Black Girl Lawst....Help!!!
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The Wolf Among You
Superstar
this thread my effort to change that. ....but yea
Who hurt you so bad?
my wounds are mostly self-inflicted. Poor choices did me in 
DIMES
Retired troll
You'd rather have random seeds than your own biological children ?
What's wrong with u?
010101
C L O N E*0690//////
all my life I've just taken what was given
everything i could get my hands on
never have i denied the love of many for just one
never have i played favorites
never pretended that anyone was mine
or that i was capable of belonging to anyone
my love is constant and it remains the same
if u choose to stay if u choose to leave
there was a brief moment where i contemplated in anguish
am i a monster for not conforming¿
that depression faded quickly
and i fell deep into a manic bliss
irretrievable and out of reach
the world at large irredeemable and lost to me
I'm not at fault and neither are they
i wasn't meant to know their pain
my love and my joy too great
modern days male marilyn magdalene madonna
feel me¿
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everything i could get my hands on
never have i denied the love of many for just one
never have i played favorites
never pretended that anyone was mine
or that i was capable of belonging to anyone
my love is constant and it remains the same
if u choose to stay if u choose to leave
there was a brief moment where i contemplated in anguish
am i a monster for not conforming¿
that depression faded quickly
and i fell deep into a manic bliss
irretrievable and out of reach
the world at large irredeemable and lost to me
I'm not at fault and neither are they
i wasn't meant to know their pain
my love and my joy too great
modern days male marilyn magdalene madonna
feel me¿*
Thanks for being honest.
Been thinking about this for a minute really.
When I first joined this site I had a very similar mindset as you, but after discussing it in several different threads... I realized I was full of shyt
I've always wanted something serious, and I just put up a "women aint shyt" phony ass facade. Truth is, I would love to have a strong committed marriage like my parents and I have no problem letting down all my walls for the right woman in order to achieve it.
I think deep down inside you are too
.... but you have had too many shytty relationships for you to consider that. Your analytical mind is telling you "why trust these nikkas? Check the receipts! They aint shyt girl! 
"There is nothing logical about making yourself vulnerable enough to love someone else. That's why so many people equate the mindset of someone who is deeply in love the mindset of someone who is crazy. That's why love can turn to hate so quickly when betrayed. That's why love isn't for everyone.
If I can offer a suggestion.... I'm usually against platonic relationships between men and women, but I think you need to find a good guy friend or two just to prove to you that not all guys are shyt. As of right now you probably have such a strong anti-man wall built up i'm surprised you aren't a lesbian
.Maybe after a couple of years of having good men around you, you might begin to have a restored faith in the male population.
Yes... most of us will still be shyt, but there will always be exceptions
Now i'm gonna go read this thread and see all TheColi advice that was given out
all my life I've just taken what was given
everything i could get my hands on
never have i denied the love of many for just one
never have i played favorites
never pretended that anyone was mine
or that i was capable of belonging to anyone
my love is constant and it remains the same
if u choose to stay if u choose to leave
there was a brief moment where i contemplated in anguish
am i a monster for not conforming¿
that depression faded quickly
and i fell deep into a manic bliss
irretrievable and out of reach
the world at large irredeemable and lost to me
I'm not at fault and neither are they
i wasn't meant to know their pain
my love and my joy too great
modern days male marilyn magdalene madonna
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This is so beautiful
The first thing I would say is to take everything that is posted here with a grain of salt. At best we have a very small and limited snap shot into your life and any solution that we give will be limited by this.
With that being said, there is nothing new under the sun. While you may see yourself as a special snowflake, your problems are not unique. Numerous women (and men) go through these same issues. Your problems in dating aren't even that complicated. Your entire life you have only dealt with men who have a sky high sexual market value. The tall, handsome, smooth talking brother who has a lot of options. The problem that you've run into (if you want to call it that) is that men are biologically programmed to get with as many girls as possible (And miss me with the moralizing bull shyt. Yes there may be high value men who don't do this, but that stems not from a lack of desire but rather the fact that there is something else controlling their actions i.e. Religion, GF, Wife, public perception).
This is why so many woman talk about how they use to go after the "bad" boy, but then they grew up (it hurt enough) and settled for a good guy. From my perspective as a male, however, it is less about there being bad boys (guys who hurt you) and good boys (guys who don't hurt you/care about you) and more about guys that have options and guys that don't have options.
There's an old story that I came across a while back that goes like this.
With that being said, there is nothing new under the sun. While you may see yourself as a special snowflake, your problems are not unique. Numerous women (and men) go through these same issues. Your problems in dating aren't even that complicated. Your entire life you have only dealt with men who have a sky high sexual market value. The tall, handsome, smooth talking brother who has a lot of options. The problem that you've run into (if you want to call it that) is that men are biologically programmed to get with as many girls as possible (And miss me with the moralizing bull shyt. Yes there may be high value men who don't do this, but that stems not from a lack of desire but rather the fact that there is something else controlling their actions i.e. Religion, GF, Wife, public perception).
This is why so many woman talk about how they use to go after the "bad" boy, but then they grew up (it hurt enough) and settled for a good guy. From my perspective as a male, however, it is less about there being bad boys (guys who hurt you) and good boys (guys who don't hurt you/care about you) and more about guys that have options and guys that don't have options.
There's an old story that I came across a while back that goes like this.
A man stops and asks an old fella in his chair, "Sir, what's wrong with your dog? He's howling, howling, I could hear him a block away. What's wrong with your dog?" The old man's reply, "He's lyin' on a nail." "Lying on a nail?" the man said, "Lying on a nail?" "Yep" "Then why doesn't he just get up and move? Why doesn't he do something?" The old man's reply - "Well, I guess it just doesn't hurt him enough yet."
jwonder
Superstar
Need more insight. Are you chasing guys that wear Jordan's, drive Benz, but live with their parents?last night's hoe tales derailment debacle of a thread got me thinking..... listen and learn from those who not tryna troll....
So long story short, I'm no victim and no angel but 11 years of dating as left a bytch jaded.....I want to stop seeing men as an enemy to my life and future but thus far have been unable to. The game might have sucked me dry.
Ive also accepted that I'm not relationship material due to my mindset towards males....everyone tells me I'm wrong....but I feel like I have the right outlook
Help!!! black girl Lawst
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Silkk
Can't Change My Damn Avi :beli:
400 foot fall and he actually lived, the drogue chute slowed him down enough and the snow being so deep saved his life.
010101
C L O N E*0690//////
i am you¿
maybe but younger and as a male
and your imagined flaws I've turned to virtues
i accepted extremely early in my youth that according to most(women)i am crazy
very few will understand
but you don't have to understand me to accept me
or to love me
& you don't have to love me for longer than you want
because i never ask for forever
most people are seasonal
they fade in they fade out
temporal impermanent fickle
so i just stay steady
and honestly i only have the answers for myself
you have to fill in the spaces for you
no one here can do that
but if you present an opportunity for me to ramble i will
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I am The Wrench in all your plans....
I've never cheated...
It's never too late to repurpose your life
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Learn to cook
Write
Devote yourself to health and peak human fitness
Etc.