being introverted can be a gift and a curse.

[Ciggavelli]

I feel everyone's pain. I'm the same way. Going to social settings or house parties, I'm a wreck. I'm laid back and try to hide it, but I'm unbearably uncomfortable in front of too many people especially if I don't know them. Even if I'm comfortable with the person I'm chillin with, I'm not fully myself.

I'm not gonna write a 5,000 word "WHYYYY" post, but I'll say this about myself. I have a lot more to offer than even my closest friends even know. My close friends catch flashes but never the total package of my personality. I'm one of those people that can shut down in social settings. I'm never truly "myself" unless I am in a room by myself. That's the only time I'm comfortable. Even when I'm hanging around my 2 best friends watching a game, my full personality doesn't even start to come out unless we're drinking or smoking. I'm still quiet. I realize that this is a problem and I'm working on it, but I fear that it'll never change.

That's really the problem. Social fear, to the point where my mind doesn't even work the same way it works when I'm alone. I'll leave a social situation and be like "fukk man, that's not even me. I'm quiet but I literally couldn't think of fukking anything to say right there..." It's easy for people who don't feel this to be like "shut up cac p*ssy man up start a conversation" rah rah. But they don't know, and they won't. I thought after high school this would gradually get better as I matured and came into my own, but I'm 25 now and I get gradually more depressed as time goes on. Not seeking pity, I'm just being real like a lot of you are in this thread.

One day...

Breh, I feel you. It's been getting worse as I get older too. I'm 32 now, and I'm more introverted than ever. It get harder when you get older. Sometimes I feel like there's no hope.

They got me on klonopins that make me less anxious, but they don't make me more social. I need that alcohol, but I don't drink anymore. It was my only savior in social settings, but now it's gone

We got our plus sides too though breh. We're more introspective and caring I think. We just need a smaller circle where we know everybody and feel comfortable.

I'm about to move to Houston and know nobody but my grandma. shyt's gonna be rough. It's so hard to make friends post-college

 

[Ciggavelli]

sometimes we get so caught up in our thoughts, we actually show it in our faces...

We can literally be walking down the block with the face and not even know.lol

People tell me this all the time!


I'm not trying to look mean, I'm just thinking

 

[Shamrock32]

Breh, I feel you. It's been getting worse as I get older too. I'm 32 now, and I'm more introverted than ever. It get harder when you get older. Sometimes I feel like there's no hope.

They got me on klonopins that make me less anxious, but they don't make me more social. I need that alcohol, but I don't drink anymore. It was my only savior in social settings, but now it's gone

We got our plus sides too though breh. We're more introspective and caring I think. We just need a smaller circle where we know everybody and feel comfortable.

I'm about to move to Houston and know nobody but my grandma. shyt's gonna be rough. It's so hard to make friends post-college

I didn't even try one hit of weed before I turned 21.

I'm a fukking pothead now. lol nothing balances me out quite like bud.

 

[Ciggavelli]

I didn't even try one hit of weed before I turned 21.

I'm a fukking pothead now. lol nothing balances me out quite like bud.

I can't do any drugs or alcohol because of some meds I'm on. I'm stuck being sober forever.

I was a big pothead back in the day. Too much really (like smoking 8 times a day). I was a better person then though. Goddamn medical illnesses fukking my shyt up. Now I take all these drugs that are probably gonna kill me, just to be normal, and it's just making me blah instead, if you know what I mean. I just exist half the time

 

[360dagod]

People tell me this all the time!


I'm not trying to look mean, I'm just thinking

Yeah man..my mind is constantly wondering.. Sometimes I "lose myself" and drift away...lol

 

[Ciggavelli]

Yeah man..my mind is constantly wondering.. Sometimes I "lose myself" and drift away...lol

THey straight told me at work that I looked mean and unapproachable.

I was just thinking about our big project.....

 

[360dagod]

THey straight told me at work that I looked mean and unapproachable.

I was just thinking about our big project.....

im pretty much made myself bytch repellent unknowingly...


Im gonna start walking with my eyes popped out

 

[Ciggavelli]

im pretty much made myself bytch repellent unknowingly...


Im gonna start walking with my eyes popped out

Luckily my mean looking face makes me look "mysterious" girls say. But I'm always attracting "crazy "girls. I guess real recognizes real

 

[360dagod]

Luckily my mean looking face makes me look "mysterious" girls say. But I'm always attracting "crazy "girls. I guess real recognizes real

We attract the "bold" women...Which can be the gift(horny single moms)or the curse(crazy bytches)

 

[J-Nice]

I have a little bit of both to be honest. I like being around people and engaging them, but then I can totally flip it and enjoy my own company. I've gone to social gatherings alone and by the end of the night I'll have a pocketful of numbers and some solid contacts just by chopping it up with different people. The key is finding the right balance I feel.

 

[str8up]

man i hate my social anxiety

what can I do to help with it, I mean alcohol and drugs helps of course but that ain't a long term fix, i've been taking some vitamin things that are helping a little bit I think

 

[skb1065]

coming home after work and not talking to ANYONE the rest of the night

 

[Rigby.]

i enjoy floating in my own mind. yet interacting with people is the most stressful shyt ever. public conversation is draining. i prefer being solo most of the time, but its like envy the people that can easily make small talk, even though i lack that skill and hate to waste words with no thought behind them. i'm not good with conversation unless its about something i know. then i go off with that topic and wont stop for days. most of these females out here are instant extroverts that are all over the place and will freak out if they're in the house for at least a day. yet i could chill at home and have actual fun. i feel like an old man compared to women my age .

This nikka just wrote my lifestory

 

[Ciggavelli]

man i hate my social anxiety

what can I do to help with it, I mean alcohol and drugs helps of course but that ain't a long term fix, i've been taking some vitamin things that are helping a little bit I think

Some antidepressants make you more talkative (because they're uppers).

Klonopin and other sedatives help with anxiety, but they certainly don't make you more talkabtive

 

[str8up]

Some antidepressants make you more talkative (because they're uppers).

Klonopin and other sedatives help with anxiety, but they certainly don't make you more talkabtive

I do not want to use antidepressants (i am not sure if they even prescribe them to people my age) they can really fukk with you

i've noticed with drugs like diphenhydramine help my anxiety for a short period of time