Bedwench Intervention needed

[Benjamin Sisko]

And this is weird too. In all community the women are generally the ones who are shamed for dating outside of their race while men get no repercussions. but in ours, it's the reverse .

Thats what happens when 70 percent of the black boys are raised by single mothers.

Other communities have a patriarchy in place.

 

[Benjamin Sisko]

I've been given that talk...

Which country do you live in now?

Recently I've been reading some of their work it's outright war breh, black men have been declared enemy of state, they take no prisoners, now they're advocating selective abortion of black boys... and their ranks are swelling...

To be fair though I really have little issue with black women involvement with anyone... I don't even mind vitriol towards black men... but then again I'm not an american or british... I live in the west but western black women are not my kin...

I've been saying this for years, black people cannot allow this shyt to fester. This has gotten out of hand because not only the white power structure in all platforms approve of this behavior (because black males are the ones who are getting the short end of the stick) but because too many good bw and black men (simps) do not criticize and tear down black women c00ns like they do black men.

What bothers me is some black men's response to it... the bickering... the focusing on the wrong things... the hurt feelings... there are so much more pressing issues and even if black men in general were committed to "gaining back their women" divesting from this emotional arm wrestling with black women and focusing entirely in acquisition and consolidation of power would solve the problem without even touching it.

Agrees. BUt at the same time we dont have a punishment mechanism in place like everyone else has. Our lack of economic output has hurt the American black community in general.

You see this right here should be all kinds of intolerable... I'm not talking about the negative perception about such relationships... but the fact or even just notion and perception that these external groups are in position to punish black men... at will... without repercussion...

Agrees. But black men do not punish those who will get with their female family members. If one black man objects, he will get berated by OTHER members as well.

 

[Anwulika]

Thats what happens when 70 percent of the black boys are raised by single mothers.

Other communities have a patriarchy in place.

I come from a patriarchal culture and they frown on the men marrying out more than the women.

 

[Benjamin Sisko]

I come from a patriarchal culture and they frown on the men marrying out more than the women.

I was specifically talking about non-black communities

I see it happens a lot in African cultures as well. People on here explained because the males are the ones who inherit the wealth and land, and not so the females.

 

[DeuceCypherUno]

You were watching baseball players (obviously cacs )

negged for lowkey baseball slander

 

[Spuffy]

Looks like Wayne Brady

 

[Originalman]

Cuz they the devil that's why

sista real as fukk.

 

[Absalom's Thought]

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[Anwulika]

I was specifically talking about non-black communities

I see it happens a lot in African cultures as well. People on here explained because the males are the ones who inherit the wealth and land, and not so the females.

It's also about the fact that the men are seen as the 'guardians' of the culture and because of the patriarchal structure- the men bring their wives into their homes and it was/is believed that 'good' women bring good luck into their husbands' homes whereas 'bad' women bring bad luck and misfortune so they're very wary over who their sons bring into their homes.

Also, they have this belief that a foreign woman won't understand the culture properly and as such, will not raise the children in the 'Igbo way' (I'm Igbo) as opposed to an Igbo woman. They're also afraid that a foreign woman will take their son away from them and persuade him to forget his duties as a son of his family. I've actually seen this happen before so, perhaps, it's not completely bizarre reasoning.

Sorry for the long post but I just wanted to show you that it's not just as unusual as it seems, in fact, I'm sure that many non-African cultures share this reasoning.

 

[Benjamin Sisko]

It's also about the fact that the men are seen as the 'guardians' of the culture and because of the patriarchal structure- the men bring their wives into their homes and it was/is believed that 'good' women bring good luck into their husbands' homes whereas 'bad' women bring bad luck and misfortune so they're very wary over who their sons bring into their homes.

Also, they have this belief that a foreign woman won't understand the culture properly and as such, will not raise the children in the 'Igbo way' (I'm Igbo) as opposed to an Igbo woman. They're also afraid that a foreign woman will take their son away from them and persuade him to forget his duties as a son of his family. I've actually seen this happen before so, perhaps, it's not completely bizarre reasoning.

Sorry for the long post but I just wanted to show you that it's not just as unusual as it seems, in fact, I'm sure that many non-African cultures share this reasoning.

But they are not concerned with a cac turning out their daughter and turning her against the family?

Nor they are concerned about cacs conquering their daughter's mind, body, and spirit!?

 

[GoPro]

This yt guy at the stadium turns pink every time he sees me so I said hi ___ one day. Haven't seen him since. Then one day while cleaning the stands the baseball players were warming up in shorts like basketball shorts so I was meat watching n I must have been staring cuz dude was like hey how are u n it was a yt dude . he goes out of his way to speak when he sees me every since... Help me please

Mine ass swell. I know my transition into "bedbuckhood" was not an easy one, but the initial awkwardness and uncomfortableness goes away after a while.

 

[Max Power]

But they are not concerned with a cac turning out their daughter and turning her against the family?

Nor they are concerned about cacs conquering their daughter's mind, body, and spirit!?

Daughters are pretty much worthless in Africa. They don't care.

 

[Anwulika]

But they are not concerned with a cac turning out their daughter and turning her against the family?

Nor they are concerned about cacs conquering their daughter's mind, body, and spirit!?

The ideal scenario is that their daughter marries an Igbo man, preferably from a nearby village. However, if she's adamant that she will marry a foreigner- a white guy, in this case, then they won't really mind 9/10 times. Igbo parents tend to not care that much about who their daughters marry as long as the man is a decent guy that will take care of her and can pay her bride price. Some communities increase the bride price if the guy is a foreigner.

 

[Anwulika]

Daughters are pretty much worthless in Africa. They don't care.

It's all relative but compared to the boys, we kinda are . Some of them see unmarried daughters as a burden that they need to be rid of.

 

[Benjamin Sisko]

The ideal scenario is that their daughter marries an Igbo man, preferably from a nearby village. However, if she's adamant that she will marry a foreigner- a white guy, in this case, then they won't really mind 9/10 times. Igbo parents tend to not care that much about who their daughters marry as long as the man is a decent guy that will take care of her and can pay her bride price. Some communities increase the bride price if the guy is a foreigner.

SO is it easier for a wm to accepted by the family then a westernized black man who is not Igbo or not even Nigerian??