Black Girl Lawst....Help!!!

[Crizzy]

 

[Elle Driver]

This is exactly the kind of specific advice that could work for changing that mindset. Get you a couple of good male friends that challenge that stance of yours

Although I always joke @Chill was that. A genuinely good guy that actually opened my eyes to the fact that all y'all ain't shyt.

Time on your own is always healing, but that time alone should be based on self reflection and being the best version of you so that when you meet that guy you're not a mess. You are ready. I don't think it's fair to those out there actually looking for something meaningful to deal with damaged folk that refuse to change. You have to deal with that part of you first. You have to be willing to change first though.

 

[MoonGoddess]

We all reach that point when we start to soul search and try to find out who we really are inside. You have to find the real PeridotPuss. You have to open your mind to the possibility that who you are isnt who you are meant to be.

 

[Matt504]

I pee in sinks because I find it to be more convenient, one day I'll have a home with a proper urinal and I'll change my ways.

 

[AFRAM GLORY]

At this point in the game you are what you are. Everyone ain't built for that domestic life. Standing on your own two mentally and by passing social norms is not something to be ashamed of. Hopefully a solid guy will come in your life and positively break those walls down.

I recall you saying you want to adopt a child. I say go for that because that child is worth your time, heart, and love. You have animals or any activities in your life where you can share yourself without getting burned in return?

 

[FeloniousMonk]

so, you don't demand loyalty.
it is just okay, and you are non-chalant about it.
in general, that won't work, breh.


art barr

Demand, nope.

Expect, yep.

Demand denounces force.

And the only thing you really CAN and SHOULD demand is respect.

Everything else will fall in line.

 

[Orange cream shake]

You're too old to not understand the laws of attraction. Go read some Abraham Hicks and get out of this victim mentality

This

Weren't you giving nikkas advice on women? Why u change up and now you some lost black girl?

Getting a good dude and keeping one isn't hard. You don't want a good dude. What you want is a cool ain't shyt dude that seem nice. I've been where you are. It didn't take as long as it's took you to figure it out tho. Smarten up chica.

 

[TEH]

Until you are ready to vulnerable and to risk getting heartbroken again then you are not ready for a relationship. You have to be at a place where you are willing to trust and to give all completely. I know this advice may be clowned but even when dating hold back from sex. Wait until you know for sure that he's right for you to have sex with him.


@PeridotPuss

 

[Art Barr]

Demand, nope.

Expect, yep.

Demand denounces force.

And the only thing you really CAN and SHOULD demand is respect.

Everything else will fall in line.

respect is earned,....not demanded.
you can't demand respect,..you earn it.
over time with a party who knows the time parameters and social construct it takes to build respect.

loyalty, and monogamy is a demand of a committed relationship.
if they don't exist you do not have a commtted relationship.



art barr

 

[Art Barr]

This

Weren't you giving nikkas advice on women? Why u change up and now you some lost black girl?

Getting a good dude and keeping one isn't hard. You don't want a good dude. What you want is a cool ain't shyt dude that seem nice. I've been where you are. It didn't take as long as it's took you to figure it out tho. Smarten up chica.

after all white women received civil rights.
using black men as the muscle to get their rights.
black females were proposed and agreed to project mentality and eic succubus-ism.
to search out the guy they could label the scapegoat.
to authenicate why they should not be demeaned.
for purposefully going after an eic check and any other spoils to be had from a poor relationship.
our black women in general all bought into a buy out for shelter and to have children.
as females were being absolved of blame publically in our country.
then, having blame erroneously deflected onto the black male via traditionalism.
it was all marketing to demean the black male in the prison economy system as well.
it is/was all a well acted discovery zone with applied knowledge based plan.
that, has been working for twenty three years, straight now.





art barr

 

[sanityovar8ted]

learn to love urself n get n2 therapy to get to the root of the problem n it really does help and u gain a better outlook on things making u open to different things. n stop actively looking once u done working on urself the right one will find u just be open minded n not so dismissive

 

[HollowPoints2]

last night's hoe tales derailment debacle of a thread got me thinking..... listen and learn from those who not tryna troll.... a brehette really could use some productive advice and I know it's some gurus on on here....

So long story short, I'm no victim and no angel but 11 years of dating as left a bytch jaded.....I want to stop seeing men as an enemy to my life and future but thus far have been unable to. The game might have sucked me dry.

Ive also accepted that I'm not relationship material due to my mindset towards males....everyone tells me I'm wrong....but I feel like I have the right outlook
Help!!! black girl Lawst no booty derailments please

Oh yeah, I seen chicks who think like you but only on the web.For years, black feminist have been on a crusade to demonize black men to the point that vulnerable young women like yourself starts to make what they say your reality.

I hope it helps.

Because most men can spot an emotionally damaged woman a mile away.

 

[Orange cream shake]

black females were made from project mentality and eic succubus-ism.
to search out the guy they could label the scapegoat.
to authenicate why they should not be demeaned.
for purposefully going after an eic check and any other spoils to be had from a poor relationship.
our black women in general all bought into a buy out for shelter and to have children.
then, as females being absolved of blame publically in our country.
then, having blame erroneously deflected onto the male via traditionalism.


art barr

I should neg u. We all nag and bytch but don't try to push this bullshyt u typed as all black women.

 

[Art Barr]

I should neg u. We all nag and bytch but don't try to push this bullshyt u typed as all black women.

be a typical female and not understand general speak, breh's and brehettes.


art barr

 

[Art Barr]

We all reach that point when we start to soul search and try to find out who we really are inside. You have to find the real PeridotPuss. You have to open your mind to the possibility that who you are isnt who you are meant to be.

self is not in some deep dark corner of the woods waiting to be discovered by you.
you are who you create, period.

art barr