At what age did you "Find Yourself" ?

[unit321]

What the hell does it even mean to find yourself?

You know what you want to do in life. That directs everything you do. You know what you want in life and what you don't want.

I was kind of lost after high school. I did very good in HS and was the valedictorian but I ended up pursuing a degree in business management. My goal was to get employed with a big company and make it to middle management at one point. Pretty open. As I got older and still going through college, I met people who had more direction and goals. I wish I was more motivated like them. I had one classmate who was in NROTC and taking like extra coursework every semester. Later, he went to flight school over one summer. Right before graduating, he said he was heading to a Navy flight school to learn to fly jets. He did really good in classes too, super smart dude. I was always in the middle. I'm like how do you do it? I had to take an extra class one semester and it got so bad, I dropped out of one of the classes. I couldn't do it and didn't want to fail a class.
Later on, I changed careers into IT. Paid better. I don't think I had found myself yet, so to speak, but I was wiser and smarter.
Then later on, I changed careers again. I was super gung ho, I always wanted to be a cop. Anyway, that didn't work out after 3+ years so I went back to IT.

This is me at finding myself ->
I don't have huge career ambitions anymore, but I do good work at my job and get paid well, not six-figures awesome. Family and friends are important, f' real.

 

[Majestic Pape]

I can relate. I'm 24 but, in my mind, I dont feel a day over 20. Maybe its cuz I didnt go to college right away & still on campus around all the youngins. I remember over the summer, I had to go to the bank to handle an issue & I was being helped by this white dude. Everything went cool, we actually talked a bit. Apparently, after he graduated he left Virginia, got engaged & moved up north to work there. Seemed matured, had shyt figured out.....in contrast to me. I figured he was 27, 28, 29. White boy was just one month older than me

I'm 26 and I pretty much get a new job every few months (retail, restaurant, little bullshyt lke that) and I always end up working for someone a couple of years younger than me. And I often run into kids that are only like 22-25 that seem as though they're clearly more mature than me.

shyt is fukking up my confidence.

The more I examine myself, I see that I pretty much still look at myself as I did when I was in high school and shyt. I assume it's because I really haven't accomplished anything of any type of significance since finishing high school.

 

[Red Omega]

24, still searching..feel im getting close though.

 

[Majestic Pape]

You know what you want to do in life. That directs everything you do. You know what you want in life and what you don't want.

I was kind of lost after high school. I did very good in HS and was the valedictorian but I ended up pursuing a degree in business management. My goal was to get employed with a big company and make it to middle management at one point. Pretty open. As I got older and still going through college, I met people who had more direction and goals. I wish I was more motivated like them. I had one classmate who was in NROTC and taking like extra coursework every semester. Later, he went to flight school over one summer. Right before graduating, he said he was heading to a Navy flight school to learn to fly jets. He did really good in classes too, super smart dude. I was always in the middle. I'm like how do you do it? I had to take an extra class one semester and it got so bad, I dropped out of one of the classes. I couldn't do it and didn't want to fail a class.
Later on, I changed careers into IT. Paid better. I don't think I had found myself yet, so to speak, but I was wiser and smarter.
Then later on, I changed careers again. I was super gung ho, I always wanted to be a cop. Anyway, that didn't work out after 3+ years so I went back to IT.

This is me at finding myself ->
I don't have huge career ambitions anymore, but I do good work at my job and get paid well, not six-figures awesome. Family and friends are important, f' real.

I wanted to show respect and support for your story, but after reading that

 

[MenacingMonk]

23.

 

[JoelB]

27 and still learning more each day. A lot has changed between now and who I was at 21. Don't focus on looking for that "one moment" to give your life meaning, instead stay out of your comfort zone and embrace what life gives you.

 

[ManBearPig]

da fukk?

 

[Kenny West]

damn im kinda goin thru the same shyt
i got into it wit two of my nikkas cuz they called me the breadwinner out the group
i understood what they was sayin but i snapped cuz i wanna see EVERYBODY eating
that shyt lame when nikkas older then you look up to you

but see its hard cuz they my Day 1 nikkas
like they seen me when i was broke when i was tryna accomplish shyt
droppin 1200 on classes no financial aid, having to hustle/scheme, workin bs jobs
and i seen when them nikkas was doin good, getting money, all that

but this last year i been on some real motivation shyt
and i be feelin like nikkas fallin behind

but i be feelin like them nikkas was apart of my come up

shyt be heavy on my brain sometimes

This is RNS if I ever read it.

Of my original crew I'm part of the 2/6 in school, no kids etc.

Just the other day one of my nikkas was telling me how it's crazy how fast life is going, and even though he working and got a car n shyt it feels like he's running in place.

I felt that shyt last semester when i wasn't in school and even though I had a car and a spot I always felt like shyt. On some "there's gotta be more to life than just THIS"

But my oldheads re-motivated me and now I'm back in school and better than ever. Bout to have my first appearance on the deans list n shyt. I'm trying to do the same but nikkas don't respect the hustle. they just see the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow and nothing else.

and if that pot ain't in your hands then it's like it doesn't exist. I just feel like when I make it, it might be too late to put my nikkas on.

And it's worse cause during my refocusing period I cut so many people off already. A lot of friends and fam still mad. I practically went cold on everyone and these nikkas is some of the last real folks I got left.

man...

 

[bl2k8]

This is RNS if I ever read it.

Of my original crew I'm part of the 2/6 in school, no kids etc.

Just the other day one of my nikkas was telling me how it's crazy how fast life is going, and even though he working and got a car n shyt it feels like he's running in place.

I felt that shyt last semester when i wasn't in school and even though I had a car and a spot I always felt like shyt. On some "there's gotta be more to life than just THIS"

But my oldheads re-motivated me and now I'm back in school and better than ever. Bout to have my first appearance on the deans list n shyt. I'm trying to do the same but nikkas don't respect the hustle. they just see the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow and nothing else.

and if that pot ain't in your hands then it's like it doesn't exist. I just feel like when I make it, it might be too late to put my nikkas on.

And it's worse cause during my refocusing period I cut so many people off already. A lot of friends and fam still mad. I practically went cold on everyone and these nikkas is some of the last real folks I got left.

man...

How old are you breh.

 

[Malta]

I will never truly "find" myself simply because I learn and grow everyday, the person I am dies every night I go to sleep and everyday I wake up reborn, even if it's a tiny change. I came close to finding myself when I was 24 though, but it left me in a position where I'm so jaded towards living in the US, so jaded towards people in general that aren't related to me. I often feel I'm not meant for this world, not on some suicidal shyt, but the fact I don't lust after money, I'm not greedy or selfish. I have to stop myself from calling people morons half the time I'm out, just self centered sacks of shyt that can only think of themselves.

I had to cut a lot of friends loose when I was younger, mainly because I was a better friend to them than they were to me. These are people that I grew up with, went to middles/High school and college with, claimed they had my back, would die for me and we were like brothers, none of that was ever true. shyt like that will change you, it changed me for the better to be honest. I only devote time to loved ones, I don't have close friends anymore, just associates I will chill with to break up the routine every once in a while.

 

[bewitched]

I'm in the process of finding myself now it sucks because I'm basically starting over. By my next birthday, I should be in a situation where I feel comfortable and fulfilled so I can achieve long term goals I set for myself.

 

[Black Magisterialness]

25, and I think i'm close. Still some things i want to improve on professionally but i'm at that point where im 100% unapologetic about who I am and the shyt that I do. I'll always make music (i could care less about "blowin up"), i'll always play video games and shyt, i'll always be an open person. It took a long time to realize alot of things about myself....

and like someone else said being in long term relationships in your late teens and 20's was actually a disadvantage. I went from a 3 year relationship to a summer being single to another 2 year relationship. That's alot of personal growth i just didn't have. I'm matured more in the past 2 years than i have in my entire teenage saga imo. Feels great too.

 

[TRILLWAVE]

I'm 22 and i'm a lost fukkin child

25 fully, I thought I knew "who" i was but looking back on it I was on some bulllshiiiit I just now really got it together I did have fun wildin out in my younger years but I'm glad I grew up

 

[Patriarch]

When I was 19 I started a new journey. I started to lose everyone I cared about-- mainly to violence. A friend of the family gave me X's autobiography, and I haven't been the same since. Started looking at life from a different angle, excelling in college, and trying to find meaning in this crazy world.

 

[gameover82]

Haven't but I find myself wanting to try new things and experience different things