Black Men need to "Man-Up", mentor these lil nigglets out chea.

[theGoldmangod]

shyt is status. But don't put your daughter on that Not every black man is on that bullshyt.

I just be trollin with that shyt breh, my baby girl will marry black. Luckily Im successful enough to run in circles where speaking about how to build healthy families is accepted knowledge and not like trying to get atheists to believe in religion.

 

[Just like bruddas]

you can blame cacs all day, that is where they got it from.

but in 2012, i see dark skinned black women perpetuating the cycle of self hatred on their children. still with the hair extent ions, still with the insults towards other dark skinned men, still callin hair nappy when they don't want their hair seen.

and now a large influx of them are doing their best to get white men or asian to really drill their point home.

but youre showing the same kind of self hatred in this very post. I mean sistas of lighter complexion dont be being the same shyt? Its not a dark or light skin problem, its a community problem. I dont see light skin as black or white i seem them as both, but honestly some of them in their mind theyre white. Once again slavery standards. It can go and on and on bout how stupid this post is but it wont change nothing. If anything thing guys like you are the real issue. U have hate for your own sistas and half sistas but u dont realize it

 

[Wild self]

dude i been peeped game since sohh. i feel sorry for ordinary looking black american women that are checking for black dudes honestly. for them to know that in the dating game they'll never be considered as "beautiful" (by the very men they so vigorously go to bat for) as some mixed chick and will always be compared to that has gotta hurt many a feeling.

That is some simping a s s c o o n e r y. I even see that kind of simping from these pimps. Scary, I tell ya. On how many regular ass black dudes simp and sweat out some very average light skinned chick.

But if the black community is considered bad, imagine what is gonna happen when the Civil Rights generation completely dies out. This dysfunction aint shyt compares to what the future holds.

 

[BeeCityRoller]

It's amazing how women make these articles with the with the promise of "you'll be more of a man, if you do this". A black woman can have unprotected sex with multiple men, have multiple kids by raggedy men, go to the club and drop it low to degrading music, and still be considered a lady to society.

But this article proves once again the black mans masculinity is always on the line...and even if you're doing the right thing, you're not doing enough for them.

To answer the question that's being brought up: If everyone in this topic spent a few hours a week with a young brother, for a few weeks/months would it help? The short answer is "Yes"

And I don't want to downplay that impact, but I believe if those same young black boys succeed into adulthood, most of them were already on that track in the first place without said help.

Here's my counter-question though: Are those kids, and more specifically, the single-mother, ready for the truth? Because in order to make the impact people like Liggins are proposing, it goes beyond just playing basketball and taking the boy out to McDonalds.

If you're giving these boys real advice about how to succeed, and the challenges he faces as a black boy/man in America, it will open his mind even more and may change his way of thinking. Not all of that will go over well with the mother/family. What happens when this 10-year old boy actually starts making a change in his overall thinking, and his career plans because of you? Do you really think that will go over fine-and-dandy with his mom/family, just because it's net positive?

First thing some of these close-minded women will do is rip him out of the program, then tell you to stay out of his life. Some might try report you to the youth centre, a few might even accuse you of being a child molester and/or try to get the kid to lie about that. So much for putting "Big Brothers Big Sisters" on your resume.

This article makes the argument that today's up-and-coming negros now need to be a father-figure to these young black boys, I'll say it again: These 30-Year old, Masters Degree holding, single, childless black women don't even know they are contradicting themselves. I know from experience that many single mothers fear/hate anyone outside their home who is enriching their kids life/thinking that they couldn't do on their own...the same up-and-coming black men the editor of this article called for.

 

[Wild self]

It's amazing how women make these articles with the with the promise of "you'll be more of a man, if you do this". A black woman can have unprotected sex with multiple men, have multiple kids by raggedy men, go to the club and drop it low to degrading music, and still be considered a lady to society.

But this article proves once again the black mans masculinity is always on the line...and even if you're doing the right thing, you're not doing enough for them.

To answer the question that's being brought up: If everyone in this topic spent a few hours a week with a young brother, for a few weeks/months would it help? The short answer is "Yes"

And I don't want to downplay that impact, but I believe if those same young black boys succeed into adulthood, most of them were already on that track in the first place without said help.

Here's my counter-question though: Are those kids, and more specifically, the single-mother, ready for the truth? Because in order to make the impact people like Liggins are proposing, it goes beyond just playing basketball and taking the boy out to McDonalds.

If you're giving these boys real advice about how to succeed, and the challenges he faces as a black boy/man in America, it will open his mind even more and may change his way of thinking. Not all of that will go over well with the mother/family. What happens when this 10-year old boy actually starts making a change in his overall thinking, and his career plans because of you? Do you really think that will go over fine-and-dandy with his mom/family, just because it's net positive?

First thing some of these close-minded women will do is rip him out of the program, then tell you to stay out of his life. Some might try report you to the youth centre, and a few might even accuse you of being a child molester and/or try to get the kid to lie about that. So much for putting "Big Brothers Big Sisters" on your resume.

This article makes the argument that today's up-and-coming negros now need to be a father-figure to these young black boys, but I know from experience that many single mothers fear/hate anyone outside their home who is enriching their kids life/thinking that they couldn't do on their own.

People love suffering and pain cause drama = conversation. Without drama, there is nothing worthwhile for them to live for, in their minds.

 

[Mars Blackmon]

Do black people really frown upon being a family man? I knew it was bad, but not like that. White people really won.

No. Only someone who lives under a rock with no interaction with Blacks and just goes by what they hear would believe this shyt. Gotta love this place, the land of absolutes.

 

[Mars Blackmon]

It's really troubling man. In any marriage thread on here I'm truly mindblown at these "men"not running their homes and I'm not talking financially. I'm talking culturally. How do you allow your wife to get fat? The kids to get lazy and not do chores etc.etc.

You are the MAN of the house!

You set the culture!

From finances to nutrition you dictate what goes on but a good husband takes his partner considerations into account. It's apparent to me in those threads that a lot of these cats have no idea what leading is.

 

[The Nigerian]

I'd say the type of black people we're talking about in this thread have about another 50 years before they're 100% wiped out... maybe even less.

 

[Mars Blackmon]

So black women one day woke up and decided that it was to time fukk with the dregs of society?

And the fact that so many black males are conforming to a stereotype in the pursuit of p*ssy shows that they aren't leader material. A real black man with a good head on his shoulders is going to realize that he can get a woman even if he is a Braxton type and she's going to be quality. These "swagged out" nikkas are fukking hoodrats. Letting hoodrats dictate your identity? That's so demonic, friend.




And before you get upset, I'm not talking about you specifically. General terms.

It's a fukking shame that you got dudes in here basically cosigning that Black men are incapable of being leaders without even knowing it. People are saying Black women need to up their standards so Black men can do better? Are you fukking serious? What about just wanting to be a success and having nice shyt for yourself and future generations? So the ball is in the Black woman's court as to whether or not Black men will succeed? @ you nikkas that are trying to burden Black women to get Black men to do better when that should be a prime objective in the first fukking place. Can't believe dudes are ethering themselves like this

 

[Mars Blackmon]

People seem to forget that the greatest cities in history were built by MEN who wanted to impress a woman. shyt one of the most popular buildings in the world was built so a man could impress a woman. Guess which one for bonus points.

Women give men purpose. You want to make a man shut down and die? Take away his purpose. Men are measured by what they do, and everything men do is ULTIMATELY to impress women. If women went extinct and men could asexually reproduce, men wouldn't shave anymore. Men would no longer build cities. Men would be happy living in a cardboard box.

I'm not absolving men. I'm logically breaking down WHY things are the way they are.

Speak for yourself. I work and graduated from college to get a desirable mate yes, but is that my main drive? Umm, no. I just like having nice shyt

 

[Peak]

It's amazing how women make these articles with the with the promise of "you'll be more of a man, if you do this". A black woman can have unprotected sex with multiple men, have multiple kids by raggedy men, go to the club and drop it low to degrading music, and still be considered a lady to society.

But this article proves once again the black mans masculinity is always on the line...and even if you're doing the right thing, you're not doing enough for them.

To answer the question that's being brought up: If everyone in this topic spent a few hours a week with a young brother, for a few weeks/months would it help? The short answer is "Yes"

And I don't want to downplay that impact, but I believe if those same young black boys succeed into adulthood, most of them were already on that track in the first place without said help.

Here's my counter-question though: Are those kids, and more specifically, the single-mother, ready for the truth? Because in order to make the impact people like Liggins are proposing, it goes beyond just playing basketball and taking the boy out to McDonalds.

If you're giving these boys real advice about how to succeed, and the challenges he faces as a black boy/man in America, it will open his mind even more and may change his way of thinking. Not all of that will go over well with the mother/family. What happens when this 10-year old boy actually starts making a change in his overall thinking, and his career plans because of you? Do you really think that will go over fine-and-dandy with his mom/family, just because it's net positive?

First thing some of these close-minded women will do is rip him out of the program, then tell you to stay out of his life. Some might try report you to the youth centre, a few might even accuse you of being a child molester and/or try to get the kid to lie about that. So much for putting "Big Brothers Big Sisters" on your resume.

This article makes the argument that today's up-and-coming negros now need to be a father-figure to these young black boys, I'll say it again: These 30-Year old, Masters Degree holding, single, childless black women don't even know they are contradicting themselves. I know from experience that many single mothers fear/hate anyone outside their home who is enriching their kids life/thinking that they couldn't do on their own...the same up-and-coming black men the editor of this article called for.

:shake:

 

[Peruvian Connect]

Don't know if it's been said, but alot of these niglets do have mentors. It's just that they are scumbags.

 

[Ghostface Trillah]

I mentored kids for a few years. Some of the shyt I've seen and went though. I wouldn't even know where to start. Too many stories of stupidity and ratchetness and the majority of it was from the parents who were mostly single moms.

I wouldn't blame anyone for not wanting to be a mentor or try to guilt/pressure anyone like that letter but you can make a positive influence in some of the kids lives and prevent a kid or two from ending up like member of chief keefs crew.

A lot of post in this thread seem to be punishing the child because he has horrible parents. Nobody picks their parents,you just get stuck with them. Mentoring kids and unaccountable parents are two different things.

 

[DaChampIsHere]

I could be straight up DEAD and the same nikkas who are always dropping my screen name would still be doing so, in the middle of the night thinkin' 'bout me even though I'm a troll/they have me on ignore, while I'm kickin' it heavy with my lady.

No one man should all that power

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Mentorship, dedicated mentorship, is one of the biggest tools that can be used to help repair the black community. Yes women make bad decisions, but at some point we have to stop complaining about the past decisions, and start taking actions on them to better the community. If action is not your thing as a man, no biggie, but you should follow that woman who is about action though, because she's a leader and no person can say they are a leader if they'd prefer whining and complaining to actually putting in work.. As men we always say that there's nothing worse that a woman who complains and bickers, but has no tangible ideas/suggestions to help solve the problem. It's equally annoying when men do such as well.

Good mentorship is one of the greatest feelings in the world. On the receiving and giving end. I still have mentors who guide me and encourage me and then I pass that knowledge down to my mentees and hopefully they pass that down to their's. It's kind of like creative a fraternal legacy outside of your own blood line and feels great on both ends, because nobody had to, but everybody wanted to. That's great.

What the fukk does 'blame' do to you tangibly in your daily life that it boils you nikkas blood so much? May as well admit its because you nikkas don't get attention from women and KIM, because nobody is buying that shyt. You don't get this involved in issues that supposedly don't effect you unless something else is at play.

The same dudes you see in here complaining are ALWAYS complaining, you'll even find them in the rejection thread talking about how they still haven't mastered getting over such. You'll find them in other threads talking about how they are still afraid to approach women. You'll find them in other threads looking for advice on women. These dudes show all of the signs of no success with women, that's why they are always speaking on them.

Picture this:
A bunch of 'leaders' who need the people who they want to follow them to 'let them' lead
A bunch of 'leaders' who are imploring the people who they want to follow them to set an example for them on how they should behave
A bunch of 'leaders' who promote and salute all the negative values they complain about

That's how I know you dudes who create these threads and put everything on women were raised by single mothers. Your fathers could have never taught you that the shyt yall spout is how a man should think. nikkas walking around with viewpoints that show they don't have a leadership bone in their body but stay talking about how natural it is for them

That's the main problem with these nikkas. They will talk about how black men should be the leaders, but exhibit no responsibility or action of leaders.

How can you be a leader blaming your followers?
How can you be a leader when you can't convince your followers to follow you?
How can you be a leader when you are waiting for your followers to get right and then you take action after them?

A bunch of oxymoronic, contradictory ideals. It will only take so much time before these same people complaining realize that they are actually the weaker men of society and kill their gene pool off hopefully.

 

[ROFL_GUY]