Being Social And Living/Being With Someone Who Is Anti-social/Introverted

[Invisible Man]

Been lettin' this girl stay with me for a little bit and I first I thought her being "introverted" would be cool on some opposites attract type shyt, but so far I've been let down.

First off, her social skills aren't super bad, but every once in a while (like every day) she'll say some shyt that'll have me thinking "wow, this chick is lame AF " or like, she'll find the one thing she wants to talk about and then try to stay on that subject for a good 10 minutes while being quiet any other time.

I'd say the fact that I know she's always at home waiting makes me inclined to stay out even more, cause I don't wanna be around her. Told her mid week that we should just be friends and completely cut the fukking part of things. I didn't even come home last night. Not coming home tonight either.

It's like she seriously has no life outside of me and that makes me uncomfortable because that's a lot of responsibility to handle that I don't want. She leavin' next week so I'm just riding it out til then.

Plus the sex is wack AF.

Also, is this what being married feels like? I've let girls stay with me all the time before but they usually have social lives or at least have moves they invite me to with them. I'm thinking to myself, holy fukk, what if being older and married is like this shyt I'd go crazy

How did you meet her?

 

[StickStickly]

Yeah they're very arrogant

Introverted people has an elitist complex cause they don't feel accepted

Expand please

 

[CrimsonTider]

Expand please

Most introverted people say things like

"I don't talk about mindless stuff"

" people just don't understand my mind"

"People are annoying"

" I dislike small talk"

"I only like to have convos about stuff that interest me"

A bunch of pretentious narcissistic bullshyt which really means I have social anxiety and I get nervous as hell when I have to engage with people I don't really know

 

[JLova]

Sitting at home is a bore especially on the weekends

After work 5 days a week you are a homebody because you have to get up the next day

On the weekend we need to be out here being social, creating memories, hanging with friends and meeting new people.

Every weekend? I'll pass. Most of my friends are in different countries so we're not hanging as often as before. My girl doesn't have a large group of friends. We somehow find a way to keep ourselves busy. Hang with family a lot, friends on occasion and with each other of course. We do a lot of shyt in the summer. Always somewhere to go. But winter time? Nah. We'll either go out for dinner, shopping, the odd party...but we each have our own friends and do shyt with them individually or together. It works for me. Probably wouldn't work for the young me who wanted to be at every function, event, party, etc. That shyt gets old fast. We're going to take a couple classes later in the spring/summer. Trying to figure out what. That kind of shyt interests me more than going out and partying.

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

She's not only an introvert, but socially awkward. The two are not equivalent and for letting a female move in with you that you're not in a relationship with.​

 

[CrimsonTider]

Every weekend? I'll pass. Most of my friends are in different countries so we're not hanging as often as before. My girl doesn't have a large group of friends. We somehow find a way to keep ourselves busy. Hang with family a lot, friends on occasion and with each other of course. We do a lot of shyt in the summer. Always somewhere to go. But winter time? Nah. We'll either go out for dinner, shopping, the odd party...but we each have our own friends and do shyt with them individually or together. It works for me. Probably wouldn't work for the young me who wanted to be at every function, event, party, etc. That shyt gets old fast. We're going to take a couple classes later in the spring/summer. Trying to figure out what. That kind of shyt interests me more than going out and partying.

Of course not every weekend.

And it doesn't get cold like it does up there

 

[CrimsonTider]

my husband isnt lame he's just a L7 or square. he doesnt do much besides go to work and play video games or watch sports. he's really quiet which is fine by me. its a balancing act for us, we fit together quite well. but my husband smokes weed with me, so we have long comfortable silences. I find myself talking about nothing and he'll just look at me and I know thats my cue to stfu. we've been together 10 yrs now and I wouldnt have it any other way.

She's not only an introvert, but socially awkward. The two are not equivalent and for letting a female move in with you that you're not in a relationship with.​

Yeah it's the same thing

Introverts is just the politically correct way of saying socially awkward

 

[JLova]

Of course not every weekend.

And it doesn't get cold like it does up there

If I lived in a warm weather city then I'd need to be out a lot more. So I guess that has a lot to do with it. No way could I stay home when the weather's beautiful. A lot easier to stay home when it's cold as fukk. This winter's been terrible.

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

Yeah it's the same thing

Introverts is just the politically correct way of saying socially awkward

Bullshyt. I'm an introvert and am not socially awkward. ​

 

[1thouwow]

Let her cook. Maybe she don't care and is happily a homebody

 

[Trillion]

op seems like a cool dude
but to be honest i dont know how dudes could wife up club bytches
even rappers dont wife up those types
seems like you being immature about the situation and would regret it later

 

[Crakface]

What is she saying that's so lame?


What's your definition of lame?

I think the-coli is the only place where being a good friend/person can be misconstrued as being "lonely". Maybe because nikkas on here aren't used to having friends/are introverted?

Nah, I actually live in a pretty major city and a pretty well known alum from my school, so I get a lot of people who want to stay with me a lot, whether they are just visiting or moving into town. This girl happens to be moving into her new spot at the end of this week and just needed some place to stay until then while she's working. She asked, and I understood, so I didn't mind. I don't get what you mean by "stick around". We aren't in a relationship, never have been. And we agreed from jump that we weren't relationship compatible (mostly because I'm strictly non-committal with too many options right now), but I figured we could still be friends.

But now I don't think we can even be that cause it's way worse than I expected. Just would have never guessed she was so introverted.

Nothing new. Its just a hit and run, but more then anything, because the p*ssy is wack. Introverted. fukk outta here. So if the p*ssy was trash but she was extroverted, the friendship would work out. O lucky her, Really shows what you think of these people.

 

[Wild self]

Sitting at home is a bore especially on the weekends

After work 5 days a week you are a homebody because you have to get up the next day

On the weekend we need to be out here being social, creating memories, hanging with friends and meeting new people.

@ you doing the same shyt every weekend, in the same social locations, and meeting new people. And they say that introverts are the judgmental ones

 

[Arishok]

Bullshyt. I'm an introvert and am not socially awkward. ​

Exactly!!!! People act introverts are afraid of socialization or something. We actually can and will engage in conversations. Just because we don't enjoy small talk doesn't mean we won't engage it. Why can't people wrap their head around this is beyond me.

 

[CrimsonTider]

@ you doing the same shyt every weekend, in the same social locations, and meeting new people. And they say that introverts are the judgmental ones