“Be Yourself” is the worst advice you can give to someone

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First of all which version of myself should I be the version when I’m with my family, at a job interview, etc.

Second if being themself worked they wouldn’t be struggling with whatever they struggling with.

I feel like when someone gives you generic advice like this or “grind harder”, “:stack that money”, or “keep ya head up”.

It’s just a socially polite way of saying Idgaf.
 

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First of all which version of myself should I be the version when I’m with my family, at a job interview, etc.

Second if being themself worked they wouldn’t be struggling with whatever they struggling with.

I feel like when someone gives you generic advice like this or “grind harder”, “:stack that money”, or “keep ya head up”.

It’s just a socially polite way of saying Idgaf.

I agree with this post.

“Be yourself” means nothing if how a person is won’t get them where they want to be.

People need constructive advice - not platitudes.

Of course being a fake person won’t work long term but people can change things about themselves that may be holding them back.

“Be yourself” is what you say to someone who already has “it” and may be temporarily doubting themselves. But it’s not sage advice for all people.
 
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I agree with this post.

“Be yourself” means nothing if how a person is won’t get them where they want to be.

People need constructive advice - not platitudes.

Of course being a fake person won’t work long term but people can change things about themselves that may be holding them back.

“Be yourself” is what you say to someone who already has “it” and may be temporarily doubting themselves. But it’s not sage advice for all people.
Being a fake person does work in the long term. You think Barack Obama is the same person as when he’s on tv? If you went into a job interview and said yeah bruh I’m just tryna get paid. You think you gonna get the job. Being fake is exactly how you go about doing things.
 

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So much of what it is to be male, in our society, is based on this idea of not being anything like women, because being a woman/feminine is the worst thing you can be, and so a lot of men never get to be who they really are. So much focus is put on who/what not to be. Thats why its so easy to guilt a man and to debase him because so much value is put on being masculine to the most toxic of extremes. There are a lot of men out here who will never know who they really are. There are a lot of men out here who will never meet their true selves. And so, at that point, what do you have to offer another human being in terms of a relationship? And what even is the quality of what you are offering them? And what can they offer you in return? Its sad.
 
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So much of what it is to be male, in our society, is based on this idea of not being anything like women, because being a woman/feminine is the worst thing you can be, and so a lot of men never get to be who they really are. So much focus is put on who/what not to be. Thats why its so easy to guilt a man and to debase him because so much value is put on being masculine to the most toxic of extremes. There are a lot of men out here who will never know who they really are. There are a lot of men out here who will never meet their true selves. And so, at that point, what do you have to offer another human being in terms of a relationship? And what even is the quality of what you are offering them? And what can they offer you in return? Its sad.
There is no true version of yourself. Identity is an illusion
 
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yeah just don’t be weak minded and let people make you lose yourself for the worse. most young people out here are the blind following the blind. fukk em
Who am I, Who are you. “Yourself” is a social construct. There’s no “you” without others so what are you really saying. You just parroting dollar store self improvement tropes.
 

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Being a fake person does work in the long term. You think Barack Obama is the same person as when he’s on tv? If you went into a job interview and said yeah bruh I’m just tryna get paid. You think you gonna get the job. Being fake is exactly how you go about doing things.
The thing is you're comparing real life to employment. A job is a place where everybody is putting on airs and pretending. In real life, people can sense when you're being fake and they'll either be repelled from you or will simply use you for their own gain. "Be yourself' is valuable advice for life outside of work. Pretending to be someone you're not as a man is a weakness because you're not comfortable with who you are. Humans have instincts that can easily sense this about somebody. A man needs to have knowledge of self and core values he lives by in his real life. Even when it comes to dating, this is why women like "bad boys" and not "squares." You have a square mentality. "Bad boys" are true to themselves regardless of what people think and that's their power
 

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What works for others may not work for you. Get in where you fit in, we all just play a role in life. You can't run from who you are. Being fake only prolongs the day you wake up and realize you went about certain things the wrong way.

People either don't know who they really are, or don't like who they really are. Either way, they end up choosing not to become that person, and it spills over into other aspects of their life. Acknowledge your strengths and shortcomings, do the work and go from there.

You should never change your personality for acceptance. Everybody ain't gonna like you any way, whether you doing good or bad.
 
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