Iâm legit curious. Are there any cases of men in this predicament?
Of course! They just donât talk about it because society judges yall differently in these situations.
Like that pastor Eddie Long who mysteriously died of some illness they didnât reveal until ppl noted his rapidly deteriorating health.
All those young boys ppl said he was flying around with him and paying them. They werenât all underage. Some were young college students who, it can be guessed, were being financially assisted by him. He wasnât just reading the Bible with those young men.

18 is legal, but itâs easy to make bad decisions when the person who is in control of your career, livelihood, opportunities, etc is telling you that you need to do something strange for some change. Coercion is real and happens to both sexes.
The point is if you are 18, 19, 20 and someone 2x your age is pressing you, you may give in because youâre intimidated. You still made the decision, but you made it under duress.
Everyone can look back at situations that happened when you were younger and say âyou know what, if that shyt happened today I wouldâve handled it differentlyâ. Ppl try you when youâre young and new to the adult world.
If you were talking to an 18YO girl you KNOW you could play her like a fiddle compared to a 28YO woman. Thatâs the point.
A grown man in his 30s can talk down to a young man and son him more easily than he could a man who is his own age (30s). Someone steps to you a certain way, it ainât going down. But if they step to your 18YO little brother or cousin, they might not know how to handle the situation because they donât have life experience yet.
Do I believe some of the stuff with Cassie and Diddy was consensual? Yea, sure. Do I also believe a 36YO man put a 19YO in a recording contract and made it clear he was in control of her career and that if she didnât play his game her career would be over? Yes, I also believe that. And when you are 18, 19, 20 that can be incredibly intimidating.
I mentioned it before- Iâve have college professors try it, pastors try it, police officers who were a little too flirtatious, etc. A lot of old men try it with young women. A LOT. But the men in my family were only a phone call away and I knew those men trying me didnât really have control over my life. So I froze and waited for them to realize I wasnât engaging and they looked like weirdos or I found an exit and never turned back.
But if that was my boss literally in charge of my (music) career, or the person who signed off on a scholarship or school admissions <â those are the crazy situations where men in power may try young women.
Cassie was an extreme case. Sounds like it was a decade of Harvey Weinstein. If Diddy had gotten to her at like 25, she probably wouldâve been like âhold up fukk thisâ MUCH SOONER.
I always mention JLO. You know Diddy was cheating on her and beating her ass too- the difference is JLo was a grown ass 30YO star in her own right and was able to walk away when shyt got dicey. Cassie never built anything independent of a man so whenever she left Diddy, she would literally be starting from scratch like when she was 19.