That's part of it. White women are fed up with their men too, but the fact that they benefit heavily from White privilege and the fact the White men are pretty much at the top as far as money and status goes keeps them from wandering collectively. Most of them know they can't get any better than that unless they want an Asian dude.
That's part of it. White women are fed up with their men too, but the fact that they benefit heavily from White privilege and the fact the White men are pretty much at the top as far as money and status goes keeps them from wandering collectively. Most of them know they can't get any better than that unless they want an Asian dude.
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I've tried to explain the difference on here many times
Black men go out so they dont have to "settle" for black women.
Black women go out and see it as settling for a nonblack man.
And I only
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I've heard black women say black men ain't shyt because they aren't providers
I've heard white women say white men ain't shyt because they ain't man enough
and i've heard asian women say asian men ain't shyt because they're too controlling
At the end of the day women of all races will complain about the men in their own race... only difference is it's only black women that will do this publicly for everyone to see and observe.
All that black woman had to do was lose weight and her options would have increase but the bytch decided to stay fat, wollow in her on self-pity, blame black men for her circumstance and then went to go find a white man smh
I've heard white women say white men ain't shyt because they ain't man enough
and i've heard asian women say asian men ain't shyt because they're too controlling
At the end of the day women of all races will complain about the men in their own race... only difference is it's only black women that will do this publicly for everyone to see and observe.
All that black woman had to do was lose weight and her options would have increase but the bytch decided to stay fat, wollow in her on self-pity, blame black men for her circumstance and then went to go find a white man smh
I can only speak for my friends but generally nah there’s no bashing of bm collectively when we’re together. it’s about the specific man they’re dealing with, typically.
All of them except one, just date bm. And all the ones that want to be in relationships— that are actually putting themselves out there and are open to them are dating or in relationships with bm.
I have a couple of friends that recycle through men because I personally believe they’re afraid to commit to just one man or have unrealistic expectations. Only one struggles with bm and I honestly think it’s because she’s so damn skinny.
Nah white women and other nonbw don’t talk about ir in front of me. One of my coworkers is a ww married to a bm with biracial children. I didn’t know she was with a bm when we met. Her kids looked Latino, and I didn’t see the full picture so I didn’t her husband in it. I always got a funny feeling when I was around her though. I could never put my finger on it, but she gave weird vibes. I knew something was up with her because of how she wore her hair and acted though lol. Then I found out she was married to a bm and it all begin to make sense lol.
A lot of times the nonbw act funny around us, I have my theories on why it is, but they generally won’t bring it up.
I’ve met some nonbw with bm that have been cool and never acted funny though—a few of my close friends back in Philly were ww and Latina women with bm and they were genuine women (and I have my theory on those types too) so it wasn’t an elephant in the room that they were with bm because they had a lot of black female friends and a lot of black people in their circle to begin with. They weren’t on that fukk bm but hate bw/or feel threatened by bw, type of shyt that a good portion of ww and nonbw are on.
With my friends currently, we dont really talk much about ir dating, because we don’t struggle with bm, so the few that date out don’t impact our options. Plus whenever we see it irl the bm with the ww is generally unattractive or his nonbw is unattractive which paints him in a somewhat negative light because being honest when men choose women way below them it takes them down a notch(that whole who your with, says a lot about you) so it’s generally not men that are on radars to begin with. The only thing that pisses us off is when some bm shyt on bw and put others on pedestals. There’s a good portion of bm that ir that do that. It is what it is.
These are just my thoughts but the women who complain about being single, generally don’t go out or put themselves out there, just work and come home and expect for things to line up and just magically get a man. or they aren’t receptive to men that do approach or to men that are clearly interested, making it hard for the men to feel encouraged to talk to them. Other times they pick the wrong bm—the men that just want to fukk and not commit.
Then a lot of times there’s hang ups—mental and emotional just from being black in this country and the way we are raised as bw makes us naturally guarded and it’s difficult for us to want to put ourselves in a position to be vulnerable.
WW are raised differently from us, and they also tend to be aggressive—they just be asking men out with nfg, or talking to everyone they meet being so friendly and weird lol. Which makes it easier on men. They also are very sexually loose, have less hang ups because they’re privilege makes it easy for them to be open and more likely to be vulnerable, they are easy to bag, and try to be easy going as possible during the dating process to get commitment and marriage. On top of that they are often put on a pedestal, because of conditioning—all of these things contribute to their marriage rates imo.
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I don’t know, tbh I’ve never asked.
That is conjecture not based in reality.
You project your negative biases onto black men regarding why some date out, reading tweets from cac approved rappers and ballers and running with that narrative for black men who date out as a whole.
While you give fellow black women tha benefit of tha doubt, disreagarding any instance of swirling that doesn't fit your narrative of a "helpless black woman making tha best out of being unloved by c00n black men" as static on a tv to be ignored.
Overall, I think this is a pretty complex issue.
I do think a lot of us as men, should hold each other accountable more. Not all of this is our fault, but we do have some stake in it. Some of us on here love to go "#HoH" laugh at, and cosign dudes straight up disrespecting and sonning women (regardless if they deserve it or not), but all that stuff has been damaging. You can't do stuff like that and then act shocked when you see this happening. Brehs need to stop trying to navigate the world like White men and doing and saying shyt recklessly. White men have the power and control of the narrative, they can do and say reckless and disrespectful shyt and still be seen as individuals and saints. We can't. All the shyt the some of us do paints us all, and all that negative shyt will stick and continue to pile on.
However, with that said, I do think the mindset these women are starting to have was almost inevitable regardless. As long as Black men remained at the bottom of the socioeconomic totem pole, the idea and mentality that Black women should "level up" would eventually rear it's head anyway
I do think a lot of us as men, should hold each other accountable more. Not all of this is our fault, but we do have some stake in it. Some of us on here love to go "#HoH" laugh at, and cosign dudes straight up disrespecting and sonning women (regardless if they deserve it or not), but all that stuff has been damaging. You can't do stuff like that and then act shocked when you see this happening. Brehs need to stop trying to navigate the world like White men and doing and saying shyt recklessly. White men have the power and control of the narrative, they can do and say reckless and disrespectful shyt and still be seen as individuals and saints. We can't. All the shyt the some of us do paints us all, and all that negative shyt will stick and continue to pile on.
However, with that said, I do think the mindset these women are starting to have was almost inevitable regardless. As long as Black men remained at the bottom of the socioeconomic totem pole, the idea and mentality that Black women should "level up" would eventually rear it's head anyway
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I think it comes down to how many poor people operate. They tend to double down on behaviors that keep them poor, but make them feel better. Whether it's smoking or playing the lottery or fukking raw...they make poor decisions. In black women's case it's the issue of letting these sorry dudes knock them up. No condoms. To us it doesn't make sense but it's just...how they do, I guess, when you got nothing else to do or be. I hate to sound elitist or classist, and obviously the way our society/economy/etc is set up has more to do with them being poor...I'm just talking about the bad decisions that compound it.
I'd argue there are certain qualities of white parenting that may not be better but they're in better position to provide good parenting, because the household is more stable (economically or by having two parents in the home). From basic shyt like learning to read, conversing with children at a young age...we can't blame our reading levels on racism alone when many black parents aren't reading to their children in large part because it's a one parent household and that parent (the mom) is working crazy hours to keep the house afloat. These issues stem from broken homes.
The sad thing is that I don't see a solution. If this was a game it would be over. I don't see how you fix this when not only has the bottom fallen out for the working class, but the bottom is falling out for the middle class. We're fukked.
Kind of funny how black women never have any smoke for Asian, white or Latina women that date black men.
How can you be cool with these same chicks yet trash black men that date out.
According to @CarmelBarbie she cool with these broads yet calling breh's pawgers if they even look at a white woman.
I'm not clicking it,but are they still going with the "all the good black men are dead are in jail" narrative smh? The nikkas in jail are worst than the ones out of jail. I don't blame black men and black women for not wanting to date gmo'd black men and women,which 85% of you are. Completely programmed and refuse to heal your debilitations that make you a masculine european woman. As well as debilitations that make many of you males behave as feminine women. My problem is each side not realizing how fukked up and unclaimable they are. Both sides need to get their minds right. But this is where I blame black men. Since women is the child of man all you need to do is lead by example and take control. You shouldn't be worried about what these gmo'd women have to say. But the fact I mostly see black men crying about these "attacks" and negative press says it all. Are you or you not going to be a good black man regardless of whats being said? Black women see how I treat my righteous attachment first,and then how I treat them and needless to say I inspire. Message to the youth watching,one righteous outspoken black man is worth a million dollars of bad promo against us. No agenda can harm you when you are really doing the work as women are easily persuaded. Didn't take much for them to be persuaded against us,but you defeatist black men aren't countering it by being good black men in the real world. Look no further in thecoli where the loudest men are the biggest degenerates,who find glory in degrading black women
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The more they hate us, the more they love us. 
Kind of funny how black women never have any smoke for Asian, white or Latina women that date black men.
How can you be cool with these same chicks yet trash black men that date out.
According to @CarmelBarbie she cool with these broads yet calling breh's pawgers if they even look at a white woman.
WTF you talking about? It's been pointed out on this forum many times, anytime a non-black female on Twitter showd any romantic/sexual interest in BM, her mentions/replies will be filled with angry black females.Black male celebs/athletes with non-black WoC get plenty of shyt too.