbaya. You go ahead a reward bad behavior all you want to. Not I. Every time you mentor some jit, or play stepdad, you're ultimately rewarding bad behavior (both Pookie's and Pookiesha's), just remember that. They're gonna continue reproducing like rabbits, knowing some gimp is going to come in like Superman and save Lois once again.

 

[RickyDiBiase]

I'm the realest since c00nbaya. You go ahead a reward bad behavior all you want to. Not I. Every time you mentor some jit, or play stepdad, you're ultimately rewarding bad behavior (both Pookie's and Pookiesha's), just remember that. They're gonna continue reproducing like rabbits, knowing some gimp is going to come in like Superman and save Lois once again.

Yeah you might as well get to introducing yourself to some skin whitening cream and get it over with. Hope prostate cancer takes you before anything ese

 

[HARLEM AL]

Ok, but that doesn't really answer the question in it's entirety. Women can do as they please, but something needs to attract/convince/influence them to do it. Why are they making the choice to lay with hood dudes? Why are they attracted to hood dudes?

Being a hood dude doesnt mean shyt. I know hood nikkas that are good fathers. Im talking about picking good fathers period. I dont care if he a square or if he got swag.

You asking me a question that should be geared towards women playa.

 

[The Burger King]

If i was a simp I wouldn't be asking y'all these questions.

How much of the blame is on black women?

Why are black women only choosing bad black men?

You answered your first question with your second question.

Responding to your second question, women in general tend to pick their mates poorly.

But it’s amplified in the black community because of simps like some of the posters in this thread who lie and say stupid shyt like “both sides are equally responsible” when it comes to these discussions because it’s the “pro-black” thing to do.

In other words, lack of accountability.

 

[F*ckthemkids]

I'm just gonna leave this one here. Ya'll can peruse as you wish...

https://www.thecoli.com/threads/why-is-rickydibiase-in-my-dms-2-oclock-in-the-morning-with-thoughts-of-sucking-d-ck.949482/

 

[Nkrumah Was Right]

Ok, but that doesn't really answer the question in it's entirety. Women can do as they please, but something needs to attract/convince/influence them to do it. Why are they making the choice to lay with hood dudes? Why are they attracted to hood dudes?

Hip hop

 

[Matriarchy Refugee]

Ok, but that doesn't really answer the question in it's entirety. Women can do as they please, but something needs to attract/convince/influence them to do it. Why are they making the choice to lay with hood dudes? Why are they attracted to hood dudes?

Because they find them exciting and they get turned on by the sense of danger street dudes bring. Because street dudes are always available to take them out because they don't work. Because street dudes are the ultimate simps. Because the D boys and scammers are often dependent on their girl to launder thier money, so the women get to power trip.

And because our culture doesn't not value fatherhood as a social role, they don't mind getting pregnant by these men. Black american women have a long as fukk checklist for men, and fatherly qualities ain't ever on it. And fatherly qualities are what street dudes lack the most. They don't want to be fathers. And that's the most insideous reason a lot of black women pick them in the first place. The culture encourages black american women to dominate their families, and a man who wants to be a father gets in the way of that.

So how many times do these women have to say "I don't need a man!" before you believe them?

How many times do black feminist have to say "Dismantle the patriarchy!" and "Abolish the nuclear family!" before you believe them?

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

Being a hood dude doesnt mean shyt. I know hood nikkas that are good fathers. Im talking about picking good fathers period. I dont care if he a square or if he got swag.

You asking me a question that should be geared towards women playa.

You made the claim of black women choosing the wrong guys, so I asked you why.

Why are they attracted to the wrong guys?

You answered your first question with your second question.

Responding to your second question, women in general tend to pick their mates poorly.

But it’s amplified in the black community because of simps like some of the posters in this thread who lie and say stupid shyt like “both sides are equally responsible” when it comes to these discussions because it’s the “pro-black” thing to do.

In other words, lack of accountability.

So the blame is 100% on black women and black women only?

 

[Cornershooter]

There are. Anytime brehs try to downplay this point, they should be checked.

It’s impossible for a subgroup of BM to be outstanding and want better for the community.. and there not be a subgroup of BW that follows them.

You know what? this is a amazing point that I selfishly never considered

I’ll be a little less negative

 

[HARLEM AL]

You made the claim of black women choosing the wrong guys, so I asked you why.

Why are they attracted to the wrong guys?



So the blame is 100% on black women and black women only?

Because they like dikk. Is that good enough?

 

[360dagod]

Single motherhood is rising in all communities these days.

You make a good point about how the system has played a role in leading to these broken households.

However, I can't in good faith take agency away from the fathers. I know there's good fathers out in the streets who get screwed over by their baby mamas and what have you. But there's a lot of fathers in the hood that are straight up deadbeats or uninterested in being active in their kids' lives without any influence from the mother. I've seen cases of fathers moving to different cities and states to be with other women as opposed to raising their kids as well as fathers who still get caught up trying to partake in nonsense(drugs, street shyt, etc.) to the detriment of their own lives as well as their children.

So, I think it goes both ways: The system(particularly section 8 housing) rewarding single moms over 2 parent families and the lack of emphasis on monogamy and marriage in our own communities.

If more Black people in both genders valued long term relationships and especially marriage over hooking up and having kids out of wedlock, many broken households would be fixed but it's a team effort.

Women want the baby and they'll figure out the rest later..

And that means it's gonna be a collective effort amongst the government,,grandma/sis/auntie and whatever men that are in her radius...

They get all the baby daddy duties while the actual baby daddy just gets cursed out from afar lol..

I got a female family member out of a jam her boyfriend got her into and she did exactly what I expected her to...

Cry and go right back to him...

She been making "mistakes" since a teen...

I let someone else play Jesus out here lol

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

Because they like dikk. Is that good enough?

How exactly you expect the community to be fixed if you giving answers like that? Or do you not care and young black boys should grow up wandering into white suburbs for better support?

White, Asian, and Hispanic women don't choose wrong.

What's going on with Black women then?

 

[The Burger King]

You made the claim of black women choosing the wrong guys, so I asked you why.

Why are they attracted to the wrong guys?



So the blame is 100% on black women and black women only?

Why are you trying to quantify the blame?

It’s a pointless question to ask in the first place because it depends on how you choose to look at it and how far you are willing to go back in history to point the finger.

It doesn’t really matter who shares what percentage of the blame. It’s a deflection tactic used to derail the discussion.

But I CAN tell you that productive black men (the majority) are NOT responsible for the current state of the community.