Being in your 30s with no kids and not being married puts you in a strange place.

[Dameon Farrow]

This mentality is killing black folks

And it's the polar opposite of what these same folks tell black females.

 

[King Poetic]

Why do black folks in serious relationships or marriage always be like you don't want to be that old guy in the club or that lonely weirdo dude in life

Or I love the part " women only want men other women want"..turn off the tv or get out that ghetto city you live in

My situation is different from a lot of guys cause I live in L.A....and it's probably different for guys who live in New York, Miami, the DMV, Toronto because we got black, Latina, Asian, white, banging half black/ Asian and African women who also in their 30s and up with no kids living life and we have a good time...

I been to Cleveland where I have family and down in Memphis and I understand why dudes in their 30s and up and hell even in they 20s struggle finding chicks because them chicks all got 2 to 4 kids and have no time to do anything and most of the time them broads got kids by the same dude..

Leave the depressing city or small town u in and you'll see a different view as a 30 and up black man

 

[laughslikebig]

Age is overrated. Just live your life.

 

[Payroll]

I wasn’t even being funny this time. The internet is a great place to meet like minded people and realize you’re really not a unicorn.

Shaming tactics.

 

[homiedontplaydat]

To each his own but I wouldn't trade my kids for any of that frivolous shyt yall talking bout (extra "me" time, blowing money on material items, being ultra promiscuous)

It ain't for everybody but I love being a father, it has shown me another side of myself I would have never found on my own. To be the protector AND the provider for the little people I brought into this world has made me a better person....almost akin to opening a 3rd eye.

Alot of u guys with no kids underestimate the awakening that having kids can give u. U won't realize how selfish u currently are until u have another life depending on u.

Do it when its right for you, when u find the right woman to raise your chaps with....and while you still have some of your YOUTH and PATIENCE. Yea that shyt seem fun now floating in the wind but you don't wanna be that 45 year old with a kid in kindergarten

 

[Youseenmywork]

Age is overrated. Just live your life.

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I want Everybody to do what makes them happy. Just enjoy life cause once its over its over and it dont matter who put you in the ground its going to end one day.

 

[Michael's Black Son]

Move to a big city instead of dusty ass Louisiana. It's normal to be a single childless 30something professional in a big city.

Yep. Very common here in NY. tho there are tons of people here saddlebagged by brokeness/kids and tend to be the angriest ones.

Trust me, if your $ is right here you will have unlimited fun on the strength of the options alone. Tons of females, easy to travel in/out of state, great jobs/$ if you are smart (and can deal with corporate/racial politics for a few years - then keep it moving), and everything is open late everyday like bars and lounges so you can just chill.

For the life of me I can’t understand if some dudes/chicks go the relationship route why they find someone dusty to settle with when they could be living like Jack stripper to the third power (as Suga Free would say). Like, money and resources open a lot of doors here buy having a good personality and open mind is equally as important.

 

[The Radiant One]

Not saying it's a bad thing, but I don't it's spoken on so much.

Especially if you have a decent career and your money is straight. You will find it hard to find like minded people that have money and free time that can just up and take a trip somewhere Most people in their 20s are too broke to do much of anything. And most people in their 30s are broke and all of their time is tied up. I guess this is cool if you're introvert and loner, but if you're very sociable, it can be bothersome.

This is only true if you don't live in a big city move to ATL brehs.

 

[kenreid0726eabos]

[QUOTE="techlife95, post: 27851287, member: 31510"]I am 22 almost 23 years old never had a job in my life. OP we all start somewhere. Comparasion is the theft of joy. Everybody works at their different pace in Life. Comparing yourself to other people is not good Society says you "should" be married by 30. Who cares what society says

Breh I'm sorry but you really need to fix this . Not judging but you could have joined the military straight out of highschool, gotten a rate like OS (has 100 percent advancement) and saved up at least 50k. Don't forget free college.[/QUOTE]

Ok thank you for not judging me All my life I have struggled with self confidence and finding a job It's not easy being self employed in this unfair system.

 

[Family Lives Matter]

I turn 29 February the 8th is it too late for me brehs

 

[Shorty K]

To each his own but I wouldn't trade my kids for any of that frivolous shyt yall talking bout (extra "me" time, blowing money on material items, being ultra promiscuous)

It ain't for everybody but I love being a father, it has shown me another side of myself I would have never found on my own. To be the protector AND the provider for the little people I brought into this world has made me a better person....almost akin to opening a 3rd eye.

Alot of u guys with no kids underestimate the awakening that having kids can give u. U won't realize how selfish u currently are until u have another life depending on u.

Do it when its right for you, when u find the right woman to raise your chaps with....and while you still have some of your YOUTH and PATIENCE. Yea that shyt seem fun now floating in the wind but you don't wanna be that 45 year old with a kid in kindergarten

You don't have to reassure strangers on the internet that you didn't fukk your life up having kids early my dude

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

Why do black folks in serious relationships or marriage always be like you don't want to be that old guy in the club or that lonely weirdo dude in life

Or I love the part " women only want men other women want"..turn off the tv or get out that ghetto city you live in

My situation is different from a lot of guys cause I live in L.A....and it's probably different for guys who live in New York, Miami, the DMV, Toronto because we got black, Latina, Asian, white, banging half black/ Asian and African women who also in their 30s and up with no kids living life and we have a good time...

I been to Cleveland where I have family and down in Memphis and I understand why dudes in their 30s and up and hell even in they 20s struggle finding chicks because them chicks all got 2 to 4 kids and have no time to do anything and most of the time them broads got kids by the same dude..

Leave the depressing city or small town u in and you'll see a different view as a 30 and up black man

Thanks for this
Truly

 

[tuckgod]

I turn 29 February the 8th is it too late for me brehs

Hell nah, you’re actually at the perfect age for starting a family.

 

[luciddreamer]

Bruh married cats stay in denial and secretly hate on us single dudes.All that happy wife happy life stuff.Their wives be like P.O officers. at the Star Wars comment.

Think about that term
"Happy wife happy life"

The source of happiness in ones life will come from making a wife happy? FOH.

We men suppose to lead women.These cats letting their wife bully them. A woman is never 100% happy hell some of them aren't happy with themselves let alone a lifelong commitment

A grown ass man...................see that is what happens when you marry an alpha matriarch

If hes a Sucker before marriage, 9/10 he'll be one after....


If your wife treat you like a child you lost...

 

[Family Lives Matter]

Hell nah, you’re actually at the perfect age for starting a family.

I think so I'm actually moving into that mode at the moment. The going from woman to woman shyt is played out and when I see old nikkas doing it (which I'm approaching) shyt makes me sick low key.