Black Girl Lawst....Help!!!

[Jesus]

Self-absorbed old bytches are the worst....

 

[Crizzy]

Yall got to stop this. Just because a woman made you wait don't mean she made every guy she has been intimate with wait. That isn't a good indicator of value.

I agree with you...ppl can have that infatuation with the other and be all ball. I never said it was an indicator of value this was just a point of view. A nikka been there done that without having to wait but im not gonna be so quick to latch on to the girl either.

 

[dc007]

My dad said that my mom ruined me and when I got older I may be upset with her...

It's me my sis and my mom and dad so he often feel "outnumbered" opinion wise by women in our house so he just pays for things and gives support if asked but mostly he minds his biz

Their relationship is decent and very realistic imo married almost 30 years now

I earned my trust issues. I used to FIGHT my mom that she was cynical that "not all guys were like that" that I trusted God to bring me something different

Then just L after L I learned she was right

She thinks it's wrong how unprepared young girls going into the reality of dating so she prided herself on always being "real" with me about men....just most of what she had to say wasn't positive

So your dad wasn't very strong willed and let yall run things

Seems like bottom line is that you are living a self fulfilling prophecy that was created in whatever type of household you grew up in. You need to change your mindset (which isn't seeming likely based on ur responses so far) or just accept being thot. Nothing wrong with it, I meant what i said about thots making the world go round. Yall truly make life fun before we are married.

 

[Art Barr]

If you've cheated in the past you're in no position to expect men not to do the same to you

I have never cheated and I can make that demand of others

this.

once you buy into wack cheater swag.
you are lost forever.

as there is no good faith based parameter to you.
plus, are flawed in the human connection department and eventually you will lose.


art barr

 

[FeloniousMonk]

If you've cheated in the past you're in no position to expect men not to do the same to you

I have never cheated and I can make that demand of others

So if a person cheats once in a relationship, they should expect karma from the s/o due to past transgressions?

You should expect monogamy within a commitment, not demand that someone not cheat.

 

[Art Barr]

Friends first.
Then lovers.
Not the other way around...it never works.

you have to be able to mate with a person first before you try to be friends with them.
the song is called lovers and friends and it happens in that order first.
as realistically, your mate you commit to has to be your lover and friend.
the mate you just mate with does not have to be your friend at all.
plus, you can't be friends with a female first.
all because being a friend to a female and not a mate first is a turnoff.
plus, females are not generally well versed in being friends, too.
so, finding a mate and a friend is a lock and key style setup.
that has many locked layers and doorways.
that must be successfully unlocked and have stablility
to even build up the possibility to be friends after being consistent steady mates, first.


art barr

 

[Malta]

So if a person cheats once in a relationship, they should expect karma from the s/o due to past transgressions?

You should expect monogamy within a commitment, not demand that someone not cheat.

Once a cheater always a cheater

I demand it because I can unequivocally say I will never cheat, expectations and reality are two different things.

 

[Art Barr]

So if a person cheats once in a relationship, they should expect karma from the s/o due to past transgressions?

You should expect monogamy within a commitment, not demand that someone not cheat.

i have never cheated in any relationship.
so...i should demand that someone not cheat.
which is the same as monogamy.


art barr

 

[Art Barr]

Once a cheater always a cheater

I demand it because I can unequivocally say I will never cheat, expectations and reality are two different things.

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prolific posting!


art barr

 

[FeloniousMonk]

Once a cheater always a cheater

I demand it because I can unequivocally say I will never cheat, expectations and reality are two different things.

Okay..I can go in another direction with this.

But.

If you think once a person cheats that's all they'll ever do in a relationship..cant argue that.

 

[FeloniousMonk]

i have never cheated in any relationship.
so...i should demand that someone not cheat.
which is the same as monogamy.


art barr

Demands dont work in a relationship.

You can demand whatever you want. The individual is going to make the choice regardless.

 

[010101]

My relationship advise is reserved for female family members, close female friends, and chicks I sleep with on the regular. The only chicks I need to make smart decisions are the ones I know on a personal level all other chicks need to make fukkd up decisions, in life so guys like me can eat,that's how it works my g!

you a fukking dirtbag b

*

 

[Art Barr]

Yall got to stop this. Just because a woman made you wait don't mean she made every guy she has been intimate with wait. That isn't a good indicator of value.

prolific posting...

thank you,....for this.

especially since interaction in the female matrix for a guy has erroded all the lead time it takes to have sex.
not to mention, nuffin pops off anymore for people who don't smash the first day.
mating interaction to close the deal is immediate all across the board, now.
the time it takes to have sex is about the only real genuine action you can take from a female now.

the females who take to long are all roster builders, and non-committals.
the female who sleeps with you on the first day, now.
is the female who is a bit more genuine about her actual attraction and how she acts on it.
i would rather have the feral impulsive acting female.
than the cautious prude, who has a roster builder based game built around waiting.


if you are waiting some other guy is smashing that, best believe.
never wait,....
imo, if she not fukk'n you on the first meeting, she is bushes status.


art barr

 

[Art Barr]

Demands dont work in a relationship.

You can demand whatever you want. The individual is going to make the choice regardless.

so, you don't demand loyalty.
it is just okay, and you are non-chalant about it.
in general, that won't work, breh.


art barr

 

[Mowgli]

I'm sure I'd like to adopt later in life. I'm undecided on natural child birth.

What can you possibly teach a child?