Well what did you mean then?
Are many in relationships? Share the same views as you? Do they know your history like that or yall ever discuss this shyt or what?
Black Girl Lawst....Help!!!
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Are many in relationships? Share the same views as you? Do they know your history like that or yall ever discuss this shyt or what?
If I can offer a suggestion.... I'm usually against platonic relationships between men and women, but I think you need to find a good guy friend or two just to prove to you that not all guys are shyt. As of right now you probably have such a strong anti-man wall built up i'm surprised you aren't a lesbian.
This is exactly the kind of specific advice that could work for changing that mindset. Get you a couple of good male friends that challenge that stance of yours
i dont want no trouble coli
@PeridotPuss
You seem like a super fun girl so there's no way this isn't going to work out for you.
However you come across as a bit nonchalant on here, and If that's the case irl too that would make me a bit wary of investing real emotions outside of sex
You seem like a super fun girl so there's no way this isn't going to work out for you.
However you come across as a bit nonchalant on here, and If that's the case irl too that would make me a bit wary of investing real emotions outside of sex
They are about 50/50 single and relationships. No, most of my friends think I'm just "hurt" but as more time has gone on.....some are starting to respect my views but everyone cautions that if I don't believe there is something diff for me out there I'll never get it
Yea, those close to me know all my business. I'm not weird about privacy
or afraid of looking dumb/crazy so.....folks know what's good. Seems like most ppl just feel sorry for me 
I would never brag about how much I do for folks but I am a giving person actually 
self centered and a bit erratic but loyal and giving...
You just described the type of guys who have access to every type of girl from hood to corporate. If they have no problems getting women they not in what you are thinking of as a square
From reading this thread I am not sure if you are actually willing to accept a change in mindset
What is ur relationship like with your mother and father? I am still kind of surprised a mother would do that to her child. Your father had nothing to say about this incident? What is your parents relationship with each other? Is there respect? Fidelity? Do you think they could of caused some of your trust issues? I'm just asking because it seems like you lost before you even started playing
Also....I read one of your posts in this thread about you willing to be the breadwinner, what exactly does that mean? Was he a total bum?
My dad said that my mom ruined me and when I got older I may be upset with her...
It's me my sis and my mom and dad so he often feel "outnumbered" opinion wise by women in our house so he just pays for things and gives support if asked but mostly he minds his biz
Their relationship is decent and very realistic imo married almost 30 years now
I earned my trust issues. I used to FIGHT my mom that she was cynical that "not all guys were like that" that I trusted God to bring me something different
Then just L after L I learned she was right
She thinks it's wrong how unprepared young girls going into the reality of dating so she prided herself on always being "real" with me about men....just most of what she had to say wasn't positive
.....THE COLI and them contradictions... Y'all nikkas sit every day and talk about, how women like thugs, are hoeish till they are washed up looking for a good guy. We have @PeridotPuss, who is ALL the things majority of y'all coli nikkas hate but that's out the window cause yall think she's attractive. 
TF. ALOT of you nikkas were obviously the ugly nerds, who didn't get female attention ain't nothing in this thread Plat worthy my G. This joint has a Plat thread "errrry week".
If @PeridotPuss didn't interact with you nerds and just wrote an article on a female site yall would be going in on this joint. Cornnnnnnnny
ALOT of you nikkas were obviously the ugly nerds, who didn't get female attention ain't nothing in this thread Plat worthy my G. This joint has a Plat thread "errrry week".
If @PeridotPuss didn't interact with you nerds and just wrote an article on a female site yall would be going in on this joint. Cornnnnnnnny
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I needed help todayAny advice?
Entropy Fan
Superstar
Fixed my brehetteMy relationship advise is reserved for female family members, close female friends, and chicks I sleep with on the regular. The only chicks I need to make smart decisions are the ones I know on a personal level all other chicks need to make fukkd up decisions, in life so guys like me can eat,that's how it works my g!
Amerikan Melanin
Veteran
Does Peridot have a nice ass? If so I will save her. It's hard out here I can help.
Art Barr
INVADING SOHH CHAMPION
give me an account of what happened that made it so.
you became dishonest in the human connection portion of seeking a mate and committal.
also, to clarify on what happened during the human connection.
i mean what guy or issue made it so.
when, you meet a guy.
you play games with communication etc.
that is the beginning of why you are have these issues.
you, have failed to build a forthright social interaction method to showcase good faith.
you have to learn what good faith is and operate within that.
it will be hard, because you never subscribed to it.
plus, from your info.
your resource and support group is toxic and you will have to eliminate talking about your search for a mate to them.
which is also part of this process.
yet, you have to get components of the process right.
so, you can nav doing this on your own and ween yourself off of outside dialogue.
or interaction from parties you are not mating with.
as, you build good faith you will see that pillow talking builds contempt in spirit and your mate.
as they can tell from the change in the human connection and vibe sumfin is awry.
which is also how if you are a non-committal type.
a committal type male who has game knows that you are not a committal type and will act accordingly.
to achieve his end game with you, and that end game is just a physical mate based relationship.
as that is all you can have being a non-committal and all you can expect.
any one you are involved with to actually get from you.
till, somehow you change the scope of who/what you are and somehow operate.
within and in a virtue based manner.
when, you more than likely are not a fully virtuous woman.
you have to change how genuine and real you are in the human connection with a potential mate, tho.
that is what stops you in the beginning.
just hearing how you played the mall cat for ecko boy, is indicative of what type of female you are, now.
plus, how you were socialized to be.
you have to change that socialization and not listen to that group.
as that group has told you false doctrine, and you are miserable in mind/spirit.
from what you have posted and also,..you have to be vulnerable too.
how you go about it, you maybe misleading in who you really are on here, to real life.
so, you have to understand being vulnerable and get some actual game.
plus, can you authenicate who you are.
i would hate to be talking to fukk'n **** about all this.
on a friday no less, and i should be cutting my fukk'n hair to go kick it.
art barr
you became dishonest in the human connection portion of seeking a mate and committal.
also, to clarify on what happened during the human connection.
i mean what guy or issue made it so.
when, you meet a guy.
you play games with communication etc.
that is the beginning of why you are have these issues.
you, have failed to build a forthright social interaction method to showcase good faith.
you have to learn what good faith is and operate within that.
it will be hard, because you never subscribed to it.
plus, from your info.
your resource and support group is toxic and you will have to eliminate talking about your search for a mate to them.
which is also part of this process.
yet, you have to get components of the process right.
so, you can nav doing this on your own and ween yourself off of outside dialogue.
or interaction from parties you are not mating with.
as, you build good faith you will see that pillow talking builds contempt in spirit and your mate.
as they can tell from the change in the human connection and vibe sumfin is awry.
which is also how if you are a non-committal type.
a committal type male who has game knows that you are not a committal type and will act accordingly.
to achieve his end game with you, and that end game is just a physical mate based relationship.
as that is all you can have being a non-committal and all you can expect.
any one you are involved with to actually get from you.
till, somehow you change the scope of who/what you are and somehow operate.
within and in a virtue based manner.
when, you more than likely are not a fully virtuous woman.
you have to change how genuine and real you are in the human connection with a potential mate, tho.
that is what stops you in the beginning.
just hearing how you played the mall cat for ecko boy, is indicative of what type of female you are, now.
plus, how you were socialized to be.
you have to change that socialization and not listen to that group.
as that group has told you false doctrine, and you are miserable in mind/spirit.
from what you have posted and also,..you have to be vulnerable too.
how you go about it, you maybe misleading in who you really are on here, to real life.
so, you have to understand being vulnerable and get some actual game.
plus, can you authenicate who you are.
i would hate to be talking to fukk'n **** about all this.
on a friday no less, and i should be cutting my fukk'n hair to go kick it.
art barr
Crizzy
U wanted the smoke...u can have it your way
How long u wait to let these nikkas smash? U say u fukked with squares but if u gave up the peridot puss quickly i dont know how any nikka wouldnt see red flags. They could be lame n what not but they prob still had that voice n their head like she did me like that so shiiiiidd how many other nikkas its been like that with. A nikka in that situatiom would fukk n yall possibly would become fukk buddies. When a nikka latch on he likes your qualities but not ALL your qualities ya feel me? So if the nikka u was engaged too square or not was givin the goods quick n easy that may be a reason he strayed...he may have thought he was ready for that long haul but for whatever reason he decided it wasnt worth it
Yall got to stop this. Just because a woman made you wait don't mean she made every guy she has been intimate with wait. That isn't a good indicator of value.