Been with Shorty three years. This weekend she moving in. Gimme some do's and don'ts...

[ThrobbingHood]

Because it’s a cynical viewpoint inspired by a need for conformity to the overall negative mindset of women/relationships that tends to plaque this particular forum. If that’s an actual feeling he has then he needs to give more context. Seriously, most couples do not have work husbands/wives.

At some point, you have to ask where all these cynical viewpoints are coming from. Either a lot of people are lying or there’s legit credence to them.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

As a woman, I support this message. But I’ve also asked that we stay living separate as long as possible. I need space. Each of you should value quiet time. Also don’t be afraid to not speak as soon as either of you get home. Greetings are fine. But sometimes people need a few minutes to decompress before all out conversations every day. I really don’t want to hear anything unless it’s a must until after I’ve showered and changed clothes.

Value personal space, items, and time. Have financial and cleaning expectations clearly defined in detail before moving in. Write it down if you have to. Revisit household budgets and such monthly in a sit down meeting. Do not get joint accounts unless married. And even then measure twice and cut once. In other words make sure before you do it. Don’t assume anything in the relationship. Make sure rules of the relationship status and expectations are clearly defined. Keep family and friends out of your household and relationship business. Unless abuse is involved what goes in your house is expected to stay in your house. If you don’t already don’t have kids yet. Be respectful.

Wow, I have nothing else to add. This is wifey material brehs.

but... especially the bolded. I swear 90% of all arguments could be avoided if men/women understood this.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

As a woman, I support this message. But I’ve also asked that we stay living separate as long as possible. I need space. Each of you should value quiet time. Also don’t be afraid to not speak as soon as either of you get home. Greetings are fine. But sometimes people need a few minutes to decompress before all out conversations every day. I really don’t want to hear anything unless it’s a must until after I’ve showered and changed clothes.

Value personal space, items, and time. Have financial and cleaning expectations clearly defined in detail before moving in. Write it down if you have to. Revisit household budgets and such monthly in a sit down meeting. Do not get joint accounts unless married. And even then measure twice and cut once. In other words make sure before you do it. Don’t assume anything in the relationship. Make sure rules of the relationship status and expectations are clearly defined. Keep family and friends out of your household and relationship business. Unless abuse is involved what goes in your house is expected to stay in your house. If you don’t already don’t have kids yet. Be respectful.

If I ever have a woman move in it's got to be big ass house. Well not some mansion shyt, but big. Big finished basement, big backyard, and big garage. If I can have those then space is a none issut

 

[Vinny Lupton]

Ban 'flushable' wipes, them shyts clog toilets too

 

[Astroslik]

Because it’s a cynical viewpoint inspired by a need for conformity to the overall negative mindset of women/relationships that tends to plaque this particular forum. If that’s an actual feeling he has then he needs to give more context. Seriously, most couples do not have work husbands/wives.

Not like I agree with dude or anything but why do y’all post here if you hate it so much? I couldn’t post on a site I despise.

 

[LiveFromLondon]

Aint no advice, its over

 

[Big Boss]

she paying half of the bills??

 

[HARLEM AL]

Not like I agree with dude or anything but why do y’all post here if you hate it so much? I couldn’t post on a site I despise.

Attention. They rather complain IN male spaces as oppose to just not coming here at all. They don’t want to be shut out completely. They have the Salon for a reason and guess what, ain’t no fukking body over there.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

If you haven't already proposed I don't see the point in moving in with each other.

So you think people should figure out if they can live together AFTER they get engaged?

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Disregarding the dap fishing attempts the first half of your post. I agree with this. Better not wait till marriage to see if you can cohabitate.

If I wanted to fish for daps I'd call his girlfriend a bytch and yell #GMB.

 

[ORDER_66]

I hope it works out for you breh..

 

[African Peasant]

Bad move to live with a woman you're not married to.

Good luck tho.

 

[Cape Town JHB]

Mandatory standardized responses in these p*ssy whipped threads:


Read, "The Predatory Female" by Lawrence Shannon

Listen to "Black Phillip Show" by Patrice O'Neal.

If you're younger than 30, you actually have to go through this trail by fire, so you can truly understand that living with any bytch, your momma included, is not adivsiable for any man

If you're an ugly breh dating out your league I don't know what to tell you.

Goodluck

 

[sinistersouth]

Invest in lots of Draino

wrong. a plunger will do. don't let that man waste his money

 

[GodinDaFlesh]

I'm not as doomsayer as most in this thread. They've been together for 3 years so hopefully they know each others ins and out. Just clear out any financial expectations (is she splitting rent? Bills?) and go for it. If it fails just kick her out.