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non nerdy ones for starters
Attended a Black Men Brunch today.
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non nerdy ones for starters
you looking at it wrong bro. What do YOU enjoy doing? Go to related meet ups/join groups around those things.
If you have no hobbies, get out the house and just start trying things and see what you enjoy. The fact is organically meeting folks > these fake ass pow wows (let women do this stuff this model doesn't work for men, hell it doesn't even work for women when you hear how fake their friendships are).
I got hobbies jus was curious your input.
My hobbies encompass cooking, gardening, lifting, and shooting.
Issue is with some you don't meet like minded people. It's good though because I have a circle of friends from a Black group where I live.
Lunch dont sound as cool
There are black hunting clubs around. Typically filled with accomplished professional men. Look for hunting or “sportsman” clubs. Not shooting clubs, those are different.
Hunting or sportsman clubs, for instance, hunt locally but also take trips to places like Jackson Hole or South Africa to shoot wild game.
If you’re in Texas, there should be a number of those around.
the 'like minded' thing imo is something you gotta leave at the door as an adult. As long as someone isn't compromising your morals as a man, keep the convo to the hobbies that brought you all together if that makes sense. Outside of family + people you 'came of age' with, most human relationships that aren't intimate are those where people keep folks around who add some sort of value to their lives, so I'd say keep that mindset when it comes to meeting new people (the hobbies/similar interest is more so to help meet folks organically vs the who fake caring about what someone is talking about).
this was your que to moonwalk out of there. Don't ever allow these agents to try and normalize their gay agenda lingo in your presence. Should've at the very least called him out on it and criticized his motives.
All true. The one problem I would have (hell, still have it) was explaining to kids all this without sounding like a black supremacist. I get this issue when dealing with older kids. Younger kids are far easier to talk to about that but they don't appreciate a lot of the minute details like older kids do.
"Alright kids today we're going to establish a black hegemony! Who's with me?"
King
The black man is always targeted.
WhewwBasically it was for 100 Black Men to come together, network, and talk about the main topic which was "Tough Love".
The event was supposed to start at 2. I roll there around 2:30 and I thought brunch would be popping off and prepared, but it wasn't ready until 2:45.
The guest speaker wanted us to talk about Tough Love and what it meant. In the middle of it a woman came and the speaker came and said "Stand up men! We got a queen here and she ain't got a man!" or something to that effect.
The rules also included no misogny or homophobia. I understand and agree with both but there are many spaces now where ones opinion, especially a Black man's can be misconstrued as bigoted so I thought that was some bullshyt there.
In his beginning topics he used the term "cis hetero straight men" more than once, to which I'm argue I'm not cis ANYTHING but I think he was being sensitive to some of the gay Black men there.
Those two combined made me think it was on some bullshyt.
We finally got food and did brief networking. Some Black men in the community were doing some good things trying to get young Black children transportation to school, fighting food insecurity, getting more Black people in tech. All good!
The conversation went back to the topic of tough love.
One thing that annoyed me was that the speaker was using tropes of men saying we don't talk about feelings. The speaker even said he just talked about feelings two weeks ago with his therapist and is "just learning about it"...so why are you speaking on it?!
Some people said tough love was out of necessity which I agree. I was waiting for someone to say that tough love was toxic but thankfully no one did.
The brunch speaker also gave me the impression that he just liked to hear himself talk. He is an activist in the community so I feel that he thinks he can speak on things.
Wish there was more networking and building instead of being lectured to. We didn't need a theme for us to come together. One breh said that he went to one last year and people talk talked but they aren't here today.
@hood b. goode invited me to it and I think we could do a better one that serves our community better
This reminds me of when I studied at an “elite” university
Lots of little black boule jr events going on. More of the same lecturing neoliberal feminist BS. Either that or the more subtle neoliberal elitism. I definitely got myself kicked out of the nominations for a few organizations that were looking at me due to the fukkery I was involved in on campus
Come to think of it, A LOT of the black men I know who are successful in corporate today were apart of these organizations. The elitism may actively be working to keep black men like me out from the system
