being introverted can be a gift and a curse.

[str8up]

How do the introverts on here feel about public speaking?

I hate it man, I always used to like get real worried in my mind all day before I had to do like a presentation or something

I still am not too good with it like I will think I am talking real loud but people won't be able to hear me very well lol

 

[Lo-Co]

How do the introverts on here feel about public speaking?

i can do it with ease actually. lol i enjoy it. because im not focused on one designated area.

 

[Ciggavelli]

I dated a super social girl once (my last ex actually). She got me to go out more, but I hated her friends (that probably shoulda been a sign, thinking back). We got along fine when we were together one on one, but it did start to have a strain on our relationship with her wanting to go out all the time and shyt.

I don't think I'm gonna date a super social girl again. Our lifestyles just don't mesh well.

 

[Ciggavelli]

How do the introverts on here feel about public speaking?

You're not gonna believe this, but I actually had to teach public speaking for a year when I first started my phd program. I taught all of these undergrads how to speak better in public. Lol.

I'm actually good at public speaking (probably cuz they forced me to do it for a living for a year). You just gotta prepare.

Definitely take a public speaking class. You'll see that EVERYBODY is nervous. I mean EVERYBODY. Extroverts and Introverts alike.

Public speaking is all about being prepared and organization. That's it. PPT is also a great crutch you can use that still makes you look very professional (great PPT slides really keep the focus off of you and onto the info on your slides)

You'll fukking hate the class, but it is a trait that will benefit you greatly in life. I can't speak more highly of public speaking. And this comes from a MAJOR introvert.

 

[Malta]

I didn't realize how introverted I was until my sister and I were talking about Thanksgiving and Christmas parties at my grandparents house, the night almost always ended with me going upstairs and watching TV by myself after an hour or two of hanging out and socializing with my family That started as early as 6 years old, I just needed to be alone after a period of time, no matter how social I was with everyone I just felt the urge to just go sit and be alone. I'm good across the board, from public speaking to large crowds I have never in my life had social anxiety, but I do need time alone or I get annoyed very easily.


I can be hot and cold, oneday you see me I can talk to you for an hour, the next day you'll get 1 bar from me and I'll be in the same exact mood as the day before. I don't consider myself complex, but often people have said I am, and my response is I'm pretty simple, some days I feel like talking a lot and other days I'm mute.

 

[TezMilli]

I have all the traits of an introvert but it seems I have a switch that can turn me into an extrovert at any moment. The only problem is, I have no control of this switch. When I go out, sometimes I'm on and others I'm not and dying to go back home and be by myself. In these moments, two hours is my limit at any location, whether it's a party, function or any other outing.

As far as small talk, there are times, I have something witty or funny to say and on other occasions, I'm like leave me alone.

In regards to public speaking, I've been told I'm pretty good at it but I'm a nervous wreck leading up to me actually speaking.

 

[feelosofer]

I'm an introvert, but my wife likes to get out there, it works pretty well actually, I have done lots of things I wouldn't have.

 

[Ohene]

Yo

For me it got to the point I don't even save people's numbers or even ask for someone's number... You should see my inbox It's just numbers with no names.

I'm fukkin dead b

 

[Roman Brady]

I mean no disrespect whatsoever.
It really, really sounds like a couple of you may have social anxiety.
My closest friend is an INTJ and back in high school, while I had to beg son to come to certain parties with us, he could still function.
I would definitely notice a decrease in his energy level after a couple of hours, but breh could make small talk and play my wing man when the situation called for it.
If you're getting choked up over casual meet and greet conversation, or you're the type to be going for milk and see someone you recognize in the dairy aisle, so you walk down the canned goods section instead and pretend to be looking for something else until the coast is clear, you may have an underlying issue that goes deeper than simple extroversion & introversion.

yeah its called shyness

 

[Ohene]

I mean no disrespect whatsoever.
It really, really sounds like a couple of you may have social anxiety.
My closest friend is an INTJ and back in high school, while I had to beg son to come to certain parties with us, he could still function.
I would definitely notice a decrease in his energy level after a couple of hours, but breh could make small talk and play my wing man when the situation called for it.
If you're getting choked up over casual meet and greet conversation, or you're the type to be going for milk and see someone you recognize in the dairy aisle, so you walk down the canned goods section instead and pretend to be looking for something else until the coast is clear, you may have an underlying issue that goes deeper than simple extroversion & introversion.

yup. im an intj and just like your friend as well. i can function when i want to ...no shyness or nothing i just need a reason

 

[street heat]

if I'm really honest with myself, the only times I don't prefer to be alone are if I'm a club/bar, when i want sex, or when I play with my daughter. all other times I dont want or need anyone else around.

 

[Lo-Co]

the thing is keeping to myself has helped with females. well they had started out as friends. honestly ive sucked with relationship because at times id be too timid and id go out of my way to be left alone at times. i hated talking on the phone. i preferred texting honestly. hopefully i can one day show females the world im in. being reserved helps. some females do like guys with insight. yet lately in college most come off as airheaded. and it feels like being in a foreign country

 

[loyola llothta]

This thread is dead on. I never thought being an introvert was a bad thing but more so having a unhealthy habits. spending way too much with yourself in your head. Making yourself enjoy peoples coupling etc. However It's alot of great people that are introvert. For instance Huey p. Newton

I never really notice I was a introvert until my sister came from college and ask do I even speak to my parents it had me and plus my freshman year college (learn more about myself)

Its bytch when you a pretty bytch and hoes throw they self at you but you dont know how to close the deal because your soo reserved. Shyt I had thugs that want that head up with me because I was too quiet. "Bruh I dont like nikkas thats too quiet"

Luckily my mean looking face makes me look "mysterious" girls say. But I'm always attracting "crazy "girls. I guess real recognizes real

We attract the "bold" women...Which can be the gift(horny single moms)or the curse(crazy bytches)

Idk about carzy or mothers with previous babies from they ex but "bold" yeah.The fukkery When they found out you ain't about that life

 

[Based Lord Zedd]

I'm a strong introvert. INTP personality. But with me I have no issues with public speaking, am in a management position so I'm constantly dealing with people, and don't feel drained by being in public. I just catch the aloof a$$hole label or people think I'm uptight by the book.

 

[Killer Instinct]

yeah its called shyness

There's a difference between social anxiety and being shy.
Your nearest community college could no doubt clear your confusion in its respective 101 Intro Psych course.
There's also Google if you're interested and aren't the studious type.