Be honest, brehs. How many of y'all keeping your real feelings about something silent cause you don't wanna upset the women?

[Astroslik]

I don’t share my feelings no more. Women are just tall children who guide their decisions with emotion. Not all women are like that but a majority act that way.

So what do you do? Remain stoic and aloof?

 

[Marezzy]

So what do you do? Remain stoic and aloof?

I internalized it or confide in male friends. Which I feel isn’t healthy. So now I just don’t deal with those women anymore. Zero tolerance. Explain the problem and tell them the consequences of doing said problem again. They did it again I leave simple as that.

No explaining how you made me feel insignificant or hurt. It’s “you talking to me crazy or coming at me crazy. I don’t do that to you don’t do it to me. If you can’t do that or if you do that again we should stop talking”

Expressing what hurts my feelings or crying to a woman is not met with the understanding of I’m being vulnerable. It’s more along the lines of thinking you are sensitive and effeminate.

Now I’m married and in order to have a healthy marriage there has to be communication and compromise. I don’t tell everything but I speak what I feel is important to be heard. The rest I can talk to friends or in therapy.


THIS WAS HARD TO WRITE BECAUSE THE DAMN WEBPAGE KEEPS JUMPING AND REFRESHING. THE COLI fukkING UP.

 

[Action Mike]

I tend to only do this if it ain't going anywhere

If I see it's fixable I'm bringing shyt up

 

[COLI MANDINGO]

We talking about dating someone?
Depends on the stage.... If I just met her or we just getting to know each other.... I wont say much unless it's outright disrespectful and if it's disrespectful, I'll probably ghost... I'm not trying to fix or change anyone. I accept them as they are

She’s my woman then yes I tell her what I think… otherwise the remaining time you spend with her will lead to a bunch of frustration for you. Idk why ppl stay in bad situations

 

[The ADD]

I say what needs to be said with the right filter

 

[Gloxina]

I tell it like I see it but tact is important. I give it to them raw when the situation calls for it.

She’s my woman then yes I tell her what I think… otherwise the remaining time you spend with her will lead to a bunch of frustration for you. Idk why ppl stay in bad situations

I say what needs to be said with the right filter

Healthy ways to approach the matter

 

[Mordith]

The paraphrase the late great poet DMX:

I don't listen to no bytch. I don't argue with no bytch. All I do is fukk that bytch.

 

[DA_LURKA]

I've had women tell me they would've rather I lied...

 

[The Pledge]

Nikki Giovanni broke this shyt down YEARS ago.

You lie when you smile at that cracker down at the job, right? Well... lie to me. Smile.

The realest shyt ever told.

 

[COLI MANDINGO]

I've had women tell me they would've rather I lied...

Then she ain’t the right one for you

Nikki Giovanni broke this shyt down YEARS ago.

You lie when you smile at that cracker down at the job, right? Well... lie to me. Smile.

The realest shyt ever told.

I think OP is saying when there’s a problem in the relationship or some shyt you don’t like that she’s doing.

You gonna lie to her and say it’s ok? She ain’t cleaning up after herself, leaving the house at 3 am and not telling you? Yelling at you and using you as a (verbal) punching bag?

And you gon lie and say… “nah baby it’s alright. I don’t mind…”

But then again I think many men give up… grin and bear the disrespect @CouldntBeMeTho

 

[Neo TheInsurrectionistONE]

I love how this thread evolved and there have been so many varied points of view posted.

But one thing we all agree on is that these women don't want to hear the truth at all. They don't want you to say anything that they disagree with.

And that is a problem. I dont know how to solve it. I don't know if it can even be solved as I'm sure men much wiser than me have tried.

 

[rabbid]

Nikki Giovanni broke this shyt down YEARS ago.

You lie when you smile at that cracker down at the job, right? Well... lie to me. Smile.

The realest shyt ever told.

that's the thing though some women treat themselves like jobs. you gotta apply clock in and perform until you retire. if thats what you looking for then fine but you gotta take all that comes with it. when im not with you I'm off the clock. and that 401k better be generous

 

[DA_LURKA]

Then she ain’t the right one for you

They weren't...