being introverted can be a gift and a curse.

[OCCAMS_RAZOR]

it might be a bit cynical but you should look at social interaction as a form of transaction. if you've nothing to offer, whether it be looks or money, then what right do you have to hang out with the popular kids?

it might be very difficult to mull over, because most of us have been indoctrinated with an over-inflated sense of our own worth, but overall, you'll be a much happier person accepting the fact that the world is inherently unfair and that you will not always get what you want.

 

[OCCAMS_RAZOR]

it's not like i don't wanna talk to people, i like talking to and meeting new people but it's like after i come to know them as person they just ditch me and don't bother hitting me up unless i do.

tbh breh, i don't really have a great answer for this. i'm dealing with a similar dilemma. the cycle usually goes, that you meet a new person, there's exciting new possiblities there, so you're optimistic. you do them a favor. you hit them up on some let's hang out. they don't respond. over time the friendship just becomes strained and then they drop off. when you're dealing with people loads you have to be very patient and optimistic as it's very easy to become cynical.

what i know for use, is that regardless of who fukked the other person over. i never want to be the person who burned the bridge. after the last bridge i burned, i swore i would never do it again as it was a very traumatizing experience.

but yeah breh, i can't pin down a clear answer for you. definitely you should set a limit as people's fukkery knows no bounds. even i'm contemplating cutting some people off because my tolerance for bullshyt isn't infinite.

but be good at shrugging the bs off man. that's the only way you will prevail. what makes it worht it for me is when i meet the people who're just diamonds ... straight piff ... ride or die for eternity ... They make all that bullshyt that i've gone through in my adult life seem worth it (almost)

 

[KOOL-AID]

27:55-29:00
kind of sums up how I be feelin, like what we tlkn for man just wassup and kim

 

[philmonroe]

This shyt is gospel my dude

PREACH!!

Exactly I know how these cats feel even though I'm not bad as them at all. I'm just realistic in what was really wrong and its something we all have to do. I just noticed the more I changed things I felt insecure about the less I was worried about these problems others on here talking about and hope they see that's probably more of the problem than stuff they think it is that makes some come off as faux elitest. Its like its some kind of defense mechanism and on here you get bunch of people to co sing but that shyt hurting alot of y'all from being as great as you can/want to be. Ole nobody has nothing to say but what do y'all really have to say that's so important? That's why certain things people in these threads say come off just like their extroverted partners but just from a different perspective IMO.

exactly man, that's why i said that you have to let go of your own ego. it might be that you're just not a fun dude. i already know i'm not the funniest, wittiest dude in the world. i know some people who're witty & hilarious, and i can totally understand why they are more socially popular than me. i mean even i prefer to hangout with them than with other people.

key thing is that you just have to relax and go with the flow. a trait that all introverts all share is that they're very controlling and analytical. you want to say the perfect thing, dress perfectly, etc. you're always overanalyzing the situation. nothing's ever perfect. and even the folks who're 'good with people' fukk up more often than not (i.e. say & do embarassing things, wear weird clothing, bad breath etc).

See that's good you know your weakness and like fukk it I understand while others in/extroverted will be say people funny when its just nah you ain't good in this certain situation. Its life we all can't be great at everything. People got mad when I say that analytical stuff is bullshyt to me. I say that because honestly its a type of procrastinating. Most times we all know what needs to be done but talk ourselves out of doing it on some I'm thinking nah my dude you bullshytting. I'm talking moreso about social situations not more serious stuff even though the same things pop up the

weak? nikkas know i don't play and get shyt poppin problem is that, when it's time go out all they wanna do is drink and play beer pong and then they head out the very last minute and when i don't feel like going out or getting my shyt ready for class that's when they decide to hit me up.

Why did you put weak? I don't know you I just said if you're weak. First thing you do is put weak like I tried to play you lets not make it like that. Also my dude you just answered your own question you don't like what they doing like that and you probably give them vibes off. I wouldn't call you either and if you for whatever reason seem not to be able to go often enough cats ain't going to call you. Its happened to me too its just how it goes. Maybe you need more diverse going out friends that are on a similar schedule and activity flow. That's what I do when I'm on my vibe and my usual partying friends aren't going. I go out by myself or just make new friends doing the other activities.

 

[TRFG]

27:55-29:00
kind of sums up how I be feelin, like what we tlkn for man just wassup and kim

Me in a nutshell

 

[GrindtooFilthy]

tbh breh, i don't really have a great answer for this. i'm dealing with a similar dilemma. the cycle usually goes, that you meet a new person, there's exciting new possiblities there, so you're optimistic. you do them a favor. you hit them up on some let's hang out. they don't respond. over time the friendship just becomes strained and then they drop off. when you're dealing with people loads you have to be very patient and optimistic as it's very easy to become cynical.

what i know for use, is that regardless of who fukked the other person over. i never want to be the person who burned the bridge. after the last bridge i burned, i swore i would never do it again as it was a very traumatizing experience.

but yeah breh, i can't pin down a clear answer for you. definitely you should set a limit as people's fukkery knows no bounds. even i'm contemplating cutting some people off because my tolerance for bullshyt isn't infinite.

but be good at shrugging the bs off man. that's the only way you will prevail. but then you'll also meet the people who're just diamonds ... straight piff ... ride or die for eternity ... who make all that bullshyt that you went through seem worth it (almost)

that's the problem people dropping out of my life has been happening since day 1 even though i'm always told that i'm funny and a unique character. i'm a docile person and i am not quick to anger, if this keeps on i can see myself doing a complete 180 and just being ruthless and relentless

i don't burn bridges, i can't. how can you burn a bridge that was never built in the first place.

tbh i'd rather go to party and not know anyone then go to party and see familiar faces of people that threw me away, what's is worse is that those familiar faces will act like they didn't do that shyt too. right now i'm the only person in my 8 man suite. none of my roommates are ever around.

i'd rather meet up with the cats on thecoli and kick back than party on my campus

 

[philmonroe]

it might be a bit cynical but you should look at social interaction as a form of transaction. if you've nothing to offer, whether it be looks or money, then what right do you have to hang out with the popular kids?

it might be very difficult to mull over, because most of us have been indoctrinated with an over-inflated sense of our own worth, but overall, you'll be a much happier person accepting the fact that the world is inherently unfair and that you will not always get what you want.

Right now man we are drinking from the same fountain. I so agree with this and I also think people in here instinctively do too that's why they say some of the stuff gear towards "extroverts" they do even if they aren't having the ball some think they are cause everybody has problems just shows up in different forms for different people IMO at least.

 

[GrindtooFilthy]

Why did you put weak? I don't know you I just said if you're weak. First thing you do is put weak like I tried to play you lets not make it like that. Also my dude you just answered your own question you don't like what they doing like that and you probably give them vibes off. I wouldn't call you either and if you for whatever reason seem not to be able to go often enough cats ain't going to call you. Its happened to me too its just how it goes. Maybe you need more diverse going out friends that are on a similar schedule and activity flow. That's what I do when I'm on my vibe and my usual partying friends aren't going. I go out by myself or just make new friends doing the other activities.

might have read that out of context i find it hard to read text sometimes the way it's displayed (like if i get a text from someone i read it thinking a person is angry with me when in reality they just chilling)

i think me having way too many diverse friends might cause it, i don't really have solid group of people i can call and kick it with on friday night. before i used to go out by myself but now it's just boring when your by yourself, only time i do roll solo dolo is when i'm going to a concert

 

[Matt504]

I don't party at all, don't even drink so a nice relaxing night for me is half watching a movie while researching stuff on the internet from my laptop and also browsing the interwebs from my phone at the same time without any humans interrupting, the only contact that I'd be cool with during this time is with people I choose to contact, and 99% of the time it'll be via text because it's easier to end the conversation that way.

if everyone respected everyone else's spaces, the world would be a beautiful place.

 

[GrindtooFilthy]

it might be a bit cynical but you should look at social interaction as a form of transaction. if you've nothing to offer, whether it be looks or money, then what right do you have to hang out with the popular kids?

it might be very difficult to mull over, because most of us have been indoctrinated with an over-inflated sense of our own worth, but overall, you'll be a much happier person accepting the fact that the world is inherently unfair and that you will not always get what you want.

money and looks ain't the only thing though breh, if i'm looking at it as transaction then the things me and my best friends offer each other the most is our time, energy, and presence.

 

[NobodyReally]

after re-reading my post it seems like i was emphasizing race too much. so i'd like to emphasize this particular point. your comfortability level might vary depending on class, income, profession, language, differences and that might be a factor in why you feel like you'd prefer to stay alone.

but again, it might be that you just don't feel comfortable with ppl period. in that case then yeah, you're an introvert. i strongly suspect though that a lot of people aren't as introverted as they think. it's just a convenient label that people tack on to themselves to explain why they do not feel comfortable hanging around people. socializing is also partly a skill, that you can develop and hone.

basically, in summary, be very careful with what you label yourself as.

That's the not the definition of an introvert. I LOVE my girls. I tell them everything. Being around them is like soul food, they energize me...to a point. But I'm an introvert, meaning I cannot socialize for too long because people drain me. It has nothing to do with comfort level. My girls understand, and know when we get together, there's generally a four to five hour time limit, and that's being generous. But we kick it as much as possible, I just can't hang too long because I need to recharge my batteries and have some down time.

 

[OCCAMS_RAZOR]

That's the not the definition of an introvert. I LOVE my girls. I tell them everything. Being around them is like soul food, they energize me...to a point. But I'm an introvert, meaning I cannot socialize for too long because people drain me.

Well, if you change the definition to that, then yeah, I'd say I'm an introvert too. I like talking but I definitely need my alone time.

 

[EVILRICO]

I also don't like to be around many people, It just pisses me off when im around folks and all they have to talk about and gossip about are other folks.
One minute they are talking bad about there other friends , and then the next min, they are cool with that same friend they were talking all down on.

 

[Matt504]

I also don't like to be around many people, It just pisses me off when im around folks and all they have to talk about and gossip about are other folks.
One minute they are talking bad about there other friends , and then the next min, they are cool with that same friend they were talking all down on.

I have extremely low tolerance for this behavior, type of shyt that makes me cut that entire group off.

 

[DJ Mart-Kos]

I'm very introvert and insecure.
I used to go to school and literally not say 1 word for 2 hours straight sometimes. (no joke)
But i guess it has to with my autism also.
But 1 of my friends (girl) says im very social which i never expected.
Its funny i find it easier to talk to girls usually.