At what age did you "Find Yourself" ?

[Loose]

24 and still lost as shyt will be 25 in a month

 

[Loose]

By the time I was twenty two.
I had lost every relevant person to my life content wise and socially.
Plus had a career I built from the ground up stolen from me.
Of which sent me into post traumatic shock for close to eight years.
so, I know what type of journey and content you sought out and I am glad you found something to help you cope.

If not for my sociological background from college.
I would have perished.

Life is the struggle to survive.

Value you that only.


Art Barr

a artbar post that makes sense


i had to dap this shyt

 

[MAKAVELI25]

Still haven't found myself yet. I'm in school cuz I'm good at school, always have been. Bout to graduate at age 21 in the Spring, taking the LSAT in December, hope to start law school in the fall. I'm very confident in myself, I realize that I have all the tools needed to succeed, but once I start Law school I know that I have no option but to finish ( at owing thousands of dollars in loans and not finishing school). A part of me knows that I have the potential to be great at it, but another part of me just wants to move to Brazil, fukk bad bytches, and smoke weed for the rest of my life. Why go through all this shyt just to be in a continuous rat race? Just to pay the mortgage, have health insurance, and the whole nine yards? fukk marriage, fukk having kids, fukk all of it. But then how do I explain to my parents that they just wasted thousands of dollars over four years paying my rent so I could go to school?

 

[1980sCokeFlow]

How can you come to such an absolute realization at only 25? People don't even hit the peak of their career until their mid-40s and here you are already writing off the possibility of wealth. Makes no sense

I came to that realization because i'm not gonna work hard for it. I am fine being comfortable, things can only get better from here if I stay employed and i'm cool with that. In my industry, I will always have a job and I will remain comfortable. I spend my money on stupid shyt so I could be alot further along bank account wise but I have already gotten what people work all their life to get and that's home ownership (50k left to pay), the 401k is looking chunky, little cc debt, and a nice looking whip.

I also now have a thorough understanding of people, that's just a whole story in itself. To sum it up, i'm FINE with not being THAT nicca.

 

[Majestic Pape]

Still haven't found myself yet. I'm in school cuz I'm good at school, always have been. Bout to graduate at age 21 in the Spring, taking the LSAT in December, hope to start law school in the fall. I'm very confident in myself, I realize that I have all the tools needed to succeed, but once I start Law school I know that I have no option but to finish ( at owing thousands of dollars in loans and not finishing school). A part of me knows that I have the potential to be great at it, but another part of me just wants to move to Brazil, fukk bad bytches, and smoke weed for the rest of my life. Why go through all this shyt just to be in a continuous rat race? Just to pay the mortgage, have health insurance, and the whole nine yards? fukk marriage, fukk having kids, fukk all of it. But then how do I explain to my parents that they just wasted thousands of dollars over four years paying my rent so I could go to school?

That's what I was thinking a few years ago and was the thought process that led me to quit college. I really fukked up by doing that in the long run though, mainly because I ended up defaulting on student loans (that I didn't even know I had, but that's a whole nother story) which pretty much means I've been spending the last five years paying back debt for a degree that I don't even have, and means I can't get a loan to go BACK to school to improve my financial situation. fukk it though.

The crazy part about it is I started a company during a year off from college and made over a million when I sold it, but I squandered that shyt with the quickness.

 

[raidersreceiver]

Im 23, working at a dead end job, don't know wtf to do with my life. I don't even know what to go to school for, and the military is out of the question.

Help brehs

 

[MAKAVELI25]

That's what I was thinking a few years ago and was the thought process that led me to quit college. I really fukked up by doing that in the long run though, mainly because I ended up defaulting on student loans (that I didn't even know I had, but that's a whole nother story) which pretty much means I've been spending the last five years paying back debt for a degree that I don't even have, and means I can't get a loan to go BACK to school to improve my financial situation. fukk it though.

The crazy part about it is I started a company during a year off from college and made over a million when I sold it, but I squandered that shyt with the quickness.

Your situation is exactly why once I start law school I'm going to do my damnedest to finish. No offense, breh, but fukk I look like paying back loans for a degree I didn't even get?

I'd go back to Nigeria and renege on all my debts before I'd do that

 

[Majestic Pape]

Your situation is exactly why once I start law school I'm going to do my damnedest to finish. No offense, breh, but fukk I look like paying back loans for a degree I didn't even get?

I'd go back to Nigeria and renege on all my debts before I'd do that

No offense taken, it is what it is.

I had a problem and took the short term solution, not realizing I was creating a long term problem.

 

[Majestic Pape]

Im 23, working at a dead end job, don't know wtf to do with my life. I don't even know what to go to school for, and the military is out of the question.

Help brehs

Similar situation except I'm 26.

What I have done over the last couple of weeks is got a notebook, and wrote down pretty much EVERYTHING that I want to accomplish in life. And I'm talking about little shyt too, down to "Bench press tomorrow morning" or "Fill out two job applications this afternoon" and shyt. And then I check off everything as I go, and add more shyt as I think of it.

I don't know how it's going to work out over the long haul, but for the short term it has at least motivated me to do SOMETHING. From here on out, I'm gonna treat my life's ambitions like paying off debt - I'm gonna do the smallest things first to gain some confidence, and then tackle bigger and better things as I go along.

 

[TheBigBopper]

I came to that realization because i'm not gonna work hard for it. I am fine being comfortable, things can only get better from here if I stay employed and i'm cool with that. In my industry, I will always have a job and I will remain comfortable. I spend my money on stupid shyt so I could be alot further along bank account wise but I have already gotten what people work all their life to get and that's home ownership (50k left to pay), the 401k is looking chunky, little cc debt, and a nice looking whip.

I also now have a thorough understanding of people, that's just a whole story in itself. To sum it up, i'm FINE with not being THAT nicca.

Makes sense

 

[TheBigBopper]

That's what I was thinking a few years ago and was the thought process that led me to quit college. I really fukked up by doing that in the long run though, mainly because I ended up defaulting on student loans (that I didn't even know I had, but that's a whole nother story) which pretty much means I've been spending the last five years paying back debt for a degree that I don't even have, and means I can't get a loan to go BACK to school to improve my financial situation. fukk it though.

The crazy part about it is I started a company during a year off from college and made over a million when I sold it, but I squandered that shyt with the quickness.

How'd you squander so much money so quickly?

 

[raidersreceiver]

Similar situation except I'm 26.

What I have done over the last couple of weeks is got a notebook, and wrote down pretty much EVERYTHING that I want to accomplish in life. And I'm talking about little shyt too, down to "Bench press tomorrow morning" or "Fill out two job applications this afternoon" and shyt. And then I check off everything as I go, and add more shyt as I think of it.

I don't know how it's going to work out over the long haul, but for the short term it has at least motivated me to do SOMETHING. From here on out, I'm gonna treat my life's ambitions like paying off debt - I'm gonna do the smallest things first to gain some confidence, and then tackle bigger and better things as I go along.

this sounds like a good idea, I might try it out.

But yeah I don't do shyt with my life just work, come home and get on the computer. I have 0 motivation to do anything because I don't know what I want.

 

[Majestic Pape]

How'd you squander so much money so quickly?

Pure ignorance, and not giving a fukk about money at all. I pretty much just wasted it on silly shyt like going to clubs, giving "loans" to family/friends, treating girls (it ain't trickin' if you got - had - it ), shyt like that. I know how these athletes feel.

The other thing that hit me was taxes. I didn't realize how much I actually owed in taxes until the end of the year and I went to an accountant and he told me and I was like and he was like . The accountant I hired for my company had kinda fukked me up on all of my tax statuses when I created the corporation. You live and you learn though, I'll do better the next time.

 

[TheBigBopper]

Still haven't found myself yet. I'm in school cuz I'm good at school, always have been. Bout to graduate at age 21 in the Spring, taking the LSAT in December, hope to start law school in the fall. I'm very confident in myself, I realize that I have all the tools needed to succeed, but once I start Law school I know that I have no option but to finish ( at owing thousands of dollars in loans and not finishing school). A part of me knows that I have the potential to be great at it, but another part of me just wants to move to Brazil, fukk bad bytches, and smoke weed for the rest of my life. Why go through all this shyt just to be in a continuous rat race? Just to pay the mortgage, have health insurance, and the whole nine yards? fukk marriage, fukk having kids, fukk all of it. But then how do I explain to my parents that they just wasted thousands of dollars over four years paying my rent so I could go to school?

I feel exactly the same way. My plan is to live frugally for the next 10-15 years just saving all my excess income in index funds so I can retire at 35 and live a carefree life. I came across this article on CNN about guys making 250-500k a year and their lifestyles. Sounds like a lot, but once you have a family, you start paying for your kids' education, plus you get hit up harder by the tax man for making a high income anyway. Once you have kids, you're only living a slightly better than middle class life.

If I'm gonna work hard and make that much money, I don't want to be pushing a Honda Civic and take vacations to Disney World instead of flying first class for a European tour. fukk having kids. I'm keeping all my money to myself so I don't have to work hard into my 60s in order to afford sending little brats to college.

 

[jadillac]

Last year was when I found myself.

To be honest, having the guts to get away from religion and opening my mind was the key.

First time in my life I've never been scared of some impending doom for just being myself.

Freedom is really the key to "finding yourself"