Bae Is Becoming Cheap. Help A Bruhette Out?

[JahBuhLun]

K.


That all makes sense... But our relationship is great aside for this issue we just started having. I will just talk to him about it.

The next guy I date I will make pay for everything and never contribute. I don't ever want to be too nice or generous, because I have to worry about a man not valuing me if I do.

Thanks for the help.

Love.

So, you are in a great relationship, but you're talking about the next man you're going to date? You're already half way out of the relationship, so why should he invest more into a relationship with you when the return on investment isn't that great?

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

shes also fat

By some standards...

I'm 5ft5 150lbs, but lucky for me BAE doesn't like really slim women.

He says I'm the perfect size. (For him)

We met in the gym coincidently, and work out together often.

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

you need a sugar daddy BabyGirl. You're not mature enough to be in a real relationship

K.

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

So, you are in a great relationship, but you're talking about the next man you're going to date? You're already half way out of the relationship, so why should he invest more into a relationship with you when the return on investment isn't that great?

It's called sarcasm.

 

[kp404]

Hey Guys...

I spoke about my boyfriend in the other thread, but I am having a relationship problem I would like your advice about. My boyfriend is becoming cheap, and I don't know how to confront him about this without seeming... greedy?

When we first started dating we would take turns paying for dates. He would get one, I would get the next one. This isn't something we agreed to, but it is something I did because our living situations are different. We both have decent jobs, but I have less bills than him, and he has a teenager. (I know she is expensive. lol)

He would ask me out, and I would just pay the bill when it came... . He would look shocked and say, "thanks".
Or if we went to the movies he would buy the tickets, and I would buy the snacks. (I like a lot of snacks, and I know they can be expensive)

Lately though he is getting comfortable. He doesn't want to date as much, and if we do, he looks for me to pick up the tab, or contribute something, always. (like a least the tip) At first, he didn't do this.

I don't mind contributing. I have shown him that. However, I don't want to always have to.

Am I wrong for that?

My mother AND Brother warned me about this. When you give a man an inch, they will take a mile! Why would he start taking advantage like that? I never call him asking for money or help. Shouldn't he appreciate that? Shouldn't that be rewarded?



Now it seems like he thinks he doesn't have to do anything for me, or just do nice things.

When trying to be independent backfires, eh?

#HelpPlease

As far as your problem goes, just ask him. And stop buying that garbage at the movies.

 

[rahji]

But That's the thing...

I DON'T WANT TO BE PROVIDED FOR.
I know it sounds like I am talking in circles, but let me try to explain...
I want it how it was in the beginning.
At first... When I contributed, it was a surprise and a nice gesture. (I did it sorta often, but not always)
Now BAE is spoiled, and it is EXPECTED as opposed to appreciated. Get it?
He really is a great boyfriend, but how do I say this without seeming like I am downing him? (he is a great boyfriend)

Expect a partner to do their share - what kind of world is this

that breh needs to step his game up. How do you guys expect to be with a female, especially a good one, if you aint picking up the tab? There ain't no point in a female being with the dude if he ain't providing for her? I'm not saying this nikka needs to hand over his whole check, but his woman shouldn't be picking up his tab. The day your woman is paying your shyt, is the day you aint a man anymore IMO.

OP, just tell that bum ass nikka he need to straighten up

The fukk? What is the point of a relationship? There are very few things that are 100/0 split

K.


That all makes sense... But our relationship is great aside for this issue we just started having. I will just talk to him about it.

The next guy I date I will make pay for everything and never contribute. I don't ever want to be too nice or generous, because I have to worry about a man not valuing me if I do.

Thanks for the help.

Love.

Hope the next cat you find isn't a coli-certified #HOH HOF member else your relationship about to go through these phases:
we dating
oh shyt she want to be wined and dined
yo she never pay?? is this for real??
yo real shyt, she never pays now
this bytch out her mind
for real?
nah for real?
yo you are dead ass right now? GTFO
GTFO you harlot bytch

 

[Solano707]

2371777, member: 13506"]Expect a partner to do their share - what kind of world is this




The fukk? What is the point of a relationship? There are very few things that are 100/0 split


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I am not saying she I don't want her to do anything for me, I don't want the woman to think she has power over me because of finances. For instance, if you got your woman paying for everything, what leg do you have to stand on? Wait until you get into an argument, she's gonna call you all kinds of 'you lazy; you bum; mama's boy; don't even have a job; can't even take me out to dinner' - you know, bull shyt like that.

 

[aqualung]

...
When we first started dating we would take turns paying for dates....but I have less bills than him, and he has a teenager. (I know she is expensive. lol)...

Lately though he is getting comfortable. He doesn't want to date as much, and if we do, he looks for me to pick up the tab, or contribute something, always....

HE HAS A TEENAGE CHILD?!?

Your dates will consist of walks in the park and holding hands at church when those college tuition payments start. Kids are hella expensive.

HE HAS A TEENAGE CHILD.

potential solutions:
--Marry him and quit these "expensive" dates. Netflix nights on the couch are ultra-cheap. heh heh
--Lower your expectations.
--Date someone childless with more disposable income.

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

HE HAS A TEENAGE CHILD?!?

Your dates will consist of walks in the park and holding hands at church when those college tuition payments start. Kids are hella expensive.

HE HAS A TEENAGE CHILD.

potential solutions:
--Marry him and quit these "expensive" dates. Netflix nights on the couch are ultra-cheap. heh heh
--Lower your expectations.
--Date someone childless with more disposable income.

We met at the gym...

Most of our dates are at the gym, or climbing the mountain, or walks in the park.

He wants a wife. I'm scurred.

 

[pickles]

We met at the gym...

Most of our dates are at the gym, or climbing the mountain, or walks in the park.

He wants a wife. I'm scurred.

:whatthehell?: What are you scarred off? He sounds like a good breh.

 

[Black Magisterialness]

We met at the gym...

Most of our dates are at the gym, or climbing the mountain, or walks in the park.

He wants a wife. I'm scurred.

Hate to say it but that's THOT logic.

You want all the trimmings and benefits of a wife but don't wanna commit serious. You should be happy you got a dude that's taking care of his and meanwhile showing he wants to be a father to his seed. This lane of thinking is exactly why lots of men don't trust women. Here this guy is making all the moves to make an honest woman of you, be a decent dad, and establish a partnership of you and you wanna whine because you had to pay for some dates.

I'd drop you in an instant.

 

[Kitsch]

 

[PrnzHakeem]

We met at the gym...

Most of our dates are at the gym, or climbing the mountain, or walks in the park.

He wants a wife. I'm scurred.

Break up with him so he can find a woman worthy of his time and commitment. Stop wasting a nikka time.

 

[Calmye]

K.

has he dumped you yet? Be afraid to speak to your boyfriend about simple topics and except long lasting loving relationship brehettes.

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

has he dumped you yet? Be afraid to speak to your boyfriend about simple topics and except long lasting loving relationship brehettes.

No.

We made up, and he ordered me a purse.