Being in your 30s with no kids and not being married puts you in a strange place.

[MikelArteta]

Why do black folks in serious relationships or marriage always be like you don't want to be that old guy in the club or that lonely weirdo dude in life

Or I love the part " women only want men other women want"..turn off the tv or get out that ghetto city you live in

My situation is different from a lot of guys cause I live in L.A....and it's probably different for guys who live in New York, Miami, the DMV, Toronto because we got black, Latina, Asian, white, banging half black/ Asian and African women who also in their 30s and up with no kids living life and we have a good time...

I been to Cleveland where I have family and down in Memphis and I understand why dudes in their 30s and up and hell even in they 20s struggle finding chicks because them chicks all got 2 to 4 kids and have no time to do anything and most of the time them broads got kids by the same dude..

Leave the depressing city or small town u in and you'll see a different view as a 30 and up black man

I agree, I'm from Toronto and the options are endless

People want you to be in the same boat as them. At this moment and time there have never been more single childless woman of every age demographic.

I became single last May after being in a LTR, first time I was single in my thirties and I went on an absurd amount of dates with different women. From ages like 27-31 , when i was in my 20's it wsa like I had to simp to get a date or a womans attention now its the other way around, how many times I got the so "what are we", "are we going to take this to next level"

As long as you got a semblance of a career, and you look at least decent you should EAT

 

[tuckgod]

I think so I'm actually moving into that mode at the moment. The going from woman to woman shyt is played out and when I see old nikkas doing it (which I'm approaching) shyt makes me sick low key.

 

[UserNameless]

Why do black folks in serious relationships or marriage always be like you don't want to be that old guy in the club or that lonely weirdo dude in life

Or I love the part " women only want men other women want"..turn off the tv or get out that ghetto city you live in

My situation is different from a lot of guys cause I live in L.A....and it's probably different for guys who live in New York, Miami, the DMV, Toronto because we got black, Latina, Asian, white, banging half black/ Asian and African women who also in their 30s and up with no kids living life and we have a good time...

I been to Cleveland where I have family and down in Memphis and I understand why dudes in their 30s and up and hell even in they 20s struggle finding chicks because them chicks all got 2 to 4 kids and have no time to do anything and most of the time them broads got kids by the same dude..

Leave the depressing city or small town u in and you'll see a different view as a 30 and up black man

They’ll ignore this common sense. These negroes always sound so helpless in these types of threads that get made every other week.














Either these guys lack self-esteem, imagination/creativity, ambition, networks and/or money .

 

[LastEmperor2k2]

I think it’s just that you cannot relate to your peers as well

I don’t judge anyone’s life choices, but I’m 34 with 3 kids and married

My life and experiences couldn’t be more different than yours at this point

I myself find myself gravitating to parents socially rather than single folks, just because it’s relative

But I’m anti social in the first place

 

[LastEmperor2k2]

So true. Out of all the married people I know (family, friends, coworkers) only 3 or 4 keep it real. My dad and my oldest brother mostly. They tell me to take my time and that marriage is hell and a ongoing battle. And my dad and brother wear the pants frfr. Women are just hell. Starting to think Men aren't meant to be locked down to one woman til death.

Your dad and brother are keeping it real to their experience

Sounds like they are in bad relationships

Marriage can be tough at times, annoying at others but for me it’s been the best part of my life and my wife has helped me grow personally, career wise and as a parent

Not saying every day is magic, but if you think a marriage is hell, you’re in a bad relationship

 

[King Poetic]

I agree, I'm from Toronto and the options are endless

People want you to be in the same boat as them. At this moment and time there have never been more single childless woman of every age demographic.

I became single last May after being in a LTR, first time I was single in my thirties and I went on an absurd amount of dates with different women. From ages like 27-31 , when i was in my 20's it wsa like I had to simp to get a date or a womans attention now its the other way around, how many times I got the so "what are we", "are we going to take this to next level"

As long as you got a semblance of a career, and you look at least decent you should EAT

That's what kills me...women more than men are single looking for dates

If u a black man with a little bit of a career and don't have children and keep yourself clean you good

Dudes don't realize the limited number of black men out here compared to black women and women of other races who want a quality black man...

I don't even do dating sites and still able to get women in public

Then last week, I said they me just signed up to blackpeoplemeet.com and within 24 hours I had like 20 messages of women who wanted to chat..

I think most of these guys going through depression and automatically put themselves in the category of women don't want me.. most of these women are even worst than you are if you meet them

However many women are good with faking their profiles, something these dudes need to do if you lonely

 

[HoloGraphic]

Yeah and my 35 year old self will be able to handle a 5 year better than my 25 year old self and my 50 year old self will be better able to handle a teenager than my 40 year old self. What you got going on in your life that you're somehow better able to raise a child at 25 than 35? Do you progress as a person year by year, stagnate or decline?

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with having kids younger necessarily, but I gotta question the mindset of a person who somehow believes a younger version of themself will be a better parent than an older wiser version of themself

I think we give ourselves grief over things like "I should have done this and this when I was younger, or I should have had this by now."

 

[Lweezy]

People like me keeps civilization going, while selfish, dipshyt nikkas like you continue to pollute the planet with nothingness for the 65 years you will spend on this planet, doing nothing but sucking life and resources from the planet, dragging your knuckles along the Earth, and leaving absolutely nothing of value for the folks that come after you.

muh nikka

 

[Offthegrid]

Women don't want men over 30 with kids so u know how thirsty single mothers are around single childless handsome men you get p*ssy thrown at u instantly once they find out you ain't a knuckle head grown ass man on your shyt its nikkas with kids n wife/gf still playing single role same with women I've heard stories about my main homeboys how savage their baby moms ,wife ,girlfriend be alot of my homies playing house while their ol lady getting sides dikk n house dikk I look at relationships totally different most of y'all with kids didn't even plan on being with person you made a bad mistake or bad decisions ie baby daddy baby momma drama. Why even have kids get married when people are going to continue to front in public but trifling behind closed doors its not good to dride people's relationship social media is a perfect example of this superficial "goals" "I wanna ring right now" mentality

 

[Virtuous_Brotha]

Yeah I get it, kids ain't for everybody, but I can't possibly imagine getting into my 60's and not having a family of my own. I honestly wonder if some folks think that far down the line.

This, I get all the 'freedom and more money' argument people make but that doesn't wash with me unless your making big money.
At some point living purely for yourself will get boring as shyt

 

[DatBoiHawk]

Women don't want men over 30 with kids so u know how thirsty single mothers are around single childless handsome men you get p*ssy thrown at u instantly once they find out you ain't a knuckle head grown ass man on your shyt its nikkas with kids n wife/gf still playing single role same with women I've heard stories about my main homeboys how savage their baby moms ,wife ,girlfriend be alot of my homies playing house while their ol lady getting sides dikk n house dikk I look at relationships totally different most of y'all with kids didn't even plan on being with person you made a bad mistake or bad decisions ie baby daddy baby momma drama. Why even have kids get married when people are going to continue to front in public but trifling behind closed doors its not good to dride people's relationship social media is a perfect example of this superficial "goals" "I wanna ring right now" mentality

Lol I don’t know what the hell i just read

 

[PAWG connoisseur]

I disagree. Before I got married I lived in a smaller city for most of my late 20s/early 30s. Small cities are cool because:

1) You have a cheaper cost of living and can stack money/get out of debt. I had one of the best 2BR apartments in town for a little over $1k/month
2) Everyone who lives in a big city (NYC, DC, etc.) still basically works like a dog all week, pays a lot of cost of living, and still only party on the weekends. With the money I was saving I could afford to fly to NYC, DC, Toronto, or anywhere else to party all weekend. I seriously would do the same shyt in DC or NYC my friends who lived there did and go back Sunday night. Best of both worlds.
3) Yeah the women pool (especially Black women) is worse if you aren't in the South in small towns but unless you are out West, there are a lot of nearby cities you can find people at

As a (happily) married breh, I will be the first to say don't rush it. Women are staying single later too. Unless you get it all out of your system (partying, girls, travel/wanderlust, etc.) you will be a grumbling trapped dad like others. Thankfully I am not but I had fun before I settled down.

The only thing you have to think about is if you want kids and marry someone your age, they are going to want seed IMMEDIATELY if you get married from mid-30s on due to their clock and biological issues.

There are no professional jobs in small cities and most of the single women are hoodrat single moms. Heck, in the small city I live in, only 15% of black people have a college degree. I cannot wait to move back to Atlanta.

So, i'm supposed to give up my future software engineering career to work in retail or food service just to save a few bucks on rent?

 

[Spotja]

Sometimes, I see my friends', and sister's kids acting up, and I think:


But I still want to get married and have kids, I'm just not actively looking right now.

I also don't have some ridiculous time frame, and will not wife a woman who is not up to my standards. And I don't have ridiculius standards. BLACK, attractive face, physically fit, no kids, non smoker, feminine, domestic, lady in the streets, freak in the sheets, cool to hang out with, and doesn't start drama for attention, and pro black. My ex had nothing but white friends, and I don't have to tell you how that was. I'm wiliing to work on her if she needs help in a few areas. I'd be willing to suggest she goes to the gym. But I'm getting sick of going to events alone.

Talking about “I don’t have ridiculous standards”. Calm the fukk down

My dad telling me I should get married and shyt this nikka even said a mans main focus should be finding a woman, not money ....have a simp for a dad brehs

I hate to tell you, but Simps raise simps

 

[DrBanneker]

There are no professional jobs in small cities and most of the single women are hoodrat single moms. Heck, in the small city I live in, only 15% of black people have a college degree. I cannot wait to move back to Atlanta.

So, i'm supposed to give up my future software engineering career to work in retail or food service just to save a few bucks on rent?

Ok, I didn't know it was that small. Also, the small town I lived in was Upstate NY which is a much more developed area compared to down South. You can find good white collar jobs throughout Western and Central NY (though the economy is slowly going down every year it seems).

Yeah, if it is the country type place with low quality jobs and women, I would bounce but if you are within driving distance of a city you can still partake

 

[WhenWeWereKings]

I was in my 20's with a good job, had my own place/car with no kids and not married but most of my friends were. I had the time of my life during that era. Women, traveling, partying, no drama.


But ironically enough some ppl looked at me strange because apparently its strange to see a black male near thirty with no kids and not married.

Now I'm 36 with just one child and yea you don't have that loose money like you did back in the day but I'm still pretty good as far as traveling goes. (Atleast once a year) Oh and chicks love single fathers so that was another avenue to get broads.