I'm going to try to choose my words carefully so it doesn't get twisted up into some elitist dumb shyt. People stay chomping at the bit to call someone a c00n/Uncle Tom on here but this is what I've observed (personally)...
So this post isn't too lengthy, here's my background info:
So that's me...I love black women, white women, latinas, Asians...if a chick is cool, intelligent, and bad, I'm down to date. I've attracted and dated all kinds of either. People on here seem to put out a perception that black men can only attracted certain kinds of chicks outside of their own race. Women are women, brehs.
NOW...what I've noticed (and I peeped this in college) is that I VERY RARELY really get out-right approached by an urban black woman. I'll always have to hear about her being interested through someone else or I hear it WAY after the fact...OR it'll be something overly straight-forward & sexual from the jump. "Ooo...you work' out, huh? Flex. You should be my trainer."
...but it's never really on some chill & conversational shyt. My guess (JUST A THEORY NOW) is that most urban black women are used to cats being aggressive and getting into their ear so it's probably not that they're not attracted to you...it's probably that they're not used to pursuing the guy they'd want. Maybe the stand-offish approach works better for them. I could see how and there's nothing wrong with that. Everyone has their niche.
White chicks are probably more likely to approach a guy they're interested in b/c they're just more open to conversation/flirty by nature (once again, this is just a theory). More of them have probably seen results from being aggressive and seen that playing hard-to-get'll have you lonely in the bushes. There's also probably less stigma about in that culture about guys aren't aggressive so it's all the same, whereas, black women seem to be a bit more leery & suspicious about black men...waiting for there to be a catch of some sort.
I've heard WILD things from black women that have made me go
"I just didn't think that you'd be interested in me" or I've heard, "I don't know...I just would've thought you weren't into black girls for real." 
I ask why and there's never really any explanation. Don't want to think it's a case of selling themselves short somehow, but shyt's weird.
I don't know, brehs. Don't take any of this as absolute...because it definitely varies from place to place and woman to woman. This is just what I've experienced. The really unfortunate part in all this is that a lot of people date interracially and get judged as if they're putting another color or culture on a pedestal, when it's really just a result of coincidence. Some people just relate to people...who relate to people (believe it or not). Just because you date a white chick, Asian, or latina, doesn't mean you're on that
policy. A lot of people (especially black people) seem to just see things, assume, and not make an attempt, so shyt just happens that way.
So this post isn't too lengthy, here's my background info:
I'm from the Westside of Detroit. I live in the residential area...not the outskirts and I've been here my entire life. I started out in public school (all-black), went to a prestigious private middle school (still in the hood, majority white) and a private high school (still in the hood, all black) . Went to a private university (STILL in the hood) with people from all different kinds of backgrounds (suburban/urban/rural, etc.)
So basically, I get along with all kinds of people without going out of my way to change shyt up and have never had a problem...kind of like Patrice O'Neal. :notsure:
I relate to hood shyt. I relate to non-hood shyt. It's all good to me. My taste in everything (from music to humor) is diverse as fukk. I'm 1st-generation Haitian and my family gets along with black people, white people, latinos, Asians, etc. We're as universal as it gets....we like the good things about everyone equally and hate the dumb shyt about everyone equally.
So basically, I get along with all kinds of people without going out of my way to change shyt up and have never had a problem...kind of like Patrice O'Neal. :notsure:
I relate to hood shyt. I relate to non-hood shyt. It's all good to me. My taste in everything (from music to humor) is diverse as fukk. I'm 1st-generation Haitian and my family gets along with black people, white people, latinos, Asians, etc. We're as universal as it gets....we like the good things about everyone equally and hate the dumb shyt about everyone equally.
So that's me...I love black women, white women, latinas, Asians...if a chick is cool, intelligent, and bad, I'm down to date. I've attracted and dated all kinds of either. People on here seem to put out a perception that black men can only attracted certain kinds of chicks outside of their own race. Women are women, brehs.
NOW...what I've noticed (and I peeped this in college) is that I VERY RARELY really get out-right approached by an urban black woman. I'll always have to hear about her being interested through someone else or I hear it WAY after the fact...OR it'll be something overly straight-forward & sexual from the jump. "Ooo...you work' out, huh? Flex. You should be my trainer."
...but it's never really on some chill & conversational shyt. My guess (JUST A THEORY NOW) is that most urban black women are used to cats being aggressive and getting into their ear so it's probably not that they're not attracted to you...it's probably that they're not used to pursuing the guy they'd want. Maybe the stand-offish approach works better for them. I could see how and there's nothing wrong with that. Everyone has their niche.
White chicks are probably more likely to approach a guy they're interested in b/c they're just more open to conversation/flirty by nature (once again, this is just a theory). More of them have probably seen results from being aggressive and seen that playing hard-to-get'll have you lonely in the bushes. There's also probably less stigma about in that culture about guys aren't aggressive so it's all the same, whereas, black women seem to be a bit more leery & suspicious about black men...waiting for there to be a catch of some sort.
I've heard WILD things from black women that have made me go
"I just didn't think that you'd be interested in me" or I've heard, "I don't know...I just would've thought you weren't into black girls for real." I ask why and there's never really any explanation. Don't want to think it's a case of selling themselves short somehow, but shyt's weird.I don't know, brehs. Don't take any of this as absolute...because it definitely varies from place to place and woman to woman. This is just what I've experienced. The really unfortunate part in all this is that a lot of people date interracially and get judged as if they're putting another color or culture on a pedestal, when it's really just a result of coincidence. Some people just relate to people...who relate to people (believe it or not). Just because you date a white chick, Asian, or latina, doesn't mean you're on that
policy. A lot of people (especially black people) seem to just see things, assume, and not make an attempt, so shyt just happens that way.
But maybe it's true 