Being A Weekend Dad Is Depressing…

[MoveForward]

Everyone is the hero in their own story. How do we know you aren't actually a shytty person and that's why they treat you as such?

While true, that’s not my case. I’ve helped her out too, I’ve tried to go out as a “family” with her and my kid. I have sat on the phone for hours with her and given her relationship advice with the guy that she cheated on me with. I’m not perfect but tbh, you probably couldn’t ask for a better child’s father, too many women that I’ve deal with have said the same.

Baby daddy’s know the deal… Even in here, I got it out of the way and listed the things that I do (that’s not even everything) and nikkas in here are like, “You need to spend more time with your kid.”

If I get my kid half the week, take them to the extracurricular activities, go on vacation, do group sessions with a therapist, I have a big backyard and we go out there and play catch etc. How are you not building a bond?

It’s like nikkas are automatically programmed to rip the father apart lol.

 

[Apollo Creed]

While true, that’s not my case. I’ve helped her out too, I’ve tried to go out as a “family” with her and my kid. I have sat on the phone for hours with her and given her relationship advice with the guy that she cheated on me with. I’m not perfect but tbh, you probably couldn’t ask for a better child’s father, too many women that I’ve deal with have said the same.

Baby daddy’s know the deal… Even in here, I got it out of the way and listed the things that I do (that’s not even everything) and nikkas in here are like, “You need to spend more time with your kid.”

If I get my kid half the week, take them to the extracurricular activities, go on vacation, do group sessions with a therapist, I have a big backyard and we go out there and play catch etc. How are you not building a bond?

It’s like nikkas are automatically programmed to rip the father apart lol.

this a cultural thing. Waste of time even discussing this stuff with 99% of folks let alone in the TLR

 

[thelonious21]

You literally can never do enough… You pay your child support, sign them up for sports, ALWAYS show up no excuses, take your kids to sporting events, amusement parks, buy the PS5, X Box, Nintendo Switch, Disney cruises, Disney Park vacations, keep them fresh… As soon as they get out of line and you correct them, they will look at you and tell you that they want to go back to their mom’s.

On Monday when they’re back at their mom’s, they calling you telling you more shyt that they want you to buy. On Mother’s Day it was, “ Dad, what are we getting mom for Mother’s Day?” I didn’t hear a peep about Father’s Day yesterday at all. We go to therapy and all of that, I have voluntarily taken parenting classes, and I read shyt on how to be a better father and still… You start to realize that your relationship with your seed is very contingent and conditional.

Just venting… I know y’all live in Wakanda and everything is perfect in your world but when homes are broken, the child that left with the mom, overtime isn’t the same child. They become the mom… You’re the bad guy and whatever happened surely was your fault.

People say, “ Bro, they will see shyt for what it is when they become an adult… YOU just make certain that you are doing the right thing.” What a depressing existence….

Sometime you gotta explain to them.then.. everytime I pick you up we don't have to do something. Sometimes we need to jus chill and watch TV. Because you're right sooner or later he's only going to affiliate you with getting something/going somewhere

 

[NotAnFBIagent]

While true, that’s not my case. I’ve helped her out too, I’ve tried to go out as a “family” with her and my kid. I have sat on the phone for hours with her and given her relationship advice with the guy that she cheated on me with. I’m not perfect but tbh, you probably couldn’t ask for a better child’s father, too many women that I’ve deal with have said the same.

Baby daddy’s know the deal… Even in here, I got it out of the way and listed the things that I do (that’s not even everything) and nikkas in here are like, “You need to spend more time with your kid.”

If I get my kid half the week, take them to the extracurricular activities, go on vacation, do group sessions with a therapist, I have a big backyard and we go out there and play catch etc. How are you not building a bond?

It’s like nikkas are automatically programmed to rip the father apart lol.

Sometimes kids/people are ungrateful or don't realize what they have. Just continue being the best dad you can be breh.

 

[desjardins]

50/50 custody is damn near impossible to get unless the mother is completely unfit to be a parent, can’t for some reason or she agrees to 50/50 custody. Courts will always side with giving the mother majority custody.

yea, dudes acting like it's a layup to get 50/50 custody must have chickenhead babymoms who leave the kid with the grandma every weekend and use the child support money to go to miami
You basically need that level disfunction to have a real chance at half custody, a competent mother with a career and no real dirt you can bring to court it's going be damn near impossible if she don't agree with it. It varies by state and even the judge but they almost always side with the custodial parent, ESPECIALLY if you wait years before trying. Best chance is trying during divorce and while the kid is still a baby

 

[The Radiant One]

Everyone is the hero in their own story. How do we know you aren't actually a shytty person and that's why they treat you as such?

I hope you keep this energy for women who complain about abuse and no support for their children

 

[GodinDaFlesh]

Obligatory

 

[↓R↑LYB]

Coming through the door…”yo Kevin wuhddup?!”

Then turn around and say to his moms new boyfriend “Dad, Kevin’s here “

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

 

[HabitualChiller]

If the mom is bad-mouthing you to the child, then you're just gonna have to hope that the kid becomes smart enough to discern the truth when they become a teenager.

This one kat I used to work with went through the same thing. He was a weekend dad, would buy his son gifts and spend valuable time with him, but then the son would go home to his mom continuously shytting on his pops. Lo and behold, the kid started thinking about it when he was around 12 years old, and he asked the dad why she was doing it. He went home, started observing the mom more closely, and realized that the dad was the MUCH better parent.


I know this isn't the best answer, but [sometimes] you just have to let the child figure it out.

 

[The Radiant One]

If the mom is bad-mouthing you to the child, then you're just gonna have to hope that the kid becomes smart enough to discern the truth when they become a teenager.

This one kat I used to work with went through the same thing. He was a weekend dad, would buy his son gifts and spend valuable time with him, but then the son would go home to his mom continuously shytting on his pops. Lo and behold, the kid started thinking about it when he was around 12 years old, and he asked the dad why she was doing it. He went home, started observing the mom more closely, and realized that the dad was the MUCH better parent.


I know this isn't the best answer, but [sometimes] you just have to let the child figure it out.

But she still has custody and he is still paying child support and can be jailed if he misses those payments

 

[HabitualChiller]

But she still has custody and he is still paying child support and can be jailed if he misses those payments

True, but what does that have to do with my post?

 

[Dave24]

That's very tough, sorry you are going through that. You are trying to be a good father and that is commendable.