Being left on read

[Crude]

Discontinue communication with them.

Like others have said take a hint that those people don’t want to be bothered with you.

Communication tells you a lot, who and what they really want to be bothered with isn’t being left on read long nor is it taking them hours upon hours or days to respond.

Don’t argue, don’t get in your feelings, you either turn that temperature down or you completely leave that situation when people’s energy isn’t matching yours.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

This is the problem. No one is talking about strictly women. I'm talking about people. Humans. A boss. A little brother. A job recruiter. Anyone

Another example of why technology has failed us. It has breeded terrible character

outside of nudes, all that can be applied to humans in general.

Communication has been devalued. It is why writing a letter to a interviewer after the interview, asking your lil bro to play catch with you, and approaching a woman for a compliment hold weight,

 

[RARI_Godwind]

Was expecting to see an R&B song.


I ain’t read all that tho so I get your point.

 

[re'up]

I've written a lot on this, it's pretty fascinating to me, and there's multiple reasons:

1: looking into a lot of people's phones is just pure chaos, there's dozens and dozens of unread messages on three or 6 different apps, group chats, work emails, Snaps, DM's, on and on, it's overwhelming, and people tend to "triage" as in respond to only what the feel is the most important, and as part of that, they may feel like replying a few days later is too "awkward", as a lot of texts are time sensitive to a degree, people realize this, even if they don't verbalize it. We used to kind of think "we all have our phones 24 hours", and that's true, but many have lost control in a sense

2: Ascribing a lot of meaning to digital communication, through gesturing or signaling, even the words you use, we use, "ghost", "left on read", we are Anthropomorphizing and ascribing meaning to behavior that isn't always that meaningful, someone didn't respond to your message, but if that person walks up to you right now, what is your interaction going to be? Probably fine. Maybe even intimate to a degree.

First example, you text someone who likes you, (Hey, are you free tonight?") they are, but don't know if they are done w/ their ex, so they say nothing, even if you will 100% see this person again. They were uncomfortable. They chose to avoid.

-second example, people use the phrase "talking phase", to describe essentially texting with someone, but the meaning is romantic/sexual, therefore that bleeds into all other communications

-As in, if you are "talking" with someone, there is some deeper meaning to that, or is that "cheating", is that "showing interest", and so on

I collect these stories all day, you can't take it too personally, or like a full on rejection, One of the harder parts though, is that you know what it feels like when people are texting "right", everyone knows how to do it, quick responses, building to something. But, that doesn't always happen, so it gives the feeling of rejection.

 

[A Pimp Named Slickback]

Was expecting to see an R&B song.


I ain’t read all that tho so I get your point.

I need to make a thread about this too. Deep threads with 2 paragraphs or more tend to get ignored on here. Simple articles don't get read. Instagram videos in OPs don't get watched on here. People just respond to the title

ADHD internet age. Take me back to the good days


(Thats a bar don't ask me how )

 

[SteelCitySoldier]

This is the problem. No one is talking about strictly women. I'm talking about people. Humans. A boss. A little brother. A job recruiter. Anyone

Texting is probably the main form of communication these days. It wasnt always like this. Another example of why technology has failed us. It has breeded terrible character and delusion

I tell my kids all the time, “certain things aren’t supposed to be asked while texting”. Technology has made people lazy as fukk and it’s getting to a point where communication will basically extinct because people already had communication issues before hand unfortunately.

 

[desjardins]

I only felt some way about it happening once
Some dude I went to college with left me on read when I asked him a specific question about his car.....cause I was about to buy the same model
We weren't close or anything but damn, how hard is it to just text back 1 sentence
lowkey was happy when nikka went thru a divorce and he be posting these vids of him lonely in the crib getting 2 likes

 

[WetinBeDat]

It's disrespectful. If they lack the common courtesy to respond, just leave it be and move on

 

[ViShawn]

I don't like responding to messages I have a preview on because I don't want to appear I'm ignoring them i.e. leaving them on read. If I do I will respond to them in the next couple of hours. Some people DO deserve to be left on read though.

One thing I absolutely HATE is the thumbs up emoji lmao

 

[karim]

Why is this considered acceptable by so many people? This always baffled me

It's like hearing someone talk to you in person, then you just walk away


Taking it a step further, back when people wrote letters to each other. It's like reading a letter someone sent you, and ignoring it. Never sending one back. Just reading it, then throwing it away

Do people who do this see this the same way? Is it lack of emotional maturity? Lack of empathy? One of the many downfalls of the smartphone social media internet era

And to the "I'm too busy I don't have time to be a decent human and acknowledge communication" independent cool alpha humans, if you have time to read it, then you have time to at least say, at some point, that you can't respond at length. Or say you aren't in the mood. Anything. A simple sentence

I'm not talking texts that don't need to be responded to. I'm talking questions asked, serious statements, just shyt texted that makes sense to be replied to

It doesn't affect me like it used to. But it still confuses me. I wrote a research essay in undergrad Psych on a subject adjacent to this. Maybe I was just raised differently than other people

Personally, I stop communicating with anybody that leaves me on read more than once. The first time, I stop talking to you until you hit me up the next time, the second, I'm done with you

 

[Crude]

I only felt some way about it happening once
Some dude I went to college with left me on read when I asked him a specific question about his car.....cause I was about to buy the same model
We weren't close or anything but damn, how hard is it to just text back 1 sentence
lowkey was happy when nikka went thru a divorce and he be posting these vids of him lonely in the crib getting 2 likes

Petty AF.

The Coli Dot Com

 

[Complexion]

Send another message, just to make sure.

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

If it’s a woman you’re interested in left you on read bush em I ain’t ever had a woman that was into me leave me on read. They reply SOMETHING even if it’s basic. And never hours later.

If it’s a family member or friend then I and keep it movin. I’m not trippin cause I prolly left them on read at some point.

 

[J.E.T.S]

It happens, keep it moving. Even if they respond after some time has past, I would delete it without even opening the message.

It does beg the question, why would someone give their number out if they have no intention of responding? Smh.

 

[King]

Who gives a fukk?