Black man explains why the dating scene is messed up

[cauliflower]

Said a whole bunch of nothing, from one topic to another. Ofc someone who is you partner doesn't want you talking shyt to them, and vice versa.

 

[Soldier]

touche

they definitely werent this picky, but it was still kinda taboo to meet people via these methods and they were not as widespread as they are now. instagram was the app that def took it to the next level, but tinder/hinge/bumble are far more advanced and globalized than your black planets and tagged were

facebook, myspace, msn were a lot more personal

Thats right. I mean MySpace/early Facebook/msn didn’t allow globalization. Back then A bytch only had access to men from her city/school/hood. On MySpace/Facebook/MSN and in real life. So her desire for hypergamy was much more restricted by her environment and very basic and limited dating apps.

With instagram a bytch got access to famous brehs/influencers/dj/rappers/athletes and very good looking dudes from california, nyc, australia, Miami, Atlanta, etc
Of course with ig bytches will be way more picky because they have way more appealing options that the men in their area.

I think instagram is porn for women. The same stimulations are there. Brehs drool when they see bad porn bytches and bytches drool when they see so many good looking men with great lifestyle and wealth on her ig account

 

[Braman]

He’s spot on about social media. I went out with this chick who was BAD in pics but just okay in person. I was damn near out of my character trying to get a date with her for weeks (I know)…but when I met her I legit was She wasn’t bad, she just wasn’t BAD. I was actually impressed by her angle work and branding

It was right then n there I figured it out. Social media can add a good 2 points to a chick. So you have real life 6’s who are 8’s and 9’s online and getting treated as such—-online. But when they go on dates nggas are treating them like 6’s and under. So they become bitter and blabbing about what they think they deserve and ‘consistency’. Well yea he changed bc he finally met you.

 

[PL368Z]

Ugly gang babble

If you ain't getting p*ssy in this day and age chances are you're highly undesirable/ugly, probably the easiest time in human history to get some consensual p*ssy.

 

[Ahadi]

He's not wrong though breh. Modern women oscillate between these two things because they want the pleasures of being with a man with money without the accountability of being with a man with options who will walk away.

I was dating a girl who told me she dated a bummy dude for a bit, but then broke up with him because he had no ambition. She said it worked for a while because she, as the higher earner, got to do her own thing without him holding her accountable. He couldn't because he couldn't provide.

In I come. I'm fairly well off, willing to provide for a woman but within certain parameters. There were things she was doing communicating with me, being on social media, that I would not tolerate. Straight up told her I'd have to be a fool to provide for & spoil a woman who can't do the bare minimum in terms of communication, ramping down party life, all that.

She told me she hated being called out on her shyt but also loved that I put her in her place. p*ssy stayed wet as fukk so it was real, but at some point, I bushed her. She wasn't ready to let go of just doing whatever she wanted, so I had to leave.

And I'm sorry to say, but most women are not good long term planners financially, so they need men who have and/or are good with money. This woman has made low 6 figures for a decade but didn't have $10K to put together to invest when I tried to put her on to I-bonds.

At some point she's going to have to pick, and I'm guessing she'll pick doing her thing. Modern women do not like responsibility or being held accountable, and they are surrounded by enablers. Most are not raised to set themselves up for retirement without financial assistance or guidance from a man.

It sounds sexist as hell, but it's just reality.

!!!!!!

 

[Ahadi]

the financial part he was speaking on was bleh, but what he said about women:

- not wanting to answer no questions
- not wanting structure
- wanting their man not to have an opinion
- wanting a nikka they can talk disrespectfully to etc.

Its all truthful. Thing is they appear to want it on the surface, but deep down they want a man to put them in their place when theyre being an idiot. And thats what leads to the constant battling between men and women unnecessarily - especially black women.

Its a mind fukk. You question them, provide structure, give your opinions, and dont tolerate disrespect - they will say youre controlling, manipulative and too serious. Like a child or wild animal they will do everything to rebel. You do the opposite, women will walk all over you en route to a new man.

Point is that women dont actually know what the fukk they want, so you should never try to do or be anything solely for them. Maintain your values and beliefs and kick them to the curb if it doesnt align.

Yup.

They want the man to have a “whatever you want attitude” no questioning, just be a walking mule with a bank account = ESPECIALLY Black man

That’s why they love the low vibrational guys, it’s control

As far RELATIONSHIPS goes. But if you’re just smashing, this is probably the best generation to do it in. No excuses.

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

To play wombat's advocate, the dating scene was a mess back in the days as well. The only difference between then and now is a smart phone and a app. Folks forget about the feeling of going through the trenches of blind dating. Even a simple rap can have a two sided coin feel. Women back then wanted ballers as well. Lets not pretend that jawns wanting dudes to pay their bills, wine dine, and just eat their p*ssy.

Brehs were getting shytted on for their attire as well. I remember some bytch did not even want to fukk with me because I wore some cheap Nikes and a button up Polo shirt. Hell, one bytch said with her entire chest out that she wants to be a ho and don't want to be saved.


If anything, I appreciate the brutal honesty of these chicks nowadays. It makes it easier to jump over the bullshyt like Mario. Its just the grim reality that men want to fukk the same thing women wants to fukk....a illusion. A fairy tale. I used to want such things as well:

• A PAWG- Thaw MOST DEF DID NOT WORK OUT
• A submissive jawn- She was wild submissive to the point I was a deviant to her
• A "Dime"- Realize the shyt is not even worth the change

After a while, you end up realizing that the one you need is hidden in a puddle of wants. Stop embracing the puddle.

It was easier to get women online
There were a lot more fine women on the lower tier sites

 

[Sleepy Floyd]

lol

Broke boy banter. I think the real problem is that women have standards and most men don't. Whether a woman is a dime or not, she's going to shoot for the top guy. Tall, handsome, has money, etc. If she's a dime she's going to get what she wants eventually. If she's not a dime she's going to keep shooting until she either bags someone out of her league, or until she settles. But women don't settle on everything. Most women aren't going to go from shooting at the top tier to accepting a 5'6 broke guy who isn't handsome. Maybe instead they settle for the tall guy who has a decent job and isn't handsome but isn't ugly.

Flip side men are going to shoot for hot women regardless of whether she's a loser, broke, etc or not. They'll also shoot at average women, and may even shoot at a chubby chick. Again, regardless of whether she's successful, broke, etc. So when you're the average, unsuccessful, moderately handsome, 5'10 dude you're gonna get rejected. A lot. And instead of better themselves these guys complain about women having...standards.

A loooot of shyt would cease if dudes operated like women and upped their standards. If men stopped entertaining single mothers, broke women, women with obvious emotional problems, etc.

What standards are women having that they are constantly end up being single mothers and divorced?

Men innate and natural high sexual drive will make this an impossibility. If men had the low sexual drive of women we would be as picky and demanding. We would have high standards for women too.

And women would take any breh if they had men’s sexual hunger.


Vast majority of men Operating from a place of Scarcity+high sexual drive+Being desperate = low standard simps.

Women don’t have the same urgency to have sex. Not even close. So women especially the most beautiful ones, can afford to sit back, wait and be as picky as they desire. Men can impregnate plenty of women because we can produce sperm anytime. We can have kids at any age. Women can’t have kids after 40 or so. Women have a very limited number of eggs/ovaries, and the quality of their ovaries degrade with time/age. So it is in their best interest to be picky and mate with the best man (money, height, looks, power, health)they can get.

Again, the number of single mothers is out of control and many times they have a kid by some bum

 

[Shadow King]

lol

Broke boy banter. I think the real problem is that women have standards and most men don't. Whether a woman is a dime or not, she's going to shoot for the top guy. Tall, handsome, has money, etc. If she's a dime she's going to get what she wants eventually. If she's not a dime she's going to keep shooting until she either bags someone out of her league, or until she settles. But women don't settle on everything. Most women aren't going to go from shooting at the top tier to accepting a 5'6 broke guy who isn't handsome. Maybe instead they settle for the tall guy who has a decent job and isn't handsome but isn't ugly.

Flip side men are going to shoot for hot women regardless of whether she's a loser, broke, etc or not. They'll also shoot at average women, and may even shoot at a chubby chick. Again, regardless of whether she's successful, broke, etc. So when you're the average, unsuccessful, moderately handsome, 5'10 dude you're gonna get rejected. A lot. And instead of better themselves these guys complain about women having...standards.

A loooot of shyt would cease if dudes operated like women and upped their standards. If men stopped entertaining single mothers, broke women, women with obvious emotional problems, etc.

No.

 

[Shadow King]

What's his username on here?

Women have always gone after men with wealth and wealthy folks have always had it easier. He isn't even saying anything of substance.

Get wealthy or find your level. What he is discussing is older than social media. So when dudes like him bring it into the equation it hurts their credibility.

As far as Chris Brown that's another L for dragging a wealthy man into your tirade about why your broke ass can't date. Find your lane and thrive until you can switch. shyt's tiring at this point. I bet he doesn't know a single woman in his circle that would be crazy enough go drop 1000 dollars for a Chris Brown pic. But he brought it up to make a point? Foh

No.

 

[SheWantTheD]

Women would choose a man who has it all if they could

money isn't the only factor

 

[SheWantTheD]

He got a point but it of course don't apply to all women.