being introverted can be a gift and a curse.

[CinnaSlim]

I hear you but let me tell you the vast majority ain't worried about you hurting their feelings by not talking to them or ending the convo. Lol they probably glad you did cause they didn't want to do,the same to you so end them bad boys yourself with no worry. Like I said y'all really need to get that confidence up cause some of what your saying and others in this thread just sound like lack of confidence. You have to think about your responses and shyt you, me, nobody is perfect let it fly. You not an idiot right so you'll be just as good as everybody else for the most part.

Why social though what you afraid of? Its not like somebody going to bite your head off or anything.

I must have really hurt some feelings with that comment. If you don't fit what im saying why y'all feeling some type of way? Of course that's why people get on here but I'm talking about a specific group but whatever faux outrage at an all time high.

Learn how to read fam before trying to be funny and its 2am on the east coast why wouldn't I be in the house on the net.

You must be super stupid if an incorrect statement is ether.

I understand what you're saying, but the way you're saying it is off putting.

Let these introverts express themselves and connect with others. We not trying to defend ourselves especially when so many just mentioned how draining it can be.

But yes, a lot of introverts do deal with anxiety. How they deal with it is what determines if it is a problem.

 

[☑︎#VoteDemocrat]

I'm a major introvert. It's a major disadvantage in our world. We're supposed to be social beings. People don't understand that some of us just want to be left alone.

I like being an introvert though. I feel more introspective and aware of my surroundings. I just wish I could flip a switch and be extroverted every once in a while. I used to be able to with drugs and alcohol, but I stopped that shyt

i'm pretty sure if you're a message board, you're an introvert.

Lets be honest.

 

[Ciggavelli]

i'm pretty sure if you're a message board, you're an introvert.

Lets be honest.

Exactly

 

[philmonroe]

you're like a person who listens but simply doesn't get it no matter how well it's explained because you think the solution is as easy as doing ___

thinking about what we say before saying it isn't because of a lack of confidence, many of us are acutely aware of how our words can be perceived by people, many of us are so "in our heads" that we have entire conversations before hand just to have a few ideas of how to effectively communicate our thoughts as efficiently as possible because we're trying to limit the chances of there being any small talk.

I can become agitated very quickly when someone, usually an extrovert who's oblivious to social cues and body language, tries to talk and I'm politely trying to show them that I don't want to talk, yet they continue talking because they can't catch a hint. there's no amount of confidence on planet earth that can make me want to interact when I'd much rather be alone with my thoughts.

Its my opinion on what I think it is you don't have to agree on it. Dude most if not all of us aren't famous people people don't really care what we have to say like some of y'all think. That's why I say its all in the head but you don't have to agree. We can agree to disagree on this issue. If you don't want small talk its easy to just Kim. What is so hard for you to do that? You saving everybody by just opening your mouth so you are correct I don't understand wasting time on something that can easily be nipped in the bud by just saying you don't feel like talking right now. People will understand and if it becomes a pattern ,out will get the message. Hell probably everybody cause its rare I see folks just dying to talk to people that don't want to interact with them but maybe some of y'all are outliers.

You getting real defensive breh. You need to be more secure

I am but if being more secure is not responding to you fukk it I guess I'll be insecure right now

First step to recovery is acknowledgement of the problem

Yeah that -230 is a problem I agree should work on that

I understand what you're saying, but the way you're saying it is off putting.

Let these introverts express themselves and connect with others. We not trying to defend ourselves especially when so many just mentioned how draining it can be.

But yes, a lot of introverts do deal with anxiety. How they deal with it is what determines if it is a problem.

Thats funny we feel the same way about each others ways at time. The way some introverts speak on their problems is off putting too see post 13. I guess everybody can learn from each other to be more understanding and I'm being serious. Funny thing is I do alot of these same things but I also have no problem doing the "extrovert" stuff either. Honestly that's why I always wonder whats really good and is it moreso insecurity about something. I would never label myself in/extrovert but thats probably just different strokes for different folks right there.

 

[Ciggavelli]

I am but if being more secure is not responding to you fukk it I guess I'll be insecure right now
Yeah that -230 is a problem I agree should work on that


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yet, you keep responding

and you shouldn't be talking about rep, friend. You're at 0. it just takes one button to make you red

 

[AquaCityBoy]

Honestly when folks start this shyt but be all up on the nets I can't but feel y'all cats insecure about yourselves and wish y'all could be extroverted

OH YEAH WELL I CAN'T HELP BUT FEEL YOU'RE A fukkING a$$hole YOU PIECE OF shyt.

 

[Majestyx]

i've never envied extroverts, them nikkas are annoying, fukk them.

i'll talk when i wanna talk, if you cant deal

 

[Lo-Co]

i've never envied extroverts, them nikkas are annoying, fukk them.

i'll talk when i wanna talk, if you cant deal

only thing ive envied is just being comfortable in public

 

[TRFG]

i've never envied extroverts, them nikkas are annoying, fukk them.

i'll talk when i wanna talk, if you cant deal

Ikr, what kind of man feels the need to talk every minute

 

[Majestyx]

only thing ive envied is just being comfortable in public

i guess i'm not a pure introvert, i can talk to women when i want to, and i'm comfortable in public. only time i'm not comfortable when i'm the only nig in a sea of CAC's

 

[Ciggavelli]

"Wise men listen and laugh, while fools talk"

 

[philmonroe]

yet, you keep responding

and you shouldn't be talking about rep, friend. You're at 0. it just takes one button to make you red

Its not a smilie you can use that can stop the truth. I already said I would keep responding I have nothing popping until 3:30 when I leave the house so keep on being mad at me. I can still talk about rep sir because last I check 0 or -10 still isn't -230 so yeah big difference there.

OH YEAH WELL I CAN'T HELP BUT FEEL YOU'RE A fukkING a$$hole YOU PIECE OF shyt.

Ok Im ok with that. Everybody has their opinions but do you know me or are you just saying that because you disagree with what Im saying? Either way if that's what you feel about me cool wish you thought differently but hey such is life.

 

[tater]

I used to always think I was an extrovert, but now that I've gotten older I see differently. I can easily work a crowd and have no problem going out in public. I don't mind talking to people, but usually they have to talk to me first for me to start (unless I'm under the influence lol). I just find I enjoy doing most things by myself. Going to the movies, out to eat, shopping, traveling, etc. I would rather be alone. I really have to be in the mood to be bothered with people, even friends at times (unless they need me or insist I come out). I find myself making excuses not to hang out with people because I'd rather just be alone at times (or I find my friends like to do things I'm just not into like go to the club get drunk and stuff like that). I don't mind going out every now and then and sometimes I enjoy it, those are really the only times I like being around people.

I would rather stay in the house play some video games, watch a movie and have a glass of wine and cook with a close group of people than go to a party or something. But if I get to a party I have no problem or anxiety working the room.

 

[RiffRaff]

I mean no disrespect whatsoever.
It really, really sounds like a couple of you may have social anxiety.
My closest friend is an INTJ and back in high school, while I had to beg son to come to certain parties with us, he could still function.
I would definitely notice a decrease in his energy level after a couple of hours, but breh could make small talk and play my wing man when the situation called for it.
If you're getting choked up over casual meet and greet conversation, or you're the type to be going for milk and see someone you recognize in the dairy aisle, so you walk down the canned goods section instead and pretend to be looking for something else until the coast is clear, you may have an underlying issue that goes deeper than simple extroversion & introversion.

 

[CinnaSlim]

Thats funny we feel the same way about each others ways at time. The way some introverts speak on their problems is off putting too see post 13. I guess everybody can learn from each other to be more understanding and I'm being serious. Funny thing is I do alot of these same things but I also have no problem doing the "extrovert" stuff either. Honestly that's why I always wonder whats really good and is it moreso insecurity about something. I would never label myself in/extrovert but thats probably just different strokes for different folks right there.

You can be both but the breakdown is basically this:

• Introverted individuals prefer solitary activities, think before speaking, get exhausted by social interaction.
• Extraverted individuals prefer group activities, think while speaking, get energized by social interaction.

I'm an introvert but I come off as an extrovert because I like to help people. So, I talk to them to get to know them, find out the problem and offer advice. However, if I'm in a room full of people talking about nothing, I'll go busy myself in the corner somewhere. Not because I'm scared to talk to people but because it's too much effort and not enough reward.

I only get anxious talking to people if I'm afraid of hearing them criticize or nag me like my family. I avoid them all the time.

Another difference is that we speak at different "volumes" like Matt504 touched on introverts tend to see different ways their words can be perceived and try to say things in the best way. This is part of the thinking before you speak. I know that can be annoying to extroverts who work at a faster pace.

Extroverts think while they speak. They think or feel something and they say it bluntly and that is why a lot of the time they end up not understanding why other people are so "sensitive". They usually have no filter.