When you have to shame a group of people who did the right thing into helping the people who were too fukking stupid to do the right thing then it becomes a handout. This is why I have no sympathy of ANYONE who makes bad decisions in life, regardless of race, gender, ect.
Say we are all struggling in the pool. Almost on the brink of drowning. I learn to swim and I swim to the edge. Here I am trying to tell you how to swim and instead of following my advice what do you do? You say, "Nah man, don't teach me how to swim... just toss me a rope."
Those people want help from people who did the right thing and they can't even handle constructive criticism from them? All they get is "you a sellout, c00n, black woman basher."
Swim lonely. Find your own way out.