reading that other thread, I got the impression you don't really like yourself that much. figuring out why that is and fixing it would be a starting point. As an example, the reforming thot i was talking about in that other post had a terrible mother, who dominated her very weak father. She basically raised her to believe that only a perfect daughter was good enough to deserves love, and of course, she was never good enough. that led to severe self esteem issues, which made her long for acceptance, which in turn led to terrible life choices and a preference for dominating men that weren't as weak as her dad. in addition, sex became her method of choice to relieve pressure and feel acceptance, which only compounded the problem. unfortunately, that shyt was so hardwired into her brain, that she aborted her project of reform half way through
so my to do list for you would be:
1.) reflect on what type of man you're attracted to and why
2.) reflect on why your relationships failed and what your contribution was (that includes picking the wrong guy)
3.) reflect on your upringing and how it relates to your opinion of men (a mother that tells you man ain't shyt can't be healthy)
4.) train yourself to see men as individuals and not a collective