Black man hurt, says he pawgs because sistas don't want him (Iyana) (Edit new vids added)

[Sonny Bonds]

Couldn't this dude just use a dating app? He could subscribe to change the preference settings to Black women.

 

[Roid Jones]

all the dudes in the video looked like lames. I can see why they couldn't get black women. Just the way they carry themselves. they all talk like lames. there is suppose to be a certain swag and tone and nuance when a black man speaks. they don't have that natural charisma in their speaking voice.

That feeds into a big problem, why does a black man have to be one specific thing? why do other races get an allowance in character types but black men don't?

 

[Bossino]

This is why the black man suicide rate is rising, brehs can't let their feelings out

This is why I don't see the point in a partner all the things I though they were supposed to be I learned most are fractions of, they're not someone to rely on, they're an accessory. Like as a pragmatist I never cared for watches in general, namebrands, etc. If it's non essential it's keeping me from stacking. Women outside of sex have become increasing non essential. OGs talking about you can't share your feelings with your wife, shyt sounds like I don't need a wife to keep it funky. fukk I'm letting you live with me for if you don't want to go half on shyt, provide emotional support, additional insight, nuanced perspective. Anything less than that is a waste, but that's just my perspective.

 

[Commish]

What the black women hes talking to look like and how they act is VERY relevant. I'm not some dude with a ton of drip, so I imagine I'll probably struggle in a city like ATL unless I adapt. I'd struggle in cities like Miami & LA. I'm not about to complain to these women in attempts to get them to 'settle' with me. Either I adapt and get them to like me naturally or find a woman who likes me for me or I move cities

No matter how hard dude argue, he can't force black women to like him. If they don't like his style or body language what do you really want black women to do? Sure black women could give him a chance, but deep down they'll still have urges for the black man they really want. So whats the end game on this subject because it sounds like dude wants black women to just accept him even if they don't like him.

Breh..

Bottomline is that dude felt a certain type of way about being rejected by Black women.

The OG clip was too short for me to make an accurate accessment of his experiences and expectations.

He like who he like just like us.

You are right with the point about him not being able to make Black women like him. You would also be right, if you said that Black women don't owe him a date, sex, companionship or marriage.

However, he does have a right to feel how he felt about his experiences. He also has a right to explore his options and date non-Black women.

After all, people fukk with people who fukk with them, regardless of their prospective partners background.

What I don't like nor appreciate is when Black people expect other Black people, especially Black men, to not have feelings and emotions.

Yeah, men need to control their emotions and not act a fool in public, but men are certainly within their inalienable right to be human beings. There is no such thing as an emotionless human being that is normal.

All I saw is dude telling those young women that men get hurt just like women. If he truly despised Black women, then he wouldn't be there talking to them. It looked like he really wants to connect with a Black woman but just had difficulty doing so.

Once again, I don't expect you to agree with his stance, but you can't argue with him about his experience. He will be alright!

I would much rather him lament about his feelings than to keep it inside and allow his feelings to turn into aggression like many men do.

I understand Breh. I have compassion for Breh because I accept his humanity.....

He isn't perfect nor am I perfect. I wish Breh well and hope he does find a suitable Black woman or any other woman who fits his mold...

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

That feeds into a big problem, why does a black man have to be one specific thing? why do other races get an allowance in character types but black men don't?

Because blackwomen don't like that. What do you suggest? They just settle with somebody they not attracted? I don't even know why we blaming black women, when it was black men who created the drip imagine in the first place. If you want black women to change, it starts with black men and good luck with that Black men worldwide stay flexing with clothes, shoes, and cars.

 

[Roid Jones]

Because blackwomen don't like that. What do you suggest? They just settle with somebody they not attracted? I don't even know why we blaming black women, when it was black men who created the drip imagine in the first place. If you want black women to change, it starts with black men and good luck with that Black men worldwide stay flexing with clothes, shoes, and cars.

I've seen that said on here many times with dead seriousness but is that really true? this is painting black women in a very negative light. Saying that black men have to highlight different character types is an interesting point

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

Breh..

Bottomline is that dude felt a certain type of way about being rejected by Black women.

The OG clip was too short for me to make an accurate accessment of his experiences and expectations.

He like who he like just like us.

You are right with the point about him not being able to make Black women like him. You would be , if you said that Black women don't owe him a date, sex, companionship or marriage.

However, he does have a right to feel how he felt about his experiences. He also has a right to explore his options and date non-Black women.

After all, people fukk with people who fukk with them, regardless iof their prospective partners background.

What I don't like nor appreciate is when Black people expect other Black people, especially Black men, to not have feelings and emotions.

Yeah, men need to control their emotions and not act a fool in public, but men are certainly within their inalienable right to be human beings. There is no such thing as an emotionless human being that is normal.

All I saw is dude telling those young women that men get hurt just like women. If he truly despised Black women, then he wouldn't be there talking to them. It looked like he really wants to connect with a Black woman but just had difficulty doing so.

Once again, I don't expect you to agree with his stance, but you can't argue with him about his experience. He will be alright!

I would much rather him lament about his feelings than to keep it inside and allow his feelings to turn into aggression like many men do.

I understand Breh. I have compassion for Breh because I accept his humanity.....

He isn't perfect noe am I perfect. I wish Breh well and hope he does find a suitable Black woman or any other woman who fits his mold...

As I side in my previous post, black women ain't 100% to blame for what they go after. Black men created the stylish image. You want black nerds to eat, you'll have to change the image of the entire race.

But hell, even I don't agree with those talking points because I see perfectly normal non clout chasing brehs with black women. It could very well be 100% him on why black women ain't coming to his door.

@Booksnrain Has a thread with normal black couples. So what's wrong with dude in the OP? What type of black women is he going for?

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

I've seen that said on here many times with dead seriousness but is that really true? this is painting black women in a very negative light

Its called preference, no it doesn't paint them in a negative light. A lot of women naturally want masculine men. And no I don't mean by thuggish rappers.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

These black dudes found black women. Even the fat dudes found black women. You mean to tell me the guy in the op can't find him one?

Because some people don’t interact socially...

...and their only or primary access to our community is shyt they see in the media, on social media or online...

...this is skewing a lot of people’s perceptions about what black men and black women look like in relationships.

Most people hooking up aren’t supermodels, rich, over 6ft., ect. So if you are believing exaggerations about the opposite sex to avoid confronting your own personal romantic issues then....I dunno what to tell you. Time to face the facts. It doesn’t take all of that to find somebody.

So without further ado, here’s some non-IG, regular degular, average black couples.
And seeing as how most people in America don’t make over 50k, I don’t think they ballin outta control

Go get some sunlight. Log off. Talk to people. Love life. Interact with folks. Stop being weird.
Change your environment (sometimes it’s location) Fix yo face (no resting bytch face—smile). Stop being bitter. Confront whatever you got going on with yourself. Get some counseling. Go find your kang or your queen. Unless you happy chillin with yourself for a minute in which case, that’s cool too.
Dont believe the hype(errealism). You don’t have to be perfect, rich, or special to find love.

 

[Roid Jones]

Its called preference, no it doesn't paint them in a negative light. A lot of women naturally want masculine men. And no I don't mean by thuggish rappers.

I'm in no way accusing you of that but when some posters say it it's framed as blaming black women, like I said before your point on black men changing image types is interesting and is something that needs to be done

 

[Depreciating Asset]

What is this 'black women don't like me shyt?"

Just because you were rejected during your high school and even college years by black women don't mean that grown up black women aren't interested. Black girls sure but grown ass mature women are different. Most people are on some bullshyt before the age of 25 and often 30. They have no idea what they want and are still in the mode where their behavior is a product of social conditioning or peer pressure versus who they actually are and what they actually need.

Brehs get rejected by pawgs or asians and consider it an isolated incident - oh she just prefers Brads or Li Jins. A black woman hurts your feelings and it's the whole damn race who allegedly don't like your ass.

I don't know. I think brehs just need to recognize that unless you are team handsome gang, team rich or your game is smooth as butter - you gonna get curved a lot. It's truly a numbers game whatever race you are trying to get at. Get your Jerry Stackhouse on and get up as many shots as you can before the game is over.

 

[Burned Verses]

What's strange about Iyanla coming after dudes is that she straight up said black women are 'out of order'. Couple of them dudes were kinda off-putting though.

 

[Ski Mask]

I can see both sides. Growing up I did have people tell me i was going to have a hard time with black women cause i wasn't the stereotypical black dude(athiest, anime/alt music lover). and it didn't help the bw who did like me were either unnattractive( and no i don't look in the direction of 7 and above women) or single mothers lookin for a step dad for their kids.

But I didn't blame it on bw as a whole, I just told my self its was my location(which i do think play a huge part in these kinds of incidents). Nerdy people in general didn't have a much of a dating pool in the town i lived in back then(don't know how it is now.) and i think its better for dudes like him to live in big cites where there are more variety.

 

[Ineedmoney504]

all the dudes in the video looked like lames. I can see why they couldn't get black women. Just the way they carry themselves. they all talk like lames. there is suppose to be a certain swag and tone and nuance when a black man speaks. they don't have that natural charisma in their speaking voice.

yea unfortunately every black man won’t have that tho bro. They deserve to eat also. That’s a issue in our community

in the 90s we had everyone faking being a tough guy to fit in, ruining they life to look cool for chicks

 

[colicolicoli]

I remember a coworker said he don’t date black women in front of me and another coworker that was Filipino.

Talking about how he is gonna go live in Japan cause black girls have attitudes and don’t like anime.

I was like “uhh nikka I like anime ” and my Filipino coworker was telling him he’s tripping.

You can’t save these type of ppl.