Being a Man With Depression Is fukking Tough

[ThaRealness]

OP, a change of scenery can help. Even just moving into a new apt or rearranging your place.


i remember when i was really busy, my house would be a mess and it reflected my life. I would clean my house up and feel great. a few simple changes and improvement could help you big time bruh. Working out helps too.

Im moving to Chicago as soon as I get the money. I think that when I get another job Ill be doin better, I just need to save money quick cause the pain just been getting worse the longer I been here. There was a time where I thought if I got laid all my problems would go away

But yes, I second you on working out. I said it before in another thread, lifting weights saved me last month from falling into a major depression. The immediate mental benefits are as good a remedy as any drug, and the longer term benefits are baseline physical confidence that no one can take away from you

 

[ThatTruth777]

Certain songs always come to me when I feel down

 

[ThaRealness]

IDK...PTSD is typically due to some horrific shyt happening to a motherfukker or somebody being tormented for a long time...

If you are off and on with being depressed...you could have cyclothymia...a super mild form of bipolar disorder...

One month you feel like shyt...next month you feel like the sun is shining on your face..

Only way to find out is by seeing a psychiatrist and talking about your feels...

Possibly. When I was a kid I would experience the same shyt where a slight failure would trigger super negative emotions. Man I don't know what that shyt is but it sucks

What I do know is that exposure therapy is the best cure

 

[Brandeezy]

You should watch the ABC show "A Million Little Things" it's like a diet version of "This Is Us" but the black breh on there has Depression and his arc revolves around that but the show literally starts off with his best friend's apparent, random suicide while the breh was about to commit that at the same time. He has some good scenes with his wife and pops though which goes how you expect it to go (If you grew up in the black community )

 

[Robo Squirrel]

Depression is serious and everyone is different. Man I'm going through it right now. It WILL pass bro. It always does. TRUST. STRAIGHT up. IT TAKES TIME.

 

[Robo Squirrel]

Sipping right now because I don't want to feel. This is real talk.
@ThaRealness I'll be up for a minute I'm watching Deadpool lol

 

[Afro]

Yeah...depression isn't really a sad feeling...

It's like the absence of feeling and motivation...

And depression isn't a rational feeling...

Like it's not something you can rationalize away...

Depression is literally a brain malfunction...

There's nothing emotional about depression...depressed people aren't emotional...they are actually coldly rational about everything...which why "thinking positive" and thinking "relatively" doesn't work...

Unfortunately once you get hit the major depression bug...you kinda have the shyt for life...

There's a difference between being sad for a long time and having major depression...

Unfortunately people have equated sadness and depression

Being depressed and sad are two radically different things...

The irony for me is, I embraced my emotions because I get depressed. I assumed "depression" was a permanent mind state and acted accordingly.

But for me now, It's more like putting up walls of positive emotions and memories to hold it at bay. It never truly goes away, it comes back in waves.

But instead of letting it drown me and taking away my motivation, I pull myself out of in a matter of days instead of weeks and months. I don't ever want to lose years of my life like that again.

Yeah, it's infuriating even when you try to battle it. Like every step you do (seeking help, self care, and letting out a tear), it's never enough because the shyt is like a impossible stain on your soul. It's getting to the point that it seems like depression is like a motivator with a shock collar. Think about it, for every moment not wanting to get out of the damn bed, there's another where you go hard on a school project or a work responsibility. For everytime you look in the mirror and be like fukk you, that same face gets greeted with a kiss or a smile. Bottom line, for every dark corner, there is a crack that shows the light that you need to get through a rough patch. Right now, it seems like things are going my way (good job, son going to have a good Christmas, and the bills are caught up), the grim reality is that I'm patching up a broken house. I'm still living with a weight that I been trying to get off my shoulders for so long. So trust, even on a good day, depression still slide in the dms wanting to fukk. The question is do you hit ignore, or get your dikk wet

Depression is like a habit, it is very easy to slip back into the thought patterns and lose any hope or motivation you had just a few minutes ago.

But its the conscious decision to keep going irregardless of how you feel that helps you break out of it.

Sometimes it helps not to take myself too seriously, It's easy to big up events in your head, only to realize you were being scary for no reason

 

[ThaRealness]

Sipping right now because I don't want to feel. This is real talk.
@ThaRealness I'll be up for a minute I'm watching Deadpool lol

yeah its hard playin a rigged game

 

[ThaRealness]

The irony for me is, I embraced my emotions because I get depressed. I assumed "depression" was a permanent mind state and acted accordingly.

But for me now, It's more like putting up walls of positive emotions and memories to hold it at bay. It never truly goes away, it comes back in waves.

But instead of letting it drown me and taking away my motivation, I pull myself out of in a matter of days instead of weeks and months. I don't ever want to lose years of my life like that again.





Depression is like a habit, it is very easy to slip back into the thought patterns and lose any hope or motivation you had just a few minutes ago.

But its the conscious decision to keep going irregardless of how you feel that helps you break out of it.

Sometimes it helps not to take myself too seriously, It's easy to big up events in your head, only to realize you were being scary for no reason

real shyt. Ive noticed that when I get cocky and listen to negative ass music I end up more exposed to depression.

The fukking irony man

Im out here bumpin Conway and Mobb Deep and that shyts leaving me wide open

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

Buy some p*ssy brah

 

[ThaRealness]

Buy some p*ssy brah

You could cheer us all up, whats that hoes name

 

[evasive]

You gotta realize that happiness is 50% in your control, 50% genetic.
So you got to maximize your actions that will lead you to a happier life. You got to get on a positive upswing, or you are f**ked.

As a man, answer these questions for yourself:
Are you working out / exercising?
Are you on the right career path? Or do you feel like you're stagnating in life?
Do you have a girlfriend you're attracted to? If not, are you pushing your comfort zones in life? Approaching women? Improving your confidence in that regard?
Are you jerking off to porn too much?
Are you meditating?
Are you isolating yourself at home a lot? Or do you leave the house for most of the day?
Do you hangout with friends? Do you have close friends you can talk about anything with?
Are you constantly on social media?
Are you eating lots of junk food/sugar? Hows your vegetable intake? Drinking enough water?
Are you self medicating with drugs?
Are you reading any self-help material that can help change your perspective on life?
Have you tried experimenting with shrooms/LSD to help expand your mind?

 

[DJ Paul's Arm]

If weed is legal where you at, CBD works wonders. Stay away from them serotonin pills these docs try to give you. Them kickbacks is real yo.

 

[Kwabena]

Depression isn’t sexy

 

[IShotTheSheriff]

Being a man is one of the loneliness experiences in the world...

I've learned to embrace death and that whatever triumphs and failures I will experience are temporary...eventually I'ma wither away and end up in the ground...back to nothing...and that's comforting for me...

So I just have fun and enjoy the moment while I am here...this shyt to me is like a party and I just happened to crash it...

I don't think of things as failing or succeeding anymore...I just think of it...as my life...and however the shyt turns out is how it turns out...

Taking this shyt super seriously is just gonna make you disappointed and depressed....

The way I structured my life...I am only responsible for myself...so when shyt fukks up...it's just me...I don't have a lot of angst like I used to because my time is just spent doing the things I am interested in and as long as I do that...I am good...

When I concerned myself with other motherfukkers and their hopes and ambitions and their expectations...I didn't enjoy my time very much...

Which reminds me to the dilemma the Buddha kinda put forth...

You know how this shyt is gonna end...you gonna eventually lose everything...so why be attached to the things of this world...

You gotta be able to engage this world without becoming attached to it...if you attach yourself to this world...you gonna be very disappointed and succumb to the constant striving and ambitions of the human condition...

Humans are a flawed lifeform...we have desires and expectations outside of just fukking, eating and avoiding death...

No BS... this one of the most beautiful things I've ever read on the internet.

So accurate. So liberating.

Just... enjoy what you enjoy and don't care what anyone says, we all gotta go someday anyway.



I was playing this while I read it.... "These people don't want me alive, oooooooh" damn... life is beautiful, I'ma enjoy the rest of this party breh.